What its like to date an older man...

Recently I read an article in The Times that got me thinking. It was an account of life with an older man, written by a girl married to a rock star 20 years her senior. It was written from a positive perspective of the ups and the downs, but mainly of the ups...

This is something I am very passionate about, and a topic that melts in with Sugar dating quite well. I really do not understand the taboo towards age-gap relationships. Just because you are 20-something, 30-something, 40 something - does this automatically mean you should end up with someone within this little age bubble?

Personally, I have always been attracted to men older than myself. I am quite disenchanted with men my own age. To me, an age gap is natural, not daunting. I like the different perspectives and experiences that an age gap offers, and in the past its happened without me seeking it out.

Then comes the way you get treated by an older man. By no means are only older men gentleman, but most seem to come from the old school of manners, they are more comfortable and confident with old fashioned chivalry. Whilst they might not be any more cultured than younger men, they have life experience to draw from. Their longer time on the planet means these pearls of wisdom can be passed onto you.

Its a novelty to be treated like a lady. Some like it, some don't...... I do.

I like to relax and have a man take care of the small things, being taken out and feeling spoilt. Being made to feel like paying for the occasional dinner is the most generous act imaginable. Being made to feel like that little gift you bought him was the most innovative and inspiring gift he could ever imagine.

Old Fashioned Chivalry makes you feel special. I appreciate and notice good manors. A man standing up when you get back to the dinner table, walking on the road side of the pavement, opening the car door, treating you with respect - all incredibly romantic gestures in the least flashy way possible.

This brings me to thinking. After reading a few blogs recently, both here on blogger and over at world press, it seems to me some girls are very uncomfortable with the idea of dating an older man. It seems to me they have been sucked in by the 'gifts and money' and would not been seen dead with the guy in question otherwise. This is not a good idea, you are selling yourself for a gift that will hold no value later in life, and will probably live to regret it. You are wasting time you could spend meeting people you actually like. You are selling yourself short, no matter the $ you receive. It wont be enough.

What I'm trying to say is you either want to meet an older man, or you don't. I have and will always date men older than myself, whether that's a few years or 20 years, it makes no odds to me. Wether or not money was involved, that makes no odds to me either. The last man I fell in love with was 35, and I would have been happy to marry him. He wasn't a 'sugar daddy', just a successful older man who I genuinely loved.

So I have put this together with looking for a Sugar Daddy, and its the best of both worlds all mixed together for me. Its the older man, the maturity and life experience that I crave, mixed with Success, passion, and power. That makes for a very happy Bow, and there is nothing wrong with that. I know what I want, and I am selecting it.

Love, Baby Bow xxx

A mid-sugar update

This week Ive spent a few days away, and have been busy planning a few little holidays over the summer. I plan to go back to Dubai to spend longer with my friend out there, and a little trip to Ibiza or Marbella during the summer with some of my friends.

I went shopping whilst in NY recently, and I have to say you American girls are so lucky to have Forever 21 and Victoria's Secret - why don't they come to the UK! I bought some jeans from Forever 21, I would usually only try to stick to designer jeans as I think there worth the investment for fit and the amount of times you wear them - but these are so cute. They are cropped with turn up and a tan studded skinny belt.

In Victoria's Secret I love their secret garden range, so I bought the whole range of 'Pure Seduction' the body wash, moisturisers, body sprays and perfume. I smell of Seduction from head to toe! I also bought some of their new coconut passion range, yummy.

Sugar wise I am at a cross road and there isn't too much to say. Mr Perfect is overseas on business, but checks in with me most days. We get together on his return. Mr G and I are in contact, but I haven't seen him since my last post as he and I have both been away.

In other Mr G news he has invited me to see him later next week, and I have given him a time frame for my allowance. That may seem a little direct, but its the only way to be and he has responded well. He has also said he would help me out with something that has to be done by the end of this month - hence the time frame. I expect to receive it soon, and then I can fully relax as I know we are both serious. I think getting over that first hurdle is important, and then once that investment of both £ and trust is made I can fully invest in our relationship.

I hope every ones having fun, oh and Ive lost a lot of the blogs I was following so if you have a private invite only blog please send me an invite again to myaccount74@hotmail.co.uk. Thank you :-)

Monday Morning Love,

Baby Bow x

The Big A - Allowence discussions!

I thought id do a post on the big A and how to...

• Work out what you need/want
• Consider how to use it
• Choose how to recieve it
  

I admit I'm not particularly an expert, but I usually am confident enough to strike up this conversation, and I know how to read men and give them that kick up the butt they usually need! I also thought it would be an interesting post, as everyone has different views and tips, so please feel free to share your own in a post or in my comments. If we all share our tips, we will be a new breed of super baby's! :D

Deciding the how, when and what with regards to your allowance or monetary gifts usually comes naturally, as you know yourself what would help. This is personal and will vary from Sugar baby to Sugar baby.

