Morality...

I have been thinking tonight, about Morals.

We all set standards for ourselves, in life, in all areas of life... that define what we are afraid, or not afraid to do. We all have a moral that we choose to preach, but this moral is seldom the one that we practise. The moral we practise is usually the one we choose not to be preached.

Should we go on the date with the sugar daddy who is married? Should we let him into our beds, into our thoughts and into our lives. Or should we shun him because he is married, on that basis alone?

Should we enjoy out sugar encounters, if we ourselves have other engagements, other lovers, other boyfriends of our own?

Should we tell a small lie, about our name, where we live, who we are with, where that gift came from?

These are just a few moral issues that creep up on our conscious during sugar dating. Whether you let that put you off, or go ahead, what ever decision is made - that is personal and I think neither is wrong or right.... But everybody has there own morals, and own guides. What is right for one person, is wrong for another. I believe that to pass judgement on someone else, is worse than anything else.

I am not saying we should be immoral, and do bad, unjust, unlawful things. I am not saying you should do something that would place someones life at risk, or your own.

But what I am saying is that I 'put a pin' on certain things, and place them on that sweet notice board in my mind. There they are, a reminder I will never forget, and a guide for me to follow, but not a dictator of my life.

Each circumstance you might find yourself in is entirely different to anyone elses. And therefore how can one rule - for everybody - be right?

What moment might you miss out on when you let it get in the way?

"Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality.Be not simply good; be good for something."
Henry David Thoreau

Dreams...

I have been in L.A for a few days, I just got back to the UK last night and I'm jet lagged!

In L.A I spent a lot of time relaxing, I went to get my nails done (clear natural gel which I have since painted with a nude glitter, and one corner of my thumb nail fell off already, crappy L.A nail salon :-)

I went shopping a little, bought a few nice things from forever 21 and the little boutiques I love to visit when I'm over there. I enjoyed the sunshine, and then in was time to fly home again.

Ive been thinking about the next year a lot, and I have many plans. I am so full of dreams and aspirations, my ambitions never stop growing. I always want to improve my self, my knowledge. I plan on making as many of my dreams come true over the next year, and I know that i can do it. I also know I cant do all of this in one year, I'm not superwoman, but il give it my best shot!

My to do list 1010:

• Learn to fly a light aircraft



• Start a degree



• Learn Chinese



• Have a steady sugar relationship



• Live back in London
  

Many of them are personal goals, not at all sugar related... but I know the sugar dating will help me to get there faster and with ease. And I love it. Plus, I'm kind of bored of being single, I really just want one guy to focus all this attention on right now....

Speaking of Sugar, I have a little date soon. Don't want to update too much but I will update after with good news..............

I have only had one day at home and tomorrow I'm going again to South Africa, I'm going to get my teeth whitened there which I'm looking forward to. Ive been working out lots to look good for my date, and I'm hoping that will add an extra sparkle!

Baby Bow xx

Looking for Apartments... A candy house!

Hello my sweeties,
I hope everyone is well!
This week I have decided I should move back to London, Ive wanted to do it for a little while now and I'm ready for it I think. I suppose it will be 100000 times easier to date, and see a SD regularly, plus I'm meeting all my potentials there anyway so its the place to be, the sugar capital!

So I've been looking on gum tree and Craig's list and I have two girl friends who want to move too, il keep you updated on that front! While I have been looking Ive been taking a cheeky glance at the 'above my price range' property's, oh how I long to live on the kings road! One day Kings road... one day my friend :-)

Ive also been chatting a little more to Mr Big, who I mentioned in a previous update to my blog. He is living out in NY and spends some time each month in London, well I googled him a little more and he is a major CEO. Good news.
Bad news is he is a little upfront. He wants to fly me out to NY and have me spend some time with him 'seeing how he lives' (It was that or the choice of a week at a beach spa resort) he owns shares in a well known nightclub and wants to take me there for a night out, shopping, etc. Mentions sex pretty often - as all SD's seem to do at the moment...

I mentioned id prefer, if he flew me out, to have my own hotel room booked for piece of mind and in case we don't get on, he seemed pretty shocked at this and told me he was quite offended that I don't respect how honorable he is.

I came to the conclusion - I will fly to NY with work if i can, have one night there in OCT where we can meet for dinner, meaning il have my flights and hotel booked so its better for me and he can remain as stubborn as he likes. Then, if we get along, he can fly me out the following week and I will stay with him once I feel I know him better.
I don't want to blow him out of the water just yet as I think he is major SD material. Big prospective Sugar Daddy.

I have been enjoying reading everyone's blogs, and

http://sugarcookiebaby.blogspot.com/'Sugar is Sweet' I wanted to comment on your last post but somehow it wont let me... so I am here...

