The Big A - Allowence discussions!

I thought id do a post on the big A and how to...

• Work out what you need/want
• Consider how to use it
• Choose how to recieve it
  

I admit I'm not particularly an expert, but I usually am confident enough to strike up this conversation, and I know how to read men and give them that kick up the butt they usually need! I also thought it would be an interesting post, as everyone has different views and tips, so please feel free to share your own in a post or in my comments. If we all share our tips, we will be a new breed of super baby's! :D

Deciding the how, when and what with regards to your allowance or monetary gifts usually comes naturally, as you know yourself what would help. This is personal and will vary from Sugar baby to Sugar baby.

The How...

There are several ways you can arrange the monthly or weekly allowance. Some ways include -

• Prepaid Credit Card - You have a set amount, no 'overdraft', can withdraw at ATMs
  
• Credit Card - A credit card in your name on your Sugar Daddy's account


• Cash - Old fashioned brown (pink?) envelope full of spondoolies


• Electronic - PayPal or similar

My favorite way is a Pre Paid Credit Card. Reasons being, Obviously cash is simple, BUT this can be problematic - it can seem too transactional. A Pre Paid Credit Card is great because its all yours, not attached to his account so you can use it as you like, you can still withdraw at ATMS and put into your own bank if you like, you can also use online and in stores. It will be automatically set up to 'refill' every month. We all like a bit of refilling! Also... you don't have to have the whole conversation every few weeks like you will do with cash if your Sugar Daddy is of the forgetful variety! Carrying cash is a little unsafe too.

My least favorite way is a Credit card on his account, most daddy's are economically savvy and wont favor credit cards anyway as the high charges plus you don't have a limit which may sound appealing but how will you know what you can spend? You may think its appropriate to spend £1000 on a shopping spree, he may have intended you to be more conservative and use it for bills. I'm also not a fan of Paypal, its ok for the first few times but you need to check its in there, wait for it to clear, they take a cut etc and it may not be automatic every month.

When?

You decide on monthly, weekly, whatever works for you. I think Monthly is good as long as you are seeing each other quite regularly. It all less transactional and weekly can easily fall into the 'pay for play' category if its not set up well.

What?

I think a good starting point for an allowance is your rent + your bills + a little to spend on whatever you like = a good allowance. If you work this is perfect as it allowes you to invest and use your wage packet for whatever you like knowing that some of the main things are covered.

Personally, I am happy with an allowance of between 3-4K a month. This works out at a grand a week, and would allow me to save/invest maybe 2K each month, and still live a comfortable life with plenty of money for the little things that make us smile :)

I have in the past had higher allowances, but a little less is better than nothing. I also find lots of potential Sugar Daddy's who fall into the 3-4 K category, where as the higher guys are harder to come across. As long as your chosen Daddy has potential, you will be able to up your allowance at a later date in most situations, once you have bonded well.

*Don't forget, 3-4 K in one currency, is not 3-4 K in another. If your talking to an international daddy make sure your not cutting yourself short. Seeking Arrangement for example uses $ as a guideline. If your a UK baby, this amount will be roughly half in pounds - not as interesting as it first looked.

Check the exchange rate and be smart. At the moment £1 is equal to $1.56 dollars. So my set allowance of 3-4k in GBP is equal to $4,700-$6,261 in USD. If your a USA baby, and followed my guidelines your allowance will be between roughly 5 and 6 k.

Being Smart About Money

Its tempting to create a huge wish list of things you want to spend your allowance on, and its exciting to do. I think for the first few allowances you should try to consider clearing any debts you have, maybe paying of credit cards etc. Its also a good idea to keep a 'float' of money in your bank account, try keeping it so that it never falls less than 4 figures. This is a good back up, as you never know when the arrangement could come to an end.

If your Sugar Daddy is in the financial world, maybe a banker or a broker, pick his brains at how to invest wisely. Maybe you want to play around with some extra money and invest. If your lucky, he might set you up with a little stocks and shares account and give you some tips.

