Mini Update Numero Uno!

Hello everyone!

OK, so its official, I am back - and I'm here to update you on my last month or so, although it feels much, much longer as Ive had so much going on!!

Id like to say hello to all of my new followers and apologise, I usually try to post at least twice a week but lately I have had some crazy times... all will be revealed!!

I think il start with an update for Mr Perfect, as you know this has been one of the most influential men in my search for the perfect sugar daddy, and is the most important to me. So things are going well, I am still unsure of where I stand, what my exact position is in his life - but - It finally happened - we kissed! It was great, felt entirely natural as I was worried after such a long wait it might be a little awkward, but I need not have worried, it was PERFECT.

He had picked me up from my new apartment, in one of his 20 - YES 20?!!!! - cars, a beautiful black Jaguar, and driven us to his house. This was the first time I had visited his house, although we had driven by a few times and he had pointed it out. The house, well, where do I start. This is Perfects main property, as he owns them all over the world and a number of places in London, but this is his 'Home'.

The house is a sprawling mansion, set on acres and acres of land. The house is an old listed building, and I could imagine characters from a Jane Austin novel wandering around the grounds whilst reading a book and basking in the sunshine!

Inside, the house looked exactly like id imagined. Not at all modern, but scattered with antiques and trinkets, floor to ceiling bookcases, grand pianos and imposing dark wood. Very dramatic, and a little eerie, I'm not sure I could live there alone!

I laughed when I mentioned how the house reminded me of a film set, how I could imagine walking into the Library, pulling on the spine of a book id chosen to read, and the whole bookcase spinning to reveal a secret room. Perfect laughed, and took my hand, taking me into a hallway between the bathroom and the dining room. There was a cabinet, with a few framed photographs resting on its shelves. He took my right hand and reached it into the right hand corner, pushing down as he did. To my amazement the thing started to move back, and low and behold behind the cabinet was a secret space, not really a room, but big enough for it to hold a safe. CAN YOU IMAGINE!!! Hilarious!

We settled down in the lounge, and we ordered some food from a local Michelin starred restaurant, take out style! I had crispy prawn won tons and dim sum, and we shared a bottle of wine.

As the evening drew to a close, we hopped back into the Jag and set of for home. Just before he started the engine, he turned to me, cradled his neck in my hand - and kissed me :) YES! FINALLY!!

Over the last month of so we have been doing what we always do, we meet for dinner, go dancing or have drinks, spend the day together shopping and spoiling me, we speak every day on the phone and we are very close in that respect. Sometimes he picks me up and drives me to his airplane, and we fly over to Jersey or up to Ireland for dinner. Its truly amazing and an experience I always want. I think he is a brilliant man, inspiring and intelligent, and I have come to realise that id like him with or without a sugar coating.

I could go into detailed posts about our rendezvous, but I have so much other stuff to tell that I think il save such posts for later on... so expect to hear more, watch this space.

Baby Bow xx

Once upon a time....

Baby bow used to update her blog all of the time. It was one of her favorite things to do, and she was passionate about telling her stories.

Then, the big volcano blew over the land, and held her stranded in Las Vegas. Being the good little party girl she was, she took full advantage of the city of sin, and practically induced a coma on her body.

Weeks later, she came home, tanner and poorer and more tired than ever before. She had to use this time to rebuild her life, relationships, and spirit.

Now, she is back. With a vengeance. And stories of douchbags, princes, Perfect Kisses, and a trip to a foreign land to meet a waste of space!

Baby Bow xx :-)

Sugary Sorrys....

I'm sorry my beautiful followers and readers or anyone who randomly checked out my blog...

I have been AWOL and there are good reasons for being so... not all I can share *at this moment* but I will in the next few weeks I promise. I also have such big news, regarding Mr P, a brand new sugar daddy with whom I cant actually believe my luck and general life sugar and not sugar related!

I shall start composing the updates now! Watch this space...

Baby Bow :-)

The Perfect Effect...

In my last post I mentioned how P and I have a strange relationship, but I didn't detail. Ive actually hardly posted on him during the 6 months we have been 'dating' and now I have decided to be a little more open...

From day one I have found P to be the most genuine of gentlemen I have ever met. I am genuinely very attracted to him, he makes me laugh and I cheer him up when he is having a bad day. We speak on the phone or at least text almost everyday, although I see him less often due to our clashing travel plans and our work...

In every single way, its perfect - at least it is from my point of view. I assume it is from his end too, as its gone on for too long now for us not to like each other.

Here comes the strange part - we have not had sex, nor have we really even kissed.

I have stayed with him a few times, lately on the trip to Dubai, but he always books me a separate room.

Now, as you can imagine this has confused me a great deal. Sure, I like a gentleman and sure its nice to know I'm not being used what so ever, but this is like something out of a 19'20s silent movie... I'm flirting, he is flirting, we are flirting. But that's where it stops. Thanks for this evening, and a kiss on the cheek!

At first, I thought he was gay, and I was his beard. But, I have come to the conclusion that he couldn't be less gay, plus the day we met he told me he is looking for a girlfriend. Then, I thought we might just be friends, so I sent him a message hinting at the situation, and he responded by saying he is just out of practice...

Its not a big deal, I love to spend time with him and in a way its so nice to get to know each other without all of that in the way, but I'm at the point where I am MORE THAN COMFORTABLE with us sharing a bed... or a kiss, at least.

So there you have it, my strange little set up with Perfect, I will keep you updated!

Kisses :-)

Baby Bow xx

*Update P.S - G got back in touch with me, after my cut throat message, can you believe it! He said something about being busy, so I said il leave the ball in your court. He replied ' The ball is in my court. Game, set match. And we are matched. Il be in touch' I WAS SICK IN MY MOUTH. CHEESE ON TOAST OR WHAT!!! No thank you Mr G, No thanking you x

Happy Easter ♥ Dubai Continued....

After the day of shopping with my friends, I met back at the hotel and after a quick freshen up had the best dinner at Nobu, which is actually inside another amazing hotel, Atlantis, nestled on the palm a short drive away (Pictured above).

