A post for Candy Girl... And Sugar food for thought for all of us...

I have just read Candy Girls new posts, and something I read made me think twice. Mr Culture. He mentioned to her that she may be ruined by sugar. How could she live with it? Tell the story? Be sucked in?

I have been asked the same thing in the past, and I feel quite passionate about it, so here is my answer to Mr Culture for Candy Girl...

Are we letting ourselfs down being Sugar Babys?

Its true to some, but not all. Its relevant, but only if your playing the sugar game for the wrong reasons. Do we just want $£? Do we just want hard cash? Are we giving up our morals, lowering our standards? Loosing ourselves? I think not.

We are sugar baby's. We want more. We enjoy the company of a mature, more experienced man. We thrive off their ambition, their drive becomes are own. 'Rich' is a culture, and we want to experience it.

I think the lesson Candy Girls Mr culture was trying to teach her was a lesson for escorts or prostitutes. They get into a situation they may not be happy in - but the hard £$ keeps them there, it locks them in, it wont let go. They loose the morals they had before, they see men in a different light (mainly as they see so many men, many being married) They loose trust, they find it hard to adapt and have their own relationships. They want to stop, but they already have a lifestyle that needs that £$, it needs to be fed. They wonder if there is any going back...

A sugar baby wants more. She wants a man, one man, who will care for her, make her feel beautiful, they will laugh and have fun together, so many of the good times will not be sexual. The sexual times will be amazing, and it will not take away - only add to the relationship. She will be introduced to other successful people, she will mix in different circles. She will see parts of the world she may not have seen before, she will meet people she may never have met. She is wiser, and stronger, and of course she has prettier shoes and better savings, but that is only a small part of her role. She has so many amazing storys to tell her grandchildren not hide from them. She is taking control of her life, and she is making the decisions. She may have met this man 'naturally' in a bar, or on a website such as SD.com.... because she knows what she wants.

I had a sugar daddy before, and this is what I had. I don't have a solid one right now, and I don't feel like I have 'lost' a part of myself. I have more of myself than ever. Shiny attracts Shiny, if your rich you attract rich. Its the 'Law of attraction'. The more time you spend with a sugar daddy, the more money you have, the more you attract.

Just because we have stayed at some of the most exclusive resorts in the world, just because we have traveled first class, just because we own some Chanel and have been picked up in Bentley's, just because we have been to a Michelin star restaurant, drank Dom Perignon and ate lobster, just because we have sat in the sun on a five star beach feeling the rays warm our skin..... doesn't mean we don't appreciate everything in our lifes.

I appreciate a day in my local town as much as Dubai, a purse from Topshop, being picked up by my best friends in their white work van with a cracked window, sitting in a pub on a Sunday drinking beer and eating crisps, or sitting in a park with friends in the sun feeling the rays warm our skin.

When Mr Culture suggested that Candy Girl get 'sucked in' he didn't consider that she was being 'sucked' into a good place. Look at socialites, royalty, well off family's who mix in posh circles. These people attract others the same as themselves, they are not 'sucked' into a life of crime and violence. You are not being 'sucked' into a life of drugs. Your enjoying being in a position of the good life.

I think, on the other hand, if you play the sugar game differently then Mr Culture is very right. If you do lower your standard, see that potential for a second date even though you didn't feel that spark, sleep with him even though he isn't what you want, you will loose a part of yourself, that is because money, no matter how much, doesn't make up for things you will regret, things that you cant take back or forget.

This is why, fellow sugar baby's, we are NOT escorts, we are not prostitutes. We are dating, regular dating. But we choose to date wealthy men.

And when all is said and done, everyone dates. Even Mr Culture.

Love always,

Baby Bow x x