Budget well as a Sugar Baby too, be smart and save for the future. Budget at least half of your allowance into savings, if you can. Those shoes you want could be included into shopping trips with your new Sugar Daddy, or you could send him an online link!

Ive as usual gone on and on :) So Ive missed out the actual conversation and stumbling blocks you may find when you broach the subject with your Pot. That's coming up in my next post!

Kisses, Baby Bow xxx

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Yesterday I committed a cardinal sin of sugar dating, or well, dating in general.

I didn't realise id done it until it was too late...

DUN

DUN

DUN!

I wore the same outfit! EEEK¬! :-)

By the time I got to my date with 'Mr Date' it was early afternoon. We met at a well known hotel in London, and I saw him as soon as I walked into the lobby. He was dressed smartly like always and greeted me with a hug.

We decided to get something to eat in the restaurant inside hotel, for ease and because we were both hungry by now.

The restaurant was a kind of Chinese with a twist, where they served Asian flavoured burgers if such things exist. I went for a plate of rice with shrimp and chicken, and Mr Date went for a big bowl of noodles.

I have to admit the date was dire. If this had been the first time I had met him, we would have never met again. Conversation was almost all one sided, and as I chatted away he stared blankly at me or checked his blackberry that was persistently bleeping.

He told me he was very happy to see me, but the atmosphere pointed to the contrary. Lunch felt rushed and I was with him for all of about an hour. The only saving grace he had was that he did mention he had a lot going on that day, business wise, and he seemed a little apprehensions about that.

It made me wonder, did we ever get along very well, or did I look at our chemistry with rose tinted glasses? Maybe, but I'm sure he was making minimum effort possible yesterday.

Mr Date is being laid to rest in my sugar world, and he joins the sugar grave yard of past potentials, who tried, but failed to win me over.

It was as I walked out of the hotel, that I started thinking about my next meeting with 'G', and it was then I realised I was committing the shameful outfit crime. Luckily, I am sure 'G' is probably the least fashion or outfit savvy man around, and whilst I'm sure he appreciates a women who looks good - I doubt he takes into account details and features of ones outfit.

Luckier still, the outfit as you may recall from my previous post was pretty inconspicuous and casual, Black tunic, Biker boots, Cashmere Coat. I still felt I needed one little thing to change the look, and once I looked in my bag I realised I could fix myself up a little wardrobe on the go!

In my bag I had some Kirby grips, so I secured my hair all to one side in a chignon.

I then found my Chanel pearls hanging around in my bag, 3 strands white pearls with a Chanel black bow, and the Chanel white flower with a discreet and gold 'cc' on one of its petals. I took of my McQueen scarf (RIP McQueen, sad news, admired artist) and added the pearls. I hope this made the same outfit look different enough to get away with!

I had a few hours to spare before I met G, so whats a girl to do. Well when in London, shop! I headed to the flagship Topshop on Oxford Circus and picked myself up a Christopher Kane for Topshop brown lace dress in the sale it was £15 what a bargain... I also made a mental note to come back here and have eyelash extensions done in their eyelash bar in store.

By now my feet hurt but I soldier on and Arrive at out meeting point (One thing I like about G is that he meets me in very convenient places and is relaxed with regards to where) I was still a little early, so whats a girl to do? That's right. I found a Dune shoes and was in the shop looking at the prettiest flat sandals covered in crystals when he called me.

Outside the store I noticed him, and it was quite funny watching him when he didn't realise I could see, ehehehe evil me. So I went over, gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek (ONE kiss on one cheek, I remembered from last time. I always do the two kisses, one on each cheek and I think again this shows a difference in hmmmm....cant think of the word... CLASS sounds awful. But that's kind of what I mean...?) I dont mean to come across as a snob because I am not, and I dont care about peoples backgrounds and walk of life, im just very observent so I notice things like that.

We decided to go to a local sports bar. Very laid back and down to earth and we drank beer and I nibbled on chicken wings and hot sauce. I actually had one million times more fun with G than with Mr Date, and I think we spent a few hours in there.