To dinner I wore an amazing corset I picked up in forever 21 - US baby's can find it in the Alice in wonderland collection - I LOVE! :-) Its cream and peach with clocks all over, and grey satin flowers around the top, and it was only about $20! I wore it tucked into a white bandage style body-con high waisted pencil skirt, with peach heels.

There was a big group of us at dinner as some of his Dubai friends came along, they were nice enough, although it was all men and me, but they really took care of me and I felt like a princess all evening. I usually have the same thing at Nobu London, but in Dubai the menu was different so I tried the Yellow Tail Sashimi with Jalapenos, and for main I had the fillet of Salmon with Avocado Tempura.... yum. I decided to not drink any alcohol so opted for Green tea.

That evening I had a great sleep and woke up refreshed and ready for the races! We ordered some room service pancakes, fruit, yogurt and coffee (Yes all I did this trip was EAT) and got dressed, I loved the dress and shall post a picture on my face book, although the feathers went a little crazy so the hair took a while to tame!

The races was a lot of fun, and much more extravagant than I ever expected, far more so than at home. I felt a little out of place, as most people in the area I was sat seemed very 'horsey' and really knew their stuff, I can chat to anybody so it wasn't a problem and I am pretty good at blagging it! I did sometimes wish I was just down at the regular bar and not in the posh area, as it seemed a little more relaxed and less pretentious, but I managed to bring the tone down by dancing on a table at some point anyway!! Mission accomplished!

I didn't win anything, although my 'allowance' was intended for betting, I took an interest in other peoples bets and I placed a few on horses with names that made me laugh, or reminded me of people I knew... there were no inspired choices and that showed in my losses!

After the races, it was a very quiet night as too much alcohol had been consumed in the blazing heat of the sun, and tidiness started to set in. After a relaxing sleep I woke up, and went to the gym for a quick Pilate's session before going to the airport to catch the flight home. I flew home alone as business was to carry on in Dubai, and I had to get back for my own job.

I quite enjoyed flying home on my own, I changed into Pjs right away and ate ice cream and watched movies, read magazines and generally chilled out. I had lots of thinking time on the flight, and I realised that the whole sugar search for me is just so much fun, I cant believe some of the experiences it has bought to me.

In all of this, this certain perfect individual is more than I could ever want, or would have ever expected to find, and I like and respect him very much. At the moment we have a strange relationship, which I have decided to post in more detail about next time... it might surprise a few of you, and it has me a little confused too...

I had a wonderful, unexpected trip and have been invited on something similar later in the summer. At the moment I'm hoping il have the time off work - if not guess who is getting the man flu in July!

That's all for now, will post again soon,

Baby Bow xx

Perfect Weekends, Perfect Sugar

Why hello there beautiful Sugars!

I know I know, I haven't posed too much recently - but that is all about to change! I have so much news so much so much and not enough posts to tell it all in! I have been spoilt!

Well first I shall tell you about a wonderful surprise I had from somebody a little PERFECT.

Having a few days off from work and not quite being sure what to do with myself I made a few calls around to see what my pots where up to and to try and get the ball rolling after what seemed like the s-l-o-w-e-s-t few weeks....

My favorite of all time got back in touch, and invited me to an experience I could never turn down - THE DUBAI RACES. Now, for those of you not too familiar with Dubai it is like the sugar playground of all time, opulent and diamond covered, with sugar baby's grazing every mans arm. The people here have real F-YOU money, and buy hotel chains and private jets like its a game of monopoly.

I was flown by his private plane down to his huge house, its the most beautiful house Ive ever seen and I would have been happy for this experience alone, but it got better. We then went to a local Michelin starred restaurant for the best oysters Ive ever had, full of Tabasco and washed down with champagne.

We then got picked up by his driver, a very sweet man who has been working with him for years. Off we went to the airport, which was a short journey away although I fell to sleep from the bubbles of champagne within minutes! I was woken up to being driven straight through an express check in lane, with a drive-thru passport control and luggage check in.

From there we relaxed at the lounge, I ate king prawns in a chili sauce with spinach leaves, and had a coffee, and watched sports on the big screens whilst flicking through a page or two of Hello.

Next it was time to board, and we got onto the aircraft, turned left and went straight into First Class luxury. This was with an airline I had never before flown with, and I was amazed by everything from how beautiful the cutlery and linen that lined your table was, how comfy the beds were, and how amazing the company. There was a huge menu to choose from but as it was a relatively short 6 hour flight I decided to sleep most of the way so that I would arrive refreshed.

Once we arrived I checked into the hotel, he had to meet some friends and look at properties as the prices are lower in Dubai at the moment after the initial 'buzz' of the place. I had stayed at the hotel before, and it is just beyond flashy. Even the walls are 24 carat gold plated, and helicopters land right onto the roof.

I decided to freshen up in the bathroom, which was marble with heavy toweling robes and fluffy slippers and spa products all around. They even gave you small pots of creme De la Mer, which I slathered all over my face quicker than you could ever imagine - I love that stuff!
After showering I decided to go meet my friends who live in Dubai, we met at the mall of emirates which is a huge shopping mall that even has ski slopes within! We had a little walk around and I decided to look for a dress for the races. I found my favorite chain of shops in Dubai where they sell really nice designer stuff but it isn't stuffy or full of pretentious assistants, and they sell my favorite dress designer called 'sky' (I never see these dresses anywhere other than Dubai?)

The dress I picked out was a long white maxi dress, with a jeweled snake wrapping around your boobs, not a print of a snake, and actual jewelry type snake that wrapped around the top of the dress. It was perfect for the races and I decided I would wear some heels I already bought with white feathers clipped into my hair, rather than a hat.

