Bow the real life barbie... Mr Date D.O.A

Fellow Sugars,

I have been dealt quite a blow this morning, by Mr date, naturally. But first, I will give you a little background information. Just so you can appreciate quite how shocking this is.

Since my last post, things went from bad, to perfect with Mr Date. We were in constant contact, initiated by him, from the first goodmorning to the last goodnight. We had spoken every day on the phone for the last week, planned a trip away together, laughed and enjoyed the thought of seeing each other again. Apologies had been made, and an ultimatum given.

I had explained to Mr Date that whilst I was waiting for him to get his act together, this had wasted about 2 months of my sugar search. I wanted to know when/where/how an allowance was to start - he called me once I had sent this message - I was shopping in New York at the time.

'Lets see each other Monday darling, and we can start from there, I promise'

I gave Mr Date a chance to back out if he had cold feet. I explained that i wouldn't be mad, but there must have been a reason for all these excuses and let downs. If he wasn't sure about what he wanted, he could just say. He replied ' I want you, and only you. 100%' something along those lines, he had his chance to exit the dignified way and he stuck.

So I spent the rest of my week excited at the thought, it was really happening! We were to see each other on Monday and the arrangement was to start

We planned on meeting for this lunch time - today..... as in a few hours time. I was to meet him on the corner of Sloan Square, and we would go to an exclusive restaurant I had told him I liked. After, we would enjoy each other and spend the afternoon at a hotel he was booked into and later I planned on meeting fellow sugar baby blogger Honey Baby (Honey Baby introduced myself and Mr date, so we planned to meet as he told me he would like to take us both out in the future to thank her for our meeting - in Paris he suggested!!)

I have to be honest, I had a feeling something wasn't quite right. Not only for the obvious fact he had let me down one too many times, but the way in which he acted and spoke. He would go from hot to cold, constantly, one moment nothing at all, and the next sending me message after message ' I miss you' - 'I could fall in love with you' 'I like you so so much' 'I want this to be a long and lasting relationship'...

A little while ago Mr Date had mentioned a skin care product that is only sold now in the USA, as it was discontinued in the UK. He asked me if I ever saw it on my trips to pick some up for him. Whilst in NYC I came across this product, by Keilhs, and decided to buy him some as a gift. I think sometimes its nice to show you can give a little gift too, and in most cases I still think that this is a great idea. Turn the tables a little bit. Show how you can care/listen/surprise too!

Yesterday, I spent the day with my father. Mr Date text me to ask me what I was doing, and I told him ' I'm spending the day with my father at his golf club' He told me id have a great time and continued to text me all day and all night, hot not cold, promising the next day would happen.

Then I woke up this morning. I cant say I was full of excitement, because lets be honest after the 7th let down even the most positive sugar baby in the world would have had apprehension's. My phone bleeped, and I saw the message on my screen. This was it.

(by the way i wouldn't usually post an exact message but seeing as Mr date has acted with no consideration for my feelings or shown any respect I cannot see one reason why I shouldn't)

'Baby Bow, after mentioning your day with your father yesterday who I suspect is younger than me I cant go ahead with this I'm sorry. You are a very beautiful young lady with a delightful personality but too young. I know you are going to hate me for this and suspect I have been messing you around. I haven't. Its taking considerable resolve to come to this decision. I must be mad but that's how it is. I will delete your details and not bother you again, please don't reply. Take care and I wish you every success for the future. Goodbye x x x x x '

OMG FML. - Oh yes Mr date, I wont reply to that. You have just wasted two months of my life I wont get back, but Il honor you with the silence of your phone not alerting you of any further correspondence from me. You may speak about you wife/children all you like, but I may never mention my own family... AS IF.

So I replied.