G bought up the face-to-face allowance talk, which was much appreciated. He has had a similar relationship in the past, and he told me her allowance - quite causally - was 2.5k a week. He made a point of saying that was after a long time together and they were very happy, but its just nice to know he has that potential I suppose. To be honest, that's more than I ever imagine. But it is nice to imagine.

I had such a great time with G that I decided I was too hasty last week, and I'm very glad that we met again. He is an absolute gentleman and I don't feel any pressure to sleep with him, or to look spotless at all times - I though as I had hot sauce all over my mouth at one point :-)

I think this counts for something, and he made it clear everything is on my terms, even how often we see each other. I think its a good deal if it all rings true.

Il do another post on exactly what allowance he offered and what kind of relationship we would have. This post is getting long and id like to post on how I work out allowances and tips on conversations surrounding them, as they can be tricky.

Weekend Kisses!
Baby Bow xx

After the date...

I'm kind of still on a very happy high from my date with Mr Date, we get on really well and speak all the time, he is always sending me really thoughtful texts and updates and I really like that.

I wouldn't like a SD where we would only be in touch when he wanted to see me, I know some people would prefer that, especially if they had a BF or wanted to keep their life completely separate. Where as I like to be in full contact with my SD, receiving calls and messages in between our times together. I feel happy when I wake up in the morning and there is a text there waiting for me :-)

My next date with Mr date is next week, I'm not too sure where or what we will be doing but its all very exciting. I'm meeting him when I get home from a little trip I'm taking this weekend, which is good because I am looking forward to seeing him, but unfortunate because after being in the air for 12 hours you feel like a hot air balloon. So il make a date with my friend Mr Peppermint tea, and that should help prepare a little! I also wonder if he will give me my allowance on this meeting..... we shall have to see.

On the one hand I hope so, not only because I have mentally spent it, hehe, but also because I can then truly relax and enjoy the relationship as that will show its all above board and serious. On the other hand I would understand if I didn't get it, or all of it, on our second date. Obviously you have to be careful, and he may worry id take it and then never see him again - which of course us respectable baby's would never do but i bet its happened to daddy's in the past.

Now that Ive found Mr Date, I have removed myself from any websites I had a profile on, which was actually just Sugar Daddie.com at the time. I feel he deserves my full attention, so that I can mould and nurture our arrangement into exactly what we both want, and I know that if I give it my all I will be treated very very well.

Some people may think its unwise to 'put all of your eggs in one basket' but I don't see it this way. I know he likes me, and I like him - so everything now is just getting to know one another and putting the time and effort in.

Even if you want to find multiple Sugar Daddy's, you should always put your search on hold while your in this stage of the relationship. You don't want to blow your chances by being pre occupied with thoughts, e-mails, nerves, meetings etc with other men, and in most cases Sugar Daddy will want to be your only one, so you don't want to mix it up for yourself if he senses he is not.

I'm very serious about Mr Date, I genuinely like him and I've decided he is the one I am concentrating on. We had a little handshake and spoke about what we both wanted from our relationship, and now we are at the beginning. I cant wait to see where we go from here....

Love, Baby Bow x

There he was... Part Two!

There it was.........

A message from Mr Date 'Cant wait to meet you today Beautiful, Il be there at the bar'.

Thank goodness for that, I had finally nailed a date and now I wouldn't let anything stop me. Excitedly I got out of bed, and got myself ready for the date.

I wore skinny dark jeans with a long white vest top, Loubutins and Prada bag. My hair was freshly done from the salon the day before, so I was good to go. I felt a little nervous so I had a baileys coffee :-) Hehehe.

On the way to the date I prepped myself. I do this everyday even if its for no particular reason, I think of all the reasons I am so happy, and all of the things I want for the day. So in this case, it was a seamless journey into London, and a perfect, positive meeting with Mr Date. (If you haven't read 'The Secret' you should...but I could talk about positive thinking for hours so Il maybe post another time about this!)

The driver dropped me off outside of the restaurant, and I hopped out of the car. Little white linen covered tables were dotted outside, paparazzi were hanging around (I'm still not sure who for although I was discreetly looking all through Dinner!) and I could laterally smell the sugar in the air.