The dress cost the equivalent of about £100 so it wasn't too expensive, but as I put my hand into my handbag I pulled out a little envelope with a 'x' on the front. Inside was a little stash of local currency and I was excited to find a surprise allowance inside! (It was actually money to bet with at the races i later found out, but id rather buy a dress too than gamble it all)

So with my dress ready and happy after an afternoon with friends I went back to the hotel, where the weekend got even more... perfect...

To be continued!

xx

'Off with your head'!

CL is officially my favorite Sugar in disguise website, a quick anonymous e-mail can do no harm... I advise you all to try it, of course being careful as there are obviously some weirdos on there too, that much is clear.

So out of my CL pots I have a lovely e-mail chain going on with one very charming gentleman, although he is out of the country so no date has been fixed. I also had a wonderful date with another, all went very well and he bought up my expectations fairly quickly. He was the image of a 'Sugar Daddy' that I have in my minds eye, and I will see how/if this situation progresses.

In my previous posts I mentioned how 'G' was fleeting in and out of the scene, well, its official - HE IS OUT.

G got back in touch, gave a few excuses for not being around, and we rescheduled to meet again. The morning of the meet came, and there I am preening and prepping myself as all good Sugar Baby's do...

Knowing his recent flakiness, I decided to shoot him a quick text to confirm we were still on, before I made the effort of leaving the house and getting dressed! Id love to say I don't get out of bed for less than £100,000, but this would be grossly untrue. I don't get out of bed for less than a 5k allowance. That's more like it. ;-)

To my disappointment but not my surprise, I received the following text...

'Hi! sorry up to my everything in it at the moment. Having a s... day. Lots going on, and not sure when it will end. Probably best to scrub today. xx '

Pure crap. That's exactly how it was written too. Does everyone agree this is the most useless text apology you have ever had the misfortune to read. Probably best to 'scrub' everything actually, you poor excuse for a SD, and waste no more of my precious time. In the words of the Red Queen "Off with your head"...hehehe.

In fact, i said almost as much. Its one of my main sugar rules that you should never fully erase a SD from your life. At the end of the day, you never know when circumstances could change and it might be benefiting to have friends like this, plus its not in my nature to have a fall out with someone in general. Id rather be forgiving, and positive.

Like Ive said in the past, to feel anger towards another person is like swallowing poison and expecting them to fall ill. Its far better to get rid of any negativity, and remain happy.

In this instance, I defied all of my own rules and I text back with a rambling of how he had let me down and I wished for him to delete my number.... oops. Still, I don't regret this choice. I feel that G had something hidden, something was not quite right and I'm glad I outed him sooner rather than later.

In this case, it felt right. G was not going to go anywhere... lets be honest if you follow my blog you will know I was finding it unnatural to imagine an 'us' as a SD/SB unit, so i didn't need too much discouragement. G never replied, which I think just goes to show he was all talk and no wallet. The worst kind.

But, in general I would advise you stay friends with any pots that don't quite make the cut for what ever reasons. At the time he might not be right, but if you leave the gates open you never know when he might pop back, and fit into your world a little better than the first time.

Lovings :) Baby Bow x

Daffys Date...

As you already know, I finally decided to let Daffy take me out to wine (and little did he realise, dine) me, after months of me not being so sure.

We decided to meet at The Dorchester in London, a beautiful and famous London landmark, oozing with class and old style glamour.

I had been out and about earlier in the day, and had decided to meet a friend for a few drinks. A few drinks in London often turn into a lot of drinks, in this case it turned into more than a few bottles of wine on an empty stomach....hmmmm Bow was feeling a little tipsy when she remembered that Ducky was waiting :)

So off I jumped into a black cab, and luckily I had only been around the corner. I explained my way out of my hasty leaving, and applied a little extra lipstick in the back of the cab.

I was wearing a dark grey Galaxy dress, (although mine was Topshop) covered by a white cashmere coat topped of with killer black Louboutins. No jewelry, sometimes I like my self to do the sparkling ;)

Once I got to the hotel I had a few minutes to spare so I asked a some rather snooty looking hotel staff where the bathrooms were. A perfectly manicured finger pointed down a hallway, and I heard a muttered 'on the left'. Turning on my heels I tipsily made my way down the passage, only to find the door id set my sights on jammed closed.

I pushed, and pushed and pushed, at one point unladylike-ly banging the door with my ass to try and get some weight behind me and jam it open!

All of a sudden, whilst I was banging away with my butt, I feel a pat on my shoulder, and to my surprise there is Daffy, looking very smart in a beautiful suit and pink shirt. 'Darling, if you are looking for the restrooms, here they are' he said in a kind but obviously amused tone, as he pointed directly opposite to the blatantly sign posted 'Ladies'.

As you can imagine, I died of embarrassment once inside the safety of the 'Ladies'. After a few 'shit, shit shits' to myself and another coat of lipgloss I decided I was ready to face the world, if not ready to laugh at my 'Blondness'.

Daffy and I took to a gorgeous table in the main foyer, with a string quartet playing softly as we introduced ourselves. Daffy looked better in person that he did on his photos, a full head of hair and a fancy suit. We ordered a bottle of Champagne, and started to talk.

When I say talk, I should say I talked. And talked. And talked. Talked some more... Daffy sat there, listening, but not venturing much.

It soon dawned on me that not only has daffy got the most boringly ridiculous voice I have ever had to listen to, he may just be the most dull person I have ever had a date with. DULL, DULL, DULL. Poor Daffy.

That said, as the champagne was poured he did loosen up a little, but I soon realised we were looking for different things and I was finding it hard to not become irritated at his voice. Shame there isn't a cosmetic surgery for an unpleasing voice?

After eating, which I did, in abundance FYI, I actually bought up his comments and what I had taken a little offence to. He responded by saying he just hated very skinny girls and that has actually put him off many of his dates, again, not sure if this was an insult or a compliment :D But you have to laugh at his lack of tact...

The date neared to an end, and I had to leave. Daffy slipped me a little cash for a taxi home, and I gave him a little hug. I truly don't think there is anything wrong with Daffy, its just personally I find it hard taking the more dominant role in conversations 90% of the time. I like to be wined and dined, and I felt like I was doing all of the entertaining.