I think you should give car guy a try - but tell him exactly what you said to us in your blog. Straight up. If you don't want to say it to his face, email it or text whatever, just say that to him. He will appreciate your honesty - and lets be honest your right on the money there (or not as it may be!) why would you want to spoil him by spending time with him if he A: doesn't spoil you B: wouldn't date you as your 'too young' C: wants to see how 'good the sex is!' first. So what do you gain out of that tediousness - nothing???

Tell him and the worst that can happen is he doesn't take it well, you will have lost nothing but gained time you may have other wise wasted. And then you can tell him bye!

Have a great weekend

Love from Baby bow x

Shopping Courtesy of Mr Showbiz...Allowance

Hey Everyone!
Ive had such a great weekend, and last few days. Firstly I had to go to China with work which was just amazing, had the best time! After a lot of dim sum and two major long flights I was feeling pretty Jet lagged... and there is one thing that takes that jet lag feeling and replaces it with excitement and butterfly's and sparkles! Shopping!

And it just so happened, that as I landed back I had a cheeky little message from my Mr Showbiz, inviting me to go see him. I told him my plans where to go shopping and invited him along. He would have loved to have come shopping with me, I'm like me too then you can pay! The time wasn't right to take my shopping, so we spent an hour or so together which was nice, he is so lovely. Then at the end, he tells me he is excited to see me again... and hands me a little envelope with some allowance in so I can shop myself which is peerrrrrrrrrrfect!

So for the past few days I have been shop shop shopping. I never thought id say this but I'm shopped out. First I got some new ugg boots, I love being all cosy in them in autumn and winter, so I picked up a gorgeous short grey pair which are just so cute! I picked up a pair for my sister and mother too.
I got myself some new Louboutins, there really cute. High black with the red sole, peep toe, and a red panel at the front which matches the sole...so hot!

Now for the most amazing thing ever, I swear I have that object affection thing where people fall in love with their car and fairground rides, you know that weird object fetish! Well I am absolutely in LOVE with this, its beautiful. Its a Thomas Wylde clutch bag, in cracked black leather, the leather is divine its smells amazing, its so soft! I keep taking it out of its little sleeping bag and looking at it, I'm scared to use it! Its really slouchy and has these Swarovski Chystal skulls ....ahhhhhhhhhh. Its Love.

So I probably should have saved some money, but i like shopping too much. And you know what, the jet lag is so so so over! :-)

kisses, Baby Bow x

A post for Candy Girl... And Sugar food for thought for all of us...

I have just read Candy Girls new posts, and something I read made me think twice. Mr Culture. He mentioned to her that she may be ruined by sugar. How could she live with it? Tell the story? Be sucked in?

I have been asked the same thing in the past, and I feel quite passionate about it, so here is my answer to Mr Culture for Candy Girl...

Are we letting ourselfs down being Sugar Babys?

Its true to some, but not all. Its relevant, but only if your playing the sugar game for the wrong reasons. Do we just want $£? Do we just want hard cash? Are we giving up our morals, lowering our standards? Loosing ourselves? I think not.

We are sugar baby's. We want more. We enjoy the company of a mature, more experienced man. We thrive off their ambition, their drive becomes are own. 'Rich' is a culture, and we want to experience it.

I think the lesson Candy Girls Mr culture was trying to teach her was a lesson for escorts or prostitutes. They get into a situation they may not be happy in - but the hard £$ keeps them there, it locks them in, it wont let go. They loose the morals they had before, they see men in a different light (mainly as they see so many men, many being married) They loose trust, they find it hard to adapt and have their own relationships. They want to stop, but they already have a lifestyle that needs that £$, it needs to be fed. They wonder if there is any going back...

A sugar baby wants more. She wants a man, one man, who will care for her, make her feel beautiful, they will laugh and have fun together, so many of the good times will not be sexual. The sexual times will be amazing, and it will not take away - only add to the relationship. She will be introduced to other successful people, she will mix in different circles. She will see parts of the world she may not have seen before, she will meet people she may never have met. She is wiser, and stronger, and of course she has prettier shoes and better savings, but that is only a small part of her role. She has so many amazing storys to tell her grandchildren not hide from them. She is taking control of her life, and she is making the decisions. She may have met this man 'naturally' in a bar, or on a website such as SD.com.... because she knows what she wants.

I had a sugar daddy before, and this is what I had. I don't have a solid one right now, and I don't feel like I have 'lost' a part of myself. I have more of myself than ever. Shiny attracts Shiny, if your rich you attract rich. Its the 'Law of attraction'. The more time you spend with a sugar daddy, the more money you have, the more you attract.