I walked into the resturant, taking in scenery and people watching as I went -

And there he was.......

I saw him sat at a table - took a wild guess and popped my bag onto the seat next to him while introducing myself. Luckily, it was him and he looked very friendly and I felt at ease right away.

We ordered some wine, and chatted for a few hours. In between talking we ate some delicious Seafood and Oysters, Steak and Champagne. I liked how easy he was to talk to, although believe me I never stop talking so maybe that was just me! But we laughed, while I offended him a few times in a jokey way, luckily he found this endearing and he warmed to me :-) He complimented me on how I looked, and when I declined another bite of Chocolate dessert as id 'have to spend an extra hour in Pilate's' he lightly patted me on the bum and told me I was perfect. ;-) I wouldn't say that was true, but very sweet indeed!

Half way through dinner we had the 'allowance' chat. Now, I had prepared myself for this and knew exactly what I wanted. I had a feeling as it was quite high he might negotiate down a little, which I was happy for as id over compensated so that we could do! My mind was running over time, thinking stay calm, natural, direct..... when he offers out his hand for a hand shake and comes right out with an amount - which is more than my highest starting point :-) Perfect.

So all in all, we had the perfect date. We agreed to start something, so I am officially his Sugar Baby. Our next meeting is next week, where I am going to a dinner event with him. We are then going shopping the following morning, so I am looking forward to that!

I am very happy that I persevered, I knew that it would work out. Mr Date is kind, attentive, genuine, real, and generous. He will take very good care of me, as I will him. Its time for chapter two.... !

Excited Hugs and Kisses,

Baby Bow x x x

My Sugar Saturday

Yesterday, I wake up thinking 'what to do with my Saturday'? I usually find I'm working or away on a weekend, so its always nice to be at home and see what my friends plans are.

I was just laid in bed thinking about the day ahead, when my blackberry buzzed. Open message - Mr Showbiz 'Hey bow, I'm in town just back from America. Would you like lunch today?' So, up I got, jumped into the shower, washed my hair and set it in some big rollers while I got ready. I obviously didn't have time to tan so I have this new St Tropez instant tan that washes off (its so good for UK readers get it in Superdrug for like £15 and use a mitt to apply) so i covered myself in that, gave my self a quick mani, and got dressed.... I wore black leggings, some grey suade platforms from Topshop, a long dark grey vest top with silver studs, a light grey blazer, and my Prada bag - sounds very grey but looks pretty hot :-)

I jumped on the train to where I meet Mr Showbiz, who greeted me with a smile, a hug, and an envelope....this is what he did last time and i never open it while I'm with him.

Next we went to Nobu on Park Lane for lunch, we both had some amazing sashimi and sushi, washed down with Dom Perignon. After lunch I went back to his apartment (I haven't yet been to his house, but I have seen the pictures on facebook and its out of this universe amazing!) But we drove in his Bentley which was gorgeous they are my favorite cars, so classy. I stayed for a few hours, most of the afternoon, then he asked me where I wanted to go next. I said home, because I had some plans with friends to go shopping to the mall that evening.

When I got home, I opened the envelope and there was some allowance - happy shopping evening was ahead! Mr Showbiz always hands me at least a couple of K's when I see him. I know he would be the perfect sugar daddy if he is happy to hand me a few grand as a gift when I do see him, I can imagine the kind of allowance he would provide.

The problem is - Mr Showbiz travels all over for his 'showbusiness', that paired with my traveling all over means I often get these 'Hey Bow, would you like to go for lunch today' texts, but my usual response is ' So sorry I'm in Hong Kong!' and he will be in Florida or somewhere ridiculously far. So when we get together its very, very good, but its few and far between.

I need a sugar daddy who stays put! One who spends his majority of time in one place, and then I can travel and it wont impact on our meetings....

So with my spongdolies, I put in the bank as I am trying to save some £ into an investment. The rest, I decided I want a hair change next month - going to get really long extensions, wavy ones, with a really big fringe - bangs for US baby's - and really blonder than I usually have. So Il use some money towards that too.