Daffy must have not sensed this, as out came the smythson and an attempt to re-arrange was made. I think id rather let daffy fly on over to another sugar pond - I'm sure he can find someone better suited to him. Maybe someone boney with a small hearing problem...

Lovings, Baby Bow xx

PS - Sorry for the delay in Blog, I have been unwell! I am back, so a few more posts to come keep an eye out :)

PPS - IM A HAPPY LADY...

YAY to the CL....

Good day Sugars,

As aforementioned in my last post, I have had a little 'play around' with Craig's list. Its something I always knew was a helpful addition to websites such as seeking arrangement, but I never knew quite how fabulous it could be until yesterday.

You see, I decided after G had become quiet, and seeing as Perfect and I are 'courting' like something out of a 1950's film, I might need to think about adding a few potentials to my little black book.

Not being prepared to fork out for Sugar Daddie.com, especially when my last experience led me to a lot of men with just decent paid jobs looking for a wife (something at this time of my life I'm not looking for, in the future? who knows) and being less inclined to do the whole seeking arrangement thing when a sneak peek found its the same men that were there the last time I did, I found myself contemplating the prospects of my own 'advert' on Craig's List.

In the past, I have had a little dabble with the naughty pleasure that is CL. We all know it has a bad rep, and im sure there are 10 weirdos for every regular person who uses the site. Each time, id write what I thought was a perfectly respectable note, emphasising I am not a whore, and hopefully attracting the right kind of browser. Each time, to my surprise my posts were 'flagged' and removed, by most likely some old hag who hasn't heard of the term mutually beneficial and obviously needs a shag.

This time, I was a sugar baby on a mission. I drafted up a few different approaches, mentioning buzz words like genuine, generous, mutual arrangements, that sort of thing, and off I sent them into the list that is Craig's.

To my pleasant surprise, each one had a life of about 3-4 hours. Something I didn't expect, and gave me enough time to receive maybe 20+ replies. All of which were witty, interesting and unexpected. Give or take the token 'SLUT' or equally boring ' I'm looking for sex tonight love'. Delete.

I replied to all sane sounding mails, and in reply got some pretty decent pictures and sincere seeming messages. All in all I conversed with Traders, Lawyers, Directors, head of a record label, entrepreneur, the list goes on...

So my friends, I have done what I seem to do in this situation time and time again. I am greedy and I want to meet them all. So I plan on doing, although il probably be fatter than the Christmas goose at the end of it, but who knows what could happen.

That's what I love about London, and meeting new people. Anything could happen. Although, as I always say meet in a restaurant etc and keep safe... literally anything could happen but we want the sugar not the shit.

So tomorrow, I have two dates. One, lunch and wine at a beautiful french wine bar in London with an unnamed pot from aforementioned CL. Experienced in SD lifestyle, dabbled on Seeking Arrangement, seems to know what he is talking about, is attractive and gentleman-like.

Although the food sounds beautiful I wont be eating much with unnamed potential, because, at 7pm, I am meeting the one and only Daffy. And we all know what that means. Bring on the elasticated jeans - I'm going in!

In other news, G resurfaced with an excuse of sorts. He agreed to a date this week, and il see how that goes. I'm thinking positively as he is maybe the most genuine sounding man Ive met in this way and will be sure to update as and when I have my allowance :)

Expect a full update soon on tomorrow's date day, and I wish a happy week to you all,

Love, Baby Bow xx

G on his sugar death bed....

Happy Mondays everyone!

I have had a rather mixed emotion of days today.

As you already know, G and I had a meeting last week, he canceled but contact was kept everyday, and today he finally said it was possible to meet again. After a few messages going back and forth I suggested a day this week (Friday), suggested food (sushi) and confirmed that this would be the allowance day - no beating around the bush, Ive been watching my little pink ball bouncing around his court for too long..

Low and behold, since that little magical text, I have been ignored. Now, sugars this is not good. I think this is an allowance slipper, one of those men who are never quite sure, are happy to take you out umpteen times but never actually get anywhere....

Hasty, you may think I am being. For it was only four hours ago I sent the message. But I think he would have usually got back in touch within minutes. Seconds even.

In a way, there is a positive here. I have been relying and expecting the promised allowance this week, and id rather know now that it isn't going to happen so that I can take control of the situation. I'm sure if I hadn't have mentioned the big A-day, he would have replied but that isn't doing me any favours, only for him to back out at the last minute.

No, this is good news sugars, good news that I can prepare to put G in the sugar grave yard......

But, not just yet. He is in the Sugar mortuary. Who knows, he may come back from the dead?

Meanwhile, I'm having a new found love affair with Craig's List! :)

Baby Bow x

Spring/Summer Sugar Wishlist

Today was my arranged dinner with Ducky, and as you already know I planned on dining like a Queen. Well I decided to cancel due to being a lazy ass and not wanting to miss out on a little family get-together.

Rest assured, I have rescheduled for during the week, and Ive managed to move it to a full on dinner date, think of the courses, think of the food! So much more room for teasing Ducky, maybe not so much room in my dress.

Also, rest assured amid the canceled lunch date I have not gone hungry, I decided to eat like a Queen anyway and I'm currently munching on a Cadburys cream egg and drinking tea as we speak. I plan on a long power plate session this evening so I'm enjoying every piece of chocolaty egg gooyness!

I'm loving secret diary of a call girl, I'm not sure of you guys in the USA get to see this, maybe you can find it online? Its a British TV show of the book, formally a blog, Belle De Jour - Dairy of a London call girl. In the UK its a pretty popular show, and there is more hype over the last few months as the real life Belle behind the blog revealed herself. The blog is still running, and it can be found under the 'blogs I'm following' list. I like the fact its based on true stories, I also love that its filmed in London.