Just because we have stayed at some of the most exclusive resorts in the world, just because we have traveled first class, just because we own some Chanel and have been picked up in Bentley's, just because we have been to a Michelin star restaurant, drank Dom Perignon and ate lobster, just because we have sat in the sun on a five star beach feeling the rays warm our skin..... doesn't mean we don't appreciate everything in our lifes.

I appreciate a day in my local town as much as Dubai, a purse from Topshop, being picked up by my best friends in their white work van with a cracked window, sitting in a pub on a Sunday drinking beer and eating crisps, or sitting in a park with friends in the sun feeling the rays warm our skin.

When Mr Culture suggested that Candy Girl get 'sucked in' he didn't consider that she was being 'sucked' into a good place. Look at socialites, royalty, well off family's who mix in posh circles. These people attract others the same as themselves, they are not 'sucked' into a life of crime and violence. You are not being 'sucked' into a life of drugs. Your enjoying being in a position of the good life.

I think, on the other hand, if you play the sugar game differently then Mr Culture is very right. If you do lower your standard, see that potential for a second date even though you didn't feel that spark, sleep with him even though he isn't what you want, you will loose a part of yourself, that is because money, no matter how much, doesn't make up for things you will regret, things that you cant take back or forget.

This is why, fellow sugar baby's, we are NOT escorts, we are not prostitutes. We are dating, regular dating. But we choose to date wealthy men.

And when all is said and done, everyone dates. Even Mr Culture.

Love always,

Baby Bow x x

Bow on Facebook...

I'm absolutely loving reading every ones posts at the moment, I always keep updated with the blogs that I follow, and I think all of the Sugar baby's seem really beautiful inside and out.

Its very interesting imagining what everyone looks like, its a great idea so I thought I would do my own... So, ladies and gentleman... this is Bow.

Petite at 5'3 and a half (that half an inch is very important!), blonde hair, naturally just past my shoulder but with extensions under breast length. I like it baby blonde, and blown out, big hair is best - the higher the hair the closer to heaven! I use raccoon extensions which I love, in two shades of pale blonde and always wear it wavy.

My style, it depends on the occasion. When I'm chilling out or traveling I like to be comfy, so I wear Juicy Couture sweats, Pink by Victoria's Secret (VS COME TO THE UK ALREADY!!!) I like CC California, E.vil tees, Kitson in L.A, I shop online at ASOS.com, I want to be able to shop at NET A PORTER.... ;-) I love Havaianas flip flops, and I like Abercrombie jeans. So I'm pretty laid back in the day. Im a great beliver that everything should sparkle... personality, looks, hair, diamonds, shoes, if it glitters its mine!

For night its always a little dress from Topshop, Asos, Bebe, Gorgeous Couture.com, all saints, and heels either my Christian Loubutins although I would love some more, Aldo, or Kert Geiger. I like major high heels, gladiators, and cute dresses. I love clutch bags and I have a Chanel black 2.55 bag which I love it just goes with everything! It has a red lining and is just perfect.

Body wise I am a size 10-12 UK, I try to work out but I need to more, I'm lucky as I have a very small waist and bigger hips which gives me an hourglass shape no matter what my weight. Ideally I would like to loose about a stone, and be a little more toned.

I like to be tanned, I have olive skin so lucky for me it doesn't take much sun for me to get darker. The sun is evil and I do not want wrinkles so I have a weekly St Tropez spray tan, and catch up on rays while I am away in hotter climates!

I get told I look like Holly Willoughby (An English T.V presenter) and Jennifer Ellison (A British glamour model for all you US baby's) all the time, The girl in the above picture is Holly Willoughby.

I'm loving the Facebook idea so I have created one...

Just search for 'Sugarbaby Bow' or use this email address - myaccount74@hotmail.co.uk to find me.

let me know if you want to join with a message and your sugar baby profile name....
Il be putting my baby bow picture as my profile pic, and inside my profile all pictures of myself on sugar hunts ;-) with my past sugar daddy's, my gifts, trips away etc. I'm also going to post some of my potentials up, because why the hell not they cant see so what they don't know wont hurt them! I also think we should 'blacklist' the bad daddies, because lets be honest there are many of them around.

So for now that's all, I'm going to post again later with some more updates, and a sugary little plan I have!

Love for now, Baby Bow x

OMG - So many Potentials!

I have to admit I was hating on SD.com a little bit, but oh my goodness in the last 24 hours I have made quite a few potentials!

Il introduce them now,

Mr Ingocnito - Named so because I am yet to see a picture.
Seems good so far, 40, dont know too much about him, he is playing his cards close to that millionaires chest of his. We are meeting for drinks in Londons Dorchester hotel. He has agreed on my allowence, so thats a good start in my eyes.