Although, saying this I did go shopping and I bought loads of things. An amazing silver chunky Gucci Horsebit Bamboo bracelet I had seen Lauren Conrad in, a few new dresses with awesome sequined shoulder pad details, a few new blazers and jackets as its getting chilly over here in the UK now! And an amazing juicy couture fluffy hat.

So Saturday turned out to be a very sugary day for me, I have more updates but this seems like the longest post in the world so il post that a bit later on!

Have a great Sunday,

Love Always, Baby Bow xx

How could I improve?

I'm just at home laid in bed, after a busy week of hard work, eating coco pops and updating myself on all the girls blogs, which I love. I'm so glad to see a few of us are getting closer to what we want, and I just love reading the exciting lead up to it all....

I always like to improve, so i was wondering ... what would make my blog more enjoyable/informative/funny/etc what would you like to see less, or more of? Would you like to see more stuff on facebook, like pictures of gifts, more details?

I was thinking, even if no one ever read my blog id still write it. For me its kind of like a little diary, sometimes my posts are a little random, and by reading it back I kind of learn more... do you feel like that about your blogs also?

I'm feeling a little unsure about my sugar search. I really feel like I have found two major contenders in Mr Showbiz and Mr.... hmmm just realised I haven't named him yet, il call him Mr date for now as I'm still eager to get one!

They are both very real, generous, the sugar grail as Chicago Sugar Baby says :-)and I know they are looking for what I am looking for. With them id get more of an allowance than I ever really thought id possibly get, and that's what I'm aiming for now. Its just getting the ball rolling, seems so hard?

So I may remove my profiles from the sites I'm currently on, for a few reasons. One, as I can concentrate on these two, and be more available for them. I want to get fitter, hotter and harder so I feel my absolute best, which of course will bode very well for them too. If nothing comes I can then go back to the sugar sites, with a new profile, new pictures and a new outlook. You always find when you put up a new profile you get like a million and one thousand messages don't you, and I like starting a new.

So my friends, that is the plan. I'm going to post pictures of my personal 'hotness goal' haha on facebook to spur myself on ;-)

Love from Bow xx

OMG - So many Potentials!

I have to admit I was hating on SD.com a little bit, but oh my goodness in the last 24 hours I have made quite a few potentials!

Il introduce them now,

Mr Ingocnito - Named so because I am yet to see a picture.
Seems good so far, 40, dont know too much about him, he is playing his cards close to that millionaires chest of his. We are meeting for drinks in Londons Dorchester hotel. He has agreed on my allowence, so thats a good start in my eyes.

Mr Big - Big money maker, Big guy, Big Wallet. living between London and NY, has asked to fly me out to NY, is happy with allowence, now im waiting to see if he pulls through.

They are the two best of the bunch, although I have been speaking to a few more who seem worth a drink or two.

Mr Showbiz and I had a little misunderstanding today, over something completley stupid that was all his own fault - not mine of course! - but I think that will be ok. We seem to have made up (he thought I told him I lived somewhere that I dont, and I would never say that as I dont even know the place he is talking about - so he either had me mixed up or maybe its old age :-D )

On the subject of Mr Showbiz, I added him on facebook and to my delight he is the daddy of all sugardaddys, his house is a m a z i n g. He drives a Bentley too. His house, OMG, its just like a mansion - in London!

Ive been looking through Net a porter this afternoon, just loving the dresses and shoes, I so want me some of those. Look at these shoes I have put up top, these are some things I want. And il get them...

Love always and forever, Baby Bow x

Having a think...

eeeek eeeek eeeek I'm feeling a little bit nervous, and I need a little motivation from some fellow sugar baby's...

So Mr Showbiz wants to meet on Friday, he wants me to get the train from where I live to just outside of London, where he will pick me up, and take me out. He lives in central London, and I feel pretty safe about it just because he is so well known and also because I have been in contact with him for over a year so he seems very genuine.