Speaking of London, Ive been mulling over London fashion week footage and been to a few party's, and its made me want to shop. In times like this I like to write a list of things I might like, to stop impulse buying and because thinking about it sometimes is better than the actual owning :)

• Jimmy Choo Quinze - This is certainly the case of 'thinking about it is better than the owning' as at £1095 of my British pounds, I'm not sure I could ever warrant such an amount on shoes that look like they would attract every particle of dirt on every London street. But alas, they are beautiful.


• An Ibiza holiday - The girls and I would like to take a little holiday to Ibiza, its somewhere I have never been but only a few hours away, so it would be rude not to.


• The first Christian Louboutins Cat Burglar Barbie Doll - purely to collect (OK, maybe to play with, maybe, in private...) I'm not keen on the newest addition, is it just me or does she look like a hooker?


• Creme De La Mer - I would like to start taking care of my skin, and I refuse to do so until I can do so with this bad boy. I also would like the serum. The cream of the sea will be mine :)
• An Apple Airbook - my laptop is gorgeous and pink but its heavy to carry around so id like something a little more lightweight

5 things - i wonder how many I can tick off. Hmmm, I've finished off my cream egg so I'm calling G to see if he can be roped into any of the above!

Love, Baby Bow xx

A quiet week in Sugar world, so let me introduce...

Ducky.

Ducky contacted me on Seeking Arrangement.com back when I had a profile on there, which was at least 3 months ago now.

At the time, I was corresponding with many pots and I felt busy with many dates planned. I was at the whittling down stage. Because of this, I let Ducky slide, but he remained in the sidelines and we kept in touch. I was honest and explained I had met someone and I was happy dating him, but he still shot me the occasional text or call to check in with my world.

This week, although a welcome break of downtime in my personal life, in the sugar world it has been quiet. Mr Perfect is getting his feet back on the ground after travels we are not meeting until next week. G, although we planned to get lunch midweek (on allowance day, I might add) he canceled on me.

Id like to think G is very real and reliable,he is on his first strike.

Because of this, when I had a friendly little text from Ducky this week I decided why the hell not. Ive always been put of by this man as he has the funniest voice. Seriously it sounds like I'm on the phone with a cartoon character or something... I can only imagine what that would sound like in bed. Fancy f*cking daffy duck anyone?

So this weekend I'm off to meet him, by a pond in London. Only kidding, we will meet at the Ritz for lunch.

I'm a little wary about Ducky before I even meet him, as he has raised a few alarm bells in my mind during previous conversations. The first, was a picture I sent him. He called me to tell me how beautiful I am, lovely I thought - I do like a compliment. He then went on to say how I looked like I had lost a lot of weight since the Seeking Arrangement.com pictures, and I looked better for it. Well, Sugars, I had not lost any weight between pictures. Even if I had, I am very happy with myself. I'm a UK size 10/US 6 with curves I am very proud of. Sure, i wouldn't put up a fight if a few pounds wanted to migrate for the summer, or if my arms got that little bit tighter, but I'm not able to get all paranoid about it. I couldnt care less!

So this comment, whilst I'm sure he meant it as a compliment, I have taken the wrong/right way. I'm not sure how it was aimed.

To the back of my mind this comment went, and I proceeded to arrange a meeting with him. Then, a second blow. When asking where to meet, and him suggesting the Ritz, I suggest Lunch. " Bow, why don't we just meet for Champagne"? Because its lunch time, and il want to eat lunch, jackass. "Bow, champagne is better for you". I like my curves where they are thank you, so either take me for lunch, or loose them - i replied.

Needless to say, we are now going for lunch and I wouldn't miss it for the world. I plan on eating 3 courses, something I never do at midday, just to prove a point. I will eat like a Lioness, and I will drink Champagne like a king. I hope he bought his black Amex.

If Ducky thinks he can physiologically get one over on me, he has another thing coming, Il walk all over him!

PS. I may have read too much into his two comments, and I'm sure il get a 'feel' for him once we meet. If he was a controlling, weight conscious man, id be sure never to see him again. I feel very strongly about men like this, and I am the most powerful one, I demand to be treated as such. From all our correspondence - bar these two comments - he has been gentlemanly and kind :)

This has made me hungry! I'm off to eat a big bowl of coco pops!

Love Baby Bow xx

First♥Second♥Third Date Tips

This is my second post in one day, as I feel my blog has been quiet over the last week and I like to post at least once every week. I don't like to post just for the sake of posting, so I like to think of new topics id enjoy reading myself.

Over the last few days I checked my E-mail and I had a few very sweet e-mails asking a little about dating advice, and outfits that kind of thing. I think its sweet anyone would think to even email me to ask, so after reading and replying to these e-mails I thought why not blog and share my personal favorite tips and if anyone wants to do a similar blog id love to read it. I also had a cute e-mail asking if id be someones Mentor, and although I don't think I'm quite up there that's very very flattering and I do love to help anybody so that made me smile :)

When it comes to dating whether or not you met them through a sugar website it can be very nerve wracking, even if your the most confident person ever. I find that the more dates you go on the more used to it you get, in fact I feel like I'm a little bit addicted to dating. I love the butterfly's and learning all about someone as I'm quite romantic and I love to be wined and dined!

Here are my tips I use all the time :)

Research, Research, Research

A little research goes a long way. This can be from actually googling your date, which sounds a little creepy but a lot of people do it, especially when you have 'met' someone over the Internet. It helps to keep you safe as if they have messed a lot of girls around their details will come up on 'bad sugar daddy black list' websites - SD's be warned!

It will let you confirm their job, and that they are who they say they are. If this keeps you safe in my eyes it cant be bad so google away!

Apart from the safety reasons, it can help you strike some common ground with your date. I'm not saying a date is like a job interview, but you should always go into any kind of 'meeting' knowing what you are talking about. If you have a little idea of his role at work, or his company, this will impress him and its always good to take an interest anyway. Obviously be subtle and don't mention it first hand, but if the subject comes up you will have a little head start!

Know where your going

Google comes in handy yet again! As soon as I know where my date is taking me I google it.