The How...

There are several ways you can arrange the monthly or weekly allowance. Some ways include -

• Prepaid Credit Card - You have a set amount, no 'overdraft', can withdraw at ATMs
  
• Credit Card - A credit card in your name on your Sugar Daddy's account


• Cash - Old fashioned brown (pink?) envelope full of spondoolies


• Electronic - PayPal or similar

My favorite way is a Pre Paid Credit Card. Reasons being, Obviously cash is simple, BUT this can be problematic - it can seem too transactional. A Pre Paid Credit Card is great because its all yours, not attached to his account so you can use it as you like, you can still withdraw at ATMS and put into your own bank if you like, you can also use online and in stores. It will be automatically set up to 'refill' every month. We all like a bit of refilling! Also... you don't have to have the whole conversation every few weeks like you will do with cash if your Sugar Daddy is of the forgetful variety! Carrying cash is a little unsafe too.

My least favorite way is a Credit card on his account, most daddy's are economically savvy and wont favor credit cards anyway as the high charges plus you don't have a limit which may sound appealing but how will you know what you can spend? You may think its appropriate to spend £1000 on a shopping spree, he may have intended you to be more conservative and use it for bills. I'm also not a fan of Paypal, its ok for the first few times but you need to check its in there, wait for it to clear, they take a cut etc and it may not be automatic every month.

When?

You decide on monthly, weekly, whatever works for you. I think Monthly is good as long as you are seeing each other quite regularly. It all less transactional and weekly can easily fall into the 'pay for play' category if its not set up well.

What?

I think a good starting point for an allowance is your rent + your bills + a little to spend on whatever you like = a good allowance. If you work this is perfect as it allowes you to invest and use your wage packet for whatever you like knowing that some of the main things are covered.

Personally, I am happy with an allowance of between 3-4K a month. This works out at a grand a week, and would allow me to save/invest maybe 2K each month, and still live a comfortable life with plenty of money for the little things that make us smile :)

I have in the past had higher allowances, but a little less is better than nothing. I also find lots of potential Sugar Daddy's who fall into the 3-4 K category, where as the higher guys are harder to come across. As long as your chosen Daddy has potential, you will be able to up your allowance at a later date in most situations, once you have bonded well.

*Don't forget, 3-4 K in one currency, is not 3-4 K in another. If your talking to an international daddy make sure your not cutting yourself short. Seeking Arrangement for example uses $ as a guideline. If your a UK baby, this amount will be roughly half in pounds - not as interesting as it first looked.

Check the exchange rate and be smart. At the moment £1 is equal to $1.56 dollars. So my set allowance of 3-4k in GBP is equal to $4,700-$6,261 in USD. If your a USA baby, and followed my guidelines your allowance will be between roughly 5 and 6 k.

Being Smart About Money

Its tempting to create a huge wish list of things you want to spend your allowance on, and its exciting to do. I think for the first few allowances you should try to consider clearing any debts you have, maybe paying of credit cards etc. Its also a good idea to keep a 'float' of money in your bank account, try keeping it so that it never falls less than 4 figures. This is a good back up, as you never know when the arrangement could come to an end.

If your Sugar Daddy is in the financial world, maybe a banker or a broker, pick his brains at how to invest wisely. Maybe you want to play around with some extra money and invest. If your lucky, he might set you up with a little stocks and shares account and give you some tips.

Budget well as a Sugar Baby too, be smart and save for the future. Budget at least half of your allowance into savings, if you can. Those shoes you want could be included into shopping trips with your new Sugar Daddy, or you could send him an online link!

Ive as usual gone on and on :) So Ive missed out the actual conversation and stumbling blocks you may find when you broach the subject with your Pot. That's coming up in my next post!

Kisses, Baby Bow xxx

Saved by Channel ♥ CC

Yesterday I committed a cardinal sin of sugar dating, or well, dating in general.

I didn't realise id done it until it was too late...

DUN

DUN

DUN!

I wore the same outfit! EEEK¬! :-)

By the time I got to my date with 'Mr Date' it was early afternoon. We met at a well known hotel in London, and I saw him as soon as I walked into the lobby. He was dressed smartly like always and greeted me with a hug.

We decided to get something to eat in the restaurant inside hotel, for ease and because we were both hungry by now.

The restaurant was a kind of Chinese with a twist, where they served Asian flavoured burgers if such things exist. I went for a plate of rice with shrimp and chicken, and Mr Date went for a big bowl of noodles