The one thing that I cannot put my finger on is how old he is.... I don't want to ask, I think its a little rude and it hasn't naturally come up in conversation just yet. Hmmmm. I think he looks late 40's to early 50's, but I read a magazine article that says he is 60? If he is 60 I want a piece of his surgeon because he has almost defiantly had some work done!

The other thing that is putting me off is I am still not clear on what il be getting out of this. He has said he has good feelings about us, and if we get on there could be plenty of fun opportunities for us (I'm reading long term allowance's etc) and he asked me previously if I like gifts, money etc..

Silly question, I said money is important to me but what girl doesn't like gifts :-) and he told me we are definitely on the same page.... so I'm assuming some temporary allowance would be offered to me the first time that I spend with him.

The next reason is that I am actually not in London at the moment, but around 2 hours away. If I came down to spend Friday with Mr Showbiz, I would have to stay around all weekend as I fly very early Sunday morning for work - going home in between would be exhausting.

So all in all, I may use this week to get more information out of Mr Showbiz, and then set up a new date with him next week. While I'm in town, I may date more potentials from Sugar Daddies.com - I wonder how much sugar one girl can have all in one day?!

Love, Baby Bow x

What Bow Did Next...

After the drama of the mixed up daddies, I managed to get the best out of the situation... I was honest with Mr B.A, well almost honest, explaining that I got a little confused and he seemed to understand...

He called me from him Limo that takes him to work, and he said he thought I had been scared off... well I kind of had... and asked when he could see me. I don't actually plan on being in L.A during the next month, so he asked what it would take to fly me out to L.A or to Vegas. For some people that might sound like a scary thing, but as I'm away all the time, i know people in both Vegas and L.A so i know id be pretty safe and be able to do my own thing if need be... I'm pondering this thought! But first, I need more talk from him off allowances etc if he wants to take a trip, I want it 100% clear... oh that and a first class airline ticket of course... some diamonds...

I told him I need a new laptop, and he said he would get one for me. I'm liking the apple air books or something really tiny that is great for traveling with. Lets see if he pulls though. I'm still a bit iffy, I'm just letting myself see what happens.

So after redeeming myself from that little ooopsie, I remembered that I hadn't actually gotten in touch with Mr Showbiz. So i did. Successfully this time!

- And I am so so so glad that I did :-)

More soon

Love, Baby Bow x

Candy Land so far...

So, it looked like it was all going well and I had potentials lined up left right and centre, but things have seemed to quieten down. My favorite Mr NY has been very quiet, saying he is ill, so we will have to see how that pans out. If I don't get a message in the next few days or a phone call then i think Il start to concentrate on some of the others.... Although Mr NY does claim to have a gift in the post for me. Hmmmmmm we shall see.

Right now I'm loving Mr BA. Ive spoken to him a few times on web cam and I think he is endearing. He looks like a lot of fun, and I know he is serious and will spoil me rotten. He has mentioned he is happy to pay my rent every month, and buy me gifts. I'm hoping I can start like that and then edge up the allowance from rent to a greater amount, but for now Im happy with that to start! My rent will be expensive! ;-)

So I have my flight all booked to see Mr BA in Miami, and I will keep you updated with all of the little details.

I'm just about to go for dinner, the weather in London is amazing at the moment, so I quite fancy sitting outside with some wine and my girlfriends.

Love Baby Bow x

Finding a man of mint...

If like me...you are looking for a minted man, then I have a few tips I have picked up from other successful baby's and I shall pass them on :-)

Now, finding the Daddy of Sugar. Personally, I like to use websites such as seeking arrangement and sugardaddie.com. I find them the best of their kind, and although there are some unfortunate men, there are also many diamonds to be found!

I have also heard of other Sugar Baby's using Craig's list, but I have not tried this. Even some using Gum Tree, again, its not something I have tried out myself.

When you have found the guy you like, and a date is mentioned, think about the kind of situation you would prefer? On the one hand, some baby's like to meet for a coffee (quick, easy, and you may allow for multiple dates in one day, so go easy on the caffeine!) or on the other hand you may prefer to be wined and dined and make a fabulous evening of it.