The kind of things I want to know is where the nearest tube is, so that I know my journey and journey time. You don't want to be stressed on the day of a date, but relaxed. Make sure you know how your getting to A to B and if its far id expect to be picked up, but on the very first meeting its safer to meet in a public place not a car!

Once you know where you will be going, decide where you will meet and make it clear. I have had numerous guys take me out and say 'meet me at the Dorchester' for example, only to wait outside whilst Ive gone in and got a coffee at the bar to escape the cold!

If your eating my top top top tip is google the menu. Go to the website of where you are going and decide what you might like to eat. I find eating on dates quite hard, I never want to order the most expensive thing, yet not the cheapest and these are natural feelings we all have. If you go in there knowing what you might like, when the waiter offers you the menu you wont have to bury your pretty head in it for 20 minutes, you can have a quick look and confidently know.

This is also important if its a french restaurant or a different nationality, you have time to make sure you know how to pronounce things if you dont already know, so as to not look too silly :)

How to Dress?

There isn't really a 'how to dress' - just dress like you. If im being taken to an upscale hotel or restaurant I personally like a classy dress. I like a shift dress or a pencil dress, with understated make up and glamorous hair. I accessorise with sky high heels and I might show my personality through jewelry and my bag.

If its a more casual date il dress down a little, just go with what makes you feel comfortable and confident. Men don't really care, as long as you look polished. That is my golden rule, look polished and groomed and the details wont matter!

Getting Intimate?

I think its paramount on the first date you keep all intimacy for later. If you like the guy and decide you would like a second date, do not kiss, other than on the cheeks (of his face :)

This obviously goes for anything more than kissing too! Read the Rules book, it works for Sugar Daddy's too.

And last, certainly not least just relax. The man you are meeting will have worried so much more than you, he has a beautiful woman to entertain, so let him do the entertaining. If conversation takes a quite turn, relax. You don't have to fill in every gap, let him do that if he likes. Don't over compensate. Do show the best of yourself, in a refined, demure and classy manor. Be positive, Smile, and laugh lots - just be yourself :)

If all else fails, remember this story I will tell below, of a little date I went on - and remember - it cant be as bad as that!!!

I met a 'pot' from Aeeking Arrangement at a seafood bar and restaurant . I like seafood and I generally know my way around posh cutlery lay outs, little silver spoons and linen covered lemon slices - you know the kind of thing.

After our delicious starters of baked fish and roasted shellfish, my main course came. Beautiful tiger prawns with an array of sauces and implements. This being one of my very first dates of the kind, I felt quite nervous and the glass of wine on an empty stomach had hit me harder than I thought. As the waiter put down a little bowl of lemon sliced water, I barely considered its use.

With one hand, after breaking the long head from the prawn and undressing its shell, I dipped the beautiful gorgeousness straight into the lemony water, and straight into my mouth.

YES. I dipped a prawn, into a bowl of water you wash your hands in. I then ate it.

Luckily, my date found this endearing and wished to see me again. So there you have it, you might have a few 'uhoh moments' but they add sparkle to the date...

If they dont, you have a great little story to tell and some experience under your belt!

Best Wishes,

Baby Bow xx

Will the real Baby Bow please stand up...

Hello Dolls!

You may have noticed 'two' baby bow profiles following your blog if I am a regular reader, do not panic, its only me!

Ive had a message on the book of face, wondering if there is a 'hoax bow' as there seems to be two profiles using my name and picture, but don't worry, there isn't. I recently changed the admin address to my blog and a few other personal details, just because this is a private blog and I think people should respect that and not try to work out who is behind it. In doing so I decided to create a new account.

I then lost all of my favorite blogs, so I followed again with my new account, so that I don't miss reading your blog. Whilst doing so, I couldn't work out how to delete my old following 'badge' and profile. I think Ive worked it out - but I'm a sugar baby not too techy so its the best I can do :-)

Now that Ive put a few peoples mind at rest, here is other news fresh from London!

This week I have been over in Africa with a friend of mine. This friend is quite well known in the sporting world and Ive known him for years as he was a childhood friend. Whilst in Africa we met and had the best time, I went out to dinner at the most fabulous restaurant, and after got picked up by his driver. We partied at a club by the pool on a cabana, had a penthouse party and generally excessed in all ways!

The next day my girlfriends and I woke up to the sound of the sea, and the sound of our ears ringing. Its safe to say I spent that whole next day in bed and missed all of the beautiful African sunshine. A peanut butter smoothie was all I could manage before I was homeward bound!

Since Ive been back Ive been so into cooking, I feel like a domestic goddess in training. Ive found some amazing cookery blogs and im training my self to be the ultimate wife!

I made some delicious Rocky Roads which im going to give to Mr Perfect as a treat, now that he is home from his travels. I love it so much im thinking of starting my own cookery blog or youtube videos, I want to be the next July and Julia!

Kisses, Baby Bow xx

What its like to date an older man...

Recently I read an article in The Times that got me thinking. It was an account of life with an older man, written by a girl married to a rock star 20 years her senior. It was written from a positive perspective of the ups and the downs, but mainly of the ups...

This is something I am very passionate about, and a topic that melts in with Sugar dating quite well. I really do not understand the taboo towards age-gap relationships. Just because you are 20-something, 30-something, 40 something - does this automatically mean you should end up with someone within this little age bubble?

Personally, I have always been attracted to men older than myself. I am quite disenchanted with men my own age. To me, an age gap is natural, not daunting. I like the different perspectives and experiences that an age gap offers, and in the past its happened without me seeking it out.

Then comes the way you get treated by an older man. By no means are only older men gentleman, but most seem to come from the old school of manners, they are more comfortable and confident with old fashioned chivalry. Whilst they might not be any more cultured than younger men, they have life experience to draw from. Their longer time on the planet means these pearls of wisdom can be passed onto you.

Its a novelty to be treated like a lady. Some like it, some don't...... I do.

I like to relax and have a man take care of the small things, being taken out and feeling spoilt. Being made to feel like paying for the occasional dinner is the most generous act imaginable. Being made to feel like that little gift you bought him was the most innovative and inspiring gift he could ever imagine.