Mr Big - Big money maker, Big guy, Big Wallet. living between London and NY, has asked to fly me out to NY, is happy with allowence, now im waiting to see if he pulls through.

They are the two best of the bunch, although I have been speaking to a few more who seem worth a drink or two.

Mr Showbiz and I had a little misunderstanding today, over something completley stupid that was all his own fault - not mine of course! - but I think that will be ok. We seem to have made up (he thought I told him I lived somewhere that I dont, and I would never say that as I dont even know the place he is talking about - so he either had me mixed up or maybe its old age :-D )

On the subject of Mr Showbiz, I added him on facebook and to my delight he is the daddy of all sugardaddys, his house is a m a z i n g. He drives a Bentley too. His house, OMG, its just like a mansion - in London!

Ive been looking through Net a porter this afternoon, just loving the dresses and shoes, I so want me some of those. Look at these shoes I have put up top, these are some things I want. And il get them...

Love always and forever, Baby Bow x

Having a think...

eeeek eeeek eeeek I'm feeling a little bit nervous, and I need a little motivation from some fellow sugar baby's...

So Mr Showbiz wants to meet on Friday, he wants me to get the train from where I live to just outside of London, where he will pick me up, and take me out. He lives in central London, and I feel pretty safe about it just because he is so well known and also because I have been in contact with him for over a year so he seems very genuine.

The one thing that I cannot put my finger on is how old he is.... I don't want to ask, I think its a little rude and it hasn't naturally come up in conversation just yet. Hmmmm. I think he looks late 40's to early 50's, but I read a magazine article that says he is 60? If he is 60 I want a piece of his surgeon because he has almost defiantly had some work done!

The other thing that is putting me off is I am still not clear on what il be getting out of this. He has said he has good feelings about us, and if we get on there could be plenty of fun opportunities for us (I'm reading long term allowance's etc) and he asked me previously if I like gifts, money etc..

Silly question, I said money is important to me but what girl doesn't like gifts :-) and he told me we are definitely on the same page.... so I'm assuming some temporary allowance would be offered to me the first time that I spend with him.

The next reason is that I am actually not in London at the moment, but around 2 hours away. If I came down to spend Friday with Mr Showbiz, I would have to stay around all weekend as I fly very early Sunday morning for work - going home in between would be exhausting.

So all in all, I may use this week to get more information out of Mr Showbiz, and then set up a new date with him next week. While I'm in town, I may date more potentials from Sugar Daddies.com - I wonder how much sugar one girl can have all in one day?!

Love, Baby Bow x

After the uhoh - Mr Showbiz continued

So after the little oopsie with the two identical named daddy's, I actually succeeded in getting in touch with Mr showbiz, finally!

My blackberry buzzed with the incoming message, just seconds after I had sent it. The message contained an invitation to one of the best party's I had ever been invited to. A private party in St Tropez, with one of the most A list, amazing, absolute legend of a singer in the entire universe. I don't want to say their name, as Mr Showbiz only invited about 100 people, and you never know who could be reading this... But lets just say he is probably the most famous singer on earth. OMG. So he had booked him for his party, and I was invited. Mr Showbiz said I could either book my own flight out to him with his credit card, or that I could let him book it for me.

I had a little problemo, which was that on the same date, even though I was off work I was planning on going to see someone in South Africa. It had been planned for a month or so, and I really couldn't let them down, plus I was really looking forward to spending the weekend with them.

So I had to let Mr Showbiz, and the major star or stars down. No matter, the best thing is this just shows me how influential and interesting he is, and the fact he wanted to book me a ticket over is major impressive.

Now that he is back in London, we plan on meeting this Friday. I'm not 100% sure what we will be doing yet, I'm waiting on his phone call later tonight.

I'm a little nervous, but hopefully we will get along and have a lot of fun.... plus i hope that il come away with something the first time, just to show he is serious.

Oh and Ive rejoined Sugar Daddie.com, I kind of took my profile down but I decided to rejoin. I got loads of e-mails right away, but I find it a little strange. There are loads of guys on there I recognise from ages ago so it seems like the same people all over again. Then Its called SUGAR DADDIE.COM and yet loads of guys profiles are like ' I am not looking for a sugar daddy relationship' DUHHH what are you doing on here?! Go to MATCH.COM!!!! :-)

But you never know, some good may come from it so why not is what I say.

Love every ones comments, I sometimes wonder if I'm the only one who reads what I put! So its great to see I have some followers and I love reading every one of your sugar blogs and following your progress. In reply to Jess Bunny and a few other comments and e-mails, I have made a post about me and my job and stuff. For some reason (because I started it ages ago and never published it) its really down the list even though its new.

Love always, Baby Bow xx