I think both have advantages, a quick coffee means that you can leave pretty quickly if he has the looks of a bulldog and the wallet of a tramp. But a long dinner will lead to many clues to show you the guys wealth, and also you will get the chance to dress up and show how you are first class arm candy of the best possible kind!

I always think its good to keep a look out for;
A coutts bank card
A black American Express
A nice pair of shoes, classic wallet, and an expensive watch
Good fitting clothes

It is also important to watch the way your date interacts with people like the waiters, and bar staff... another tip when planning where to go is to ask him where he usually likes to go - and then pray its not pizza express.

This may all seem a little over the top or untrusting, but lets be honest there are some idiots out there who think you will get all dressed up and spend your time with them for absolutely nothing, without even a mention of our old friend Louis.

I personally like to speak about the 'arrangement' details, money...times per month...expectations etc before any meeting, as this saves your time if they are clueless and also is less awkward and you can then concentrate on having a fantastic night.

Love Baby Bow x

Wait all day for a bus.... Then four come along at once

Hello sugar girls and boys,

Thought id give a little update, I am going to try and write at least once or twice a week to keep it interesting, I hate reading blogs and then they go quiet I feel like I'm in suspense to find out what happened! So Ill try to not do that with this one...

The international search is going well. Why is it you wait all day for a bus, then four come along at once! Well, I have this but the buses are in fact rich sugar daddy men, the bus ticket is allowances, and the bus stop is the comfort of my own home ;-)

I have been chatting to yet another potential, who is from Boston. So depending on how dates go with BA and NY, a trip to Boston may be on the cards.

The guy is good looking, wants to see me 1-2 times per month and when he comes to the UK, and is happy with an allowance etc. He seems genuine and reliable and is very polite and sweet. I haven't actually seen a picture yet, but he works out and says he is considered attractive by many.

I'm holding out for Mr NY to be honest... he is my favorite. He is so hot, and I really think I could get it all from him if I play my cards right... Only time, and a meeting will tell.

I'm glad that I am chatting to a few and keeping my options open, I'm still not sure how many I would like, but I think two is a good amount and do-able! I have also been thinking a lot about allowance amounts, and what is too much, too little... What do you ask your sugar daddy's for, and how do you justifie it?

Love Baby Bow x

Introducing Mr B.A...

OK, so during July I am going to be meeting some of my new international sugar. Firstly, I will tell you about Mr BA. We will call him BA for the pure and simple fact that he carries and owns a BLACK AMEX. The elusive, sure sign of sugar daddy worthiness.

That alone has guaranteed him a date with Bow, and Bow expects the card to be out in full force!

I met this particular Sugar Daddy on Seeking Arrangement.com. He is in Miami, which is somewhere I frequently visit, so the logistics of seeing him will not be a problem. He has a beautiful house by the ocean, and is so far saying all the right things.

I told him of my love of shoes and shopping, and he promised on out first meeting a shopping trip... so far. so good. He also sent me $600, via paypal, just to show me he is interested. Not a huge deal, and by no means BLACK AMEX standards... but to say I have never met the guy I think this was a pretty cool gesture.

Now, onto the one and only problem. The looks. Now, fellow sugar baby's you must understand, I am attracted to older men. I like them, they like me. So that is not so much a problem. And in the past my boyfriends (not SD, just the regular poor type ;-) have been pretty average looking. Im all about the personality... Don't get me wrong, I appreciate a good looking man, and a good looking older man.... well I'm week at the knees at the thought!

So my question is.... Do looks really matter?

If you find the perfect Sugar Daddy, the right allowance, etc but from photos your not so sure if you would be attracted to him - would you still go? Would you carry on a relationship with a guy if everything is perfect, just not the looks, not the attraction. Does the BLACK AMEX - cancel it out?

I know in the past I have met people, who I have been attracted to but if I had seen them on paper or a picture, i wouldn't have so much..... the charisma, charm and confidence has outweighed all the other stuff, and every woman in the room was looking.

So, should I take a chance? Would you play, with B.A? ;-)

Love Baby Bow x