Old Fashioned Chivalry makes you feel special. I appreciate and notice good manors. A man standing up when you get back to the dinner table, walking on the road side of the pavement, opening the car door, treating you with respect - all incredibly romantic gestures in the least flashy way possible.

This brings me to thinking. After reading a few blogs recently, both here on blogger and over at world press, it seems to me some girls are very uncomfortable with the idea of dating an older man. It seems to me they have been sucked in by the 'gifts and money' and would not been seen dead with the guy in question otherwise. This is not a good idea, you are selling yourself for a gift that will hold no value later in life, and will probably live to regret it. You are wasting time you could spend meeting people you actually like. You are selling yourself short, no matter the $ you receive. It wont be enough.

What I'm trying to say is you either want to meet an older man, or you don't. I have and will always date men older than myself, whether that's a few years or 20 years, it makes no odds to me. Wether or not money was involved, that makes no odds to me either. The last man I fell in love with was 35, and I would have been happy to marry him. He wasn't a 'sugar daddy', just a successful older man who I genuinely loved.

So I have put this together with looking for a Sugar Daddy, and its the best of both worlds all mixed together for me. Its the older man, the maturity and life experience that I crave, mixed with Success, passion, and power. That makes for a very happy Bow, and there is nothing wrong with that. I know what I want, and I am selecting it.

Love, Baby Bow xxx

A mid-sugar update

This week Ive spent a few days away, and have been busy planning a few little holidays over the summer. I plan to go back to Dubai to spend longer with my friend out there, and a little trip to Ibiza or Marbella during the summer with some of my friends.

I went shopping whilst in NY recently, and I have to say you American girls are so lucky to have Forever 21 and Victoria's Secret - why don't they come to the UK! I bought some jeans from Forever 21, I would usually only try to stick to designer jeans as I think there worth the investment for fit and the amount of times you wear them - but these are so cute. They are cropped with turn up and a tan studded skinny belt.

In Victoria's Secret I love their secret garden range, so I bought the whole range of 'Pure Seduction' the body wash, moisturisers, body sprays and perfume. I smell of Seduction from head to toe! I also bought some of their new coconut passion range, yummy.

Sugar wise I am at a cross road and there isn't too much to say. Mr Perfect is overseas on business, but checks in with me most days. We get together on his return. Mr G and I are in contact, but I haven't seen him since my last post as he and I have both been away.

In other Mr G news he has invited me to see him later next week, and I have given him a time frame for my allowance. That may seem a little direct, but its the only way to be and he has responded well. He has also said he would help me out with something that has to be done by the end of this month - hence the time frame. I expect to receive it soon, and then I can fully relax as I know we are both serious. I think getting over that first hurdle is important, and then once that investment of both £ and trust is made I can fully invest in our relationship.

I hope every ones having fun, oh and Ive lost a lot of the blogs I was following so if you have a private invite only blog please send me an invite again to myaccount74@hotmail.co.uk. Thank you :-)

Monday Morning Love,

Baby Bow x

The Big A - Allowence discussions!

I thought id do a post on the big A and how to...

• Work out what you need/want
• Consider how to use it
• Choose how to recieve it
  

I admit I'm not particularly an expert, but I usually am confident enough to strike up this conversation, and I know how to read men and give them that kick up the butt they usually need! I also thought it would be an interesting post, as everyone has different views and tips, so please feel free to share your own in a post or in my comments. If we all share our tips, we will be a new breed of super baby's! :D

Deciding the how, when and what with regards to your allowance or monetary gifts usually comes naturally, as you know yourself what would help. This is personal and will vary from Sugar baby to Sugar baby.

The How...

There are several ways you can arrange the monthly or weekly allowance. Some ways include -

• Prepaid Credit Card - You have a set amount, no 'overdraft', can withdraw at ATMs
  
• Credit Card - A credit card in your name on your Sugar Daddy's account


• Cash - Old fashioned brown (pink?) envelope full of spondoolies


• Electronic - PayPal or similar

My favorite way is a Pre Paid Credit Card. Reasons being, Obviously cash is simple, BUT this can be problematic - it can seem too transactional. A Pre Paid Credit Card is great because its all yours, not attached to his account so you can use it as you like, you can still withdraw at ATMS and put into your own bank if you like, you can also use online and in stores. It will be automatically set up to 'refill' every month. We all like a bit of refilling! Also... you don't have to have the whole conversation every few weeks like you will do with cash if your Sugar Daddy is of the forgetful variety! Carrying cash is a little unsafe too.

My least favorite way is a Credit card on his account, most daddy's are economically savvy and wont favor credit cards anyway as the high charges plus you don't have a limit which may sound appealing but how will you know what you can spend? You may think its appropriate to spend £1000 on a shopping spree, he may have intended you to be more conservative and use it for bills. I'm also not a fan of Paypal, its ok for the first few times but you need to check its in there, wait for it to clear, they take a cut etc and it may not be automatic every month.

When?

You decide on monthly, weekly, whatever works for you. I think Monthly is good as long as you are seeing each other quite regularly. It all less transactional and weekly can easily fall into the 'pay for play' category if its not set up well.

What?

I think a good starting point for an allowance is your rent + your bills + a little to spend on whatever you like = a good allowance. If you work this is perfect as it allowes you to invest and use your wage packet for whatever you like knowing that some of the main things are covered.

Personally, I am happy with an allowance of between 3-4K a month. This works out at a grand a week, and would allow me to save/invest maybe 2K each month, and still live a comfortable life with plenty of money for the little things that make us smile :)

I have in the past had higher allowances, but a little less is better than nothing. I also find lots of potential Sugar Daddy's who fall into the 3-4 K category, where as the higher guys are harder to come across. As long as your chosen Daddy has potential, you will be able to up your allowance at a later date in most situations, once you have bonded well.