'For future reference, if your going to 'like' a young woman and ask her to send you pictures of herself, call her mobile while she is over seas numerous times, ask her to call you, arrange then re arrange then cancel dates at least once a week, expect her to be exclusive to you during this time, initiate sexual messages, take into consideration the work she has missed whilst trying to be available for you, the preparation of looking good for you each time, and the respect and patience she has shown you... the least, and I mean very least, you could do was to take her for planned lunch and chat about this face to face. A text does not suffice.

I know this at 22, I wonder how at 55 you missed it? I think i have been naive, and you are most likely not what you seemed.'

So there you have it, myself and Mr date. Over before it started. Dead on arrival.

I'm also going to take a picture of the gift I bought him, which he knows about, and e-mail it to him. I'm not sure why, I just think that would make me feel better! If he was a good man he would compensate me for all this time spent and gifts etc.... but I know that would not happen.

So ladies, who did Mr Date think I was? Did he think I was from the sugar baby garden, grown from a seed, ageless and frozen in time for him to pick and use at his will? Did he think a stork flew over London, dropped me off, and left me to fend for myself? Did he believe I was a real life barbie, born of no parents, just packaged up for him by mattel?

What ever Mr date thought, he thought wrong. Men like him are ten a penny, and I can have another him in a minute :-) Except I don't want another him, I want a real man.

So there you have it, goodbye Mr Date. It was a bother having you. But I learnt some lessons and I have picked myself back up, re adjusted my tutu, shook up my hair, and dusted off the louboutins.

Watch out boys!!!!!!!!!!

Love always, Baby Bow x x x

Blogs I like to read...

Thank you so much to Chicago Sugar Baby @ http://chicagosugarbaby.blogspot.com for your link and saying my blog is a favorite - so sweet and I love to hear that people read and enjoy my blog, thanks! :-)

So I thought id compile my own little list, to be honest I love all of the blogs I follow and i get so excited to read new posts - for the days I have doing sugarless things, i can read these blogs and get my daily take of sugar! Oh and I cant do those link things....hmmm.

I heart :

Jess Baby @ living the sugar daddy life style http://sugardaddylifestyle.blogspot.com/

This was the first blog I ever came across when I started sugar dating. Id had a sugar daddy for a while, with a great allowance (although I didn't realise I was a 'sugar baby' at the time....note:I just realised of all the posts Ive never actually gone into my past sugar daddy in any detail at all! Il make sure I post that pretty soon!!) and when I read Jess's blog I realised - that's what the term was! And I loved reading her lifestyle and what she would buy and her tips were fabulous. Still love it but a little less posts than before, and we are so all crossing our fingers for her to find Daddy #2!

Chicago Sugar Baby @ http://chicagosugarbaby.blogspot.com/

I love how detailed and real her posts always are, I love Chicago and I like hearing of the places she gets to go to with her potentials, and how detailed her dates are (love hearing how dates went and what people wore etc!) I like how she always has some major contenders on the go and she doesn't settle for any less than she is worth - very important and very cool.

I also love her cute posts about fashion and things she likes to buy, there are always new posts to read and little cliff hangers so I'm intrigued ;-)

Sandie @ Aiming High

I love Sandie's posts about her sugar daddy dates and her potentials, it always makes me smile and she has a cute perspective on things. I like the messages she puts on from dates and e-mails and the detail of her potentail sugar daddy's. I also think she seems interesting aside from the sugar daddy stuff and you can always rely on an update! I HEART UPDATES!

I also enjoy reading Honey Baby's blog - I want more updates, tell us all what happened next and more about your new SD dean :-)

To be honest with you there are not any I hate, or why would I follow them, so by me following them - I heart them too! And I always, always read them for my sugar fix!

I also read a few fashion blogs, Belle De Jours (dairy of a call girl, made into a book now) and a few other random ones that I have come across.

I'm going to post again soon, as i've had an absolute sugar filled to the brim sugary sugar rush of a day!

Sugar Love, Baby Bow x x

How could I improve?

I'm just at home laid in bed, after a busy week of hard work, eating coco pops and updating myself on all the girls blogs, which I love. I'm so glad to see a few of us are getting closer to what we want, and I just love reading the exciting lead up to it all....

I always like to improve, so i was wondering ... what would make my blog more enjoyable/informative/funny/etc what would you like to see less, or more of? Would you like to see more stuff on facebook, like pictures of gifts, more details?

I was thinking, even if no one ever read my blog id still write it. For me its kind of like a little diary, sometimes my posts are a little random, and by reading it back I kind of learn more... do you feel like that about your blogs also?

I'm feeling a little unsure about my sugar search. I really feel like I have found two major contenders in Mr Showbiz and Mr.... hmmm just realised I haven't named him yet, il call him Mr date for now as I'm still eager to get one!

They are both very real, generous, the sugar grail as Chicago Sugar Baby says :-)and I know they are looking for what I am looking for. With them id get more of an allowance than I ever really thought id possibly get, and that's what I'm aiming for now. Its just getting the ball rolling, seems so hard?

So I may remove my profiles from the sites I'm currently on, for a few reasons. One, as I can concentrate on these two, and be more available for them. I want to get fitter, hotter and harder so I feel my absolute best, which of course will bode very well for them too. If nothing comes I can then go back to the sugar sites, with a new profile, new pictures and a new outlook. You always find when you put up a new profile you get like a million and one thousand messages don't you, and I like starting a new.

So my friends, that is the plan. I'm going to post pictures of my personal 'hotness goal' haha on facebook to spur myself on ;-)

Love from Bow xx

Looking for Apartments... A candy house!

Hello my sweeties,
I hope everyone is well!
This week I have decided I should move back to London, Ive wanted to do it for a little while now and I'm ready for it I think. I suppose it will be 100000 times easier to date, and see a SD regularly, plus I'm meeting all my potentials there anyway so its the place to be, the sugar capital!

So I've been looking on gum tree and Craig's list and I have two girl friends who want to move too, il keep you updated on that front! While I have been looking Ive been taking a cheeky glance at the 'above my price range' property's, oh how I long to live on the kings road! One day Kings road... one day my friend :-)

Ive also been chatting a little more to Mr Big, who I mentioned in a previous update to my blog. He is living out in NY and spends some time each month in London, well I googled him a little more and he is a major CEO. Good news.
Bad news is he is a little upfront. He wants to fly me out to NY and have me spend some time with him 'seeing how he lives' (It was that or the choice of a week at a beach spa resort) he owns shares in a well known nightclub and wants to take me there for a night out, shopping, etc. Mentions sex pretty often - as all SD's seem to do at the moment...

I mentioned id prefer, if he flew me out, to have my own hotel room booked for piece of mind and in case we don't get on, he seemed pretty shocked at this and told me he was quite offended that I don't respect how honorable he is.

I came to the conclusion - I will fly to NY with work if i can, have one night there in OCT where we can meet for dinner, meaning il have my flights and hotel booked so its better for me and he can remain as stubborn as he likes. Then, if we get along, he can fly me out the following week and I will stay with him once I feel I know him better.
I don't want to blow him out of the water just yet as I think he is major SD material. Big prospective Sugar Daddy.

I have been enjoying reading everyone's blogs, and

http://sugarcookiebaby.blogspot.com/'Sugar is Sweet' I wanted to comment on your last post but somehow it wont let me... so I am here...

I think you should give car guy a try - but tell him exactly what you said to us in your blog. Straight up. If you don't want to say it to his face, email it or text whatever, just say that to him. He will appreciate your honesty - and lets be honest your right on the money there (or not as it may be!) why would you want to spoil him by spending time with him if he A: doesn't spoil you B: wouldn't date you as your 'too young' C: wants to see how 'good the sex is!' first. So what do you gain out of that tediousness - nothing???

Tell him and the worst that can happen is he doesn't take it well, you will have lost nothing but gained time you may have other wise wasted. And then you can tell him bye!

Have a great weekend

Love from Baby bow x