*Don't forget, 3-4 K in one currency, is not 3-4 K in another. If your talking to an international daddy make sure your not cutting yourself short. Seeking Arrangement for example uses $ as a guideline. If your a UK baby, this amount will be roughly half in pounds - not as interesting as it first looked.

Check the exchange rate and be smart. At the moment £1 is equal to $1.56 dollars. So my set allowance of 3-4k in GBP is equal to $4,700-$6,261 in USD. If your a USA baby, and followed my guidelines your allowance will be between roughly 5 and 6 k.

Being Smart About Money

Its tempting to create a huge wish list of things you want to spend your allowance on, and its exciting to do. I think for the first few allowances you should try to consider clearing any debts you have, maybe paying of credit cards etc. Its also a good idea to keep a 'float' of money in your bank account, try keeping it so that it never falls less than 4 figures. This is a good back up, as you never know when the arrangement could come to an end.

If your Sugar Daddy is in the financial world, maybe a banker or a broker, pick his brains at how to invest wisely. Maybe you want to play around with some extra money and invest. If your lucky, he might set you up with a little stocks and shares account and give you some tips.

Budget well as a Sugar Baby too, be smart and save for the future. Budget at least half of your allowance into savings, if you can. Those shoes you want could be included into shopping trips with your new Sugar Daddy, or you could send him an online link!

Ive as usual gone on and on :) So Ive missed out the actual conversation and stumbling blocks you may find when you broach the subject with your Pot. That's coming up in my next post!

Kisses, Baby Bow xxx

Saved by Channel ♥ CC

Yesterday I committed a cardinal sin of sugar dating, or well, dating in general.

I didn't realise id done it until it was too late...

DUN

DUN

DUN!

I wore the same outfit! EEEK¬! :-)

By the time I got to my date with 'Mr Date' it was early afternoon. We met at a well known hotel in London, and I saw him as soon as I walked into the lobby. He was dressed smartly like always and greeted me with a hug.

We decided to get something to eat in the restaurant inside hotel, for ease and because we were both hungry by now.

The restaurant was a kind of Chinese with a twist, where they served Asian flavoured burgers if such things exist. I went for a plate of rice with shrimp and chicken, and Mr Date went for a big bowl of noodles.

I have to admit the date was dire. If this had been the first time I had met him, we would have never met again. Conversation was almost all one sided, and as I chatted away he stared blankly at me or checked his blackberry that was persistently bleeping.

He told me he was very happy to see me, but the atmosphere pointed to the contrary. Lunch felt rushed and I was with him for all of about an hour. The only saving grace he had was that he did mention he had a lot going on that day, business wise, and he seemed a little apprehensions about that.

It made me wonder, did we ever get along very well, or did I look at our chemistry with rose tinted glasses? Maybe, but I'm sure he was making minimum effort possible yesterday.

Mr Date is being laid to rest in my sugar world, and he joins the sugar grave yard of past potentials, who tried, but failed to win me over.

It was as I walked out of the hotel, that I started thinking about my next meeting with 'G', and it was then I realised I was committing the shameful outfit crime. Luckily, I am sure 'G' is probably the least fashion or outfit savvy man around, and whilst I'm sure he appreciates a women who looks good - I doubt he takes into account details and features of ones outfit.

Luckier still, the outfit as you may recall from my previous post was pretty inconspicuous and casual, Black tunic, Biker boots, Cashmere Coat. I still felt I needed one little thing to change the look, and once I looked in my bag I realised I could fix myself up a little wardrobe on the go!

In my bag I had some Kirby grips, so I secured my hair all to one side in a chignon.

I then found my Chanel pearls hanging around in my bag, 3 strands white pearls with a Chanel black bow, and the Chanel white flower with a discreet and gold 'cc' on one of its petals. I took of my McQueen scarf (RIP McQueen, sad news, admired artist) and added the pearls. I hope this made the same outfit look different enough to get away with!

I had a few hours to spare before I met G, so whats a girl to do. Well when in London, shop! I headed to the flagship Topshop on Oxford Circus and picked myself up a Christopher Kane for Topshop brown lace dress in the sale it was £15 what a bargain... I also made a mental note to come back here and have eyelash extensions done in their eyelash bar in store.

By now my feet hurt but I soldier on and Arrive at out meeting point (One thing I like about G is that he meets me in very convenient places and is relaxed with regards to where) I was still a little early, so whats a girl to do? That's right. I found a Dune shoes and was in the shop looking at the prettiest flat sandals covered in crystals when he called me.

Outside the store I noticed him, and it was quite funny watching him when he didn't realise I could see, ehehehe evil me. So I went over, gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek (ONE kiss on one cheek, I remembered from last time. I always do the two kisses, one on each cheek and I think again this shows a difference in hmmmm....cant think of the word... CLASS sounds awful. But that's kind of what I mean...?) I dont mean to come across as a snob because I am not, and I dont care about peoples backgrounds and walk of life, im just very observent so I notice things like that.

We decided to go to a local sports bar. Very laid back and down to earth and we drank beer and I nibbled on chicken wings and hot sauce. I actually had one million times more fun with G than with Mr Date, and I think we spent a few hours in there.

G bought up the face-to-face allowance talk, which was much appreciated. He has had a similar relationship in the past, and he told me her allowance - quite causally - was 2.5k a week. He made a point of saying that was after a long time together and they were very happy, but its just nice to know he has that potential I suppose. To be honest, that's more than I ever imagine. But it is nice to imagine.

I had such a great time with G that I decided I was too hasty last week, and I'm very glad that we met again. He is an absolute gentleman and I don't feel any pressure to sleep with him, or to look spotless at all times - I though as I had hot sauce all over my mouth at one point :-)

I think this counts for something, and he made it clear everything is on my terms, even how often we see each other. I think its a good deal if it all rings true.

Il do another post on exactly what allowance he offered and what kind of relationship we would have. This post is getting long and id like to post on how I work out allowances and tips on conversations surrounding them, as they can be tricky.

Weekend Kisses!
Baby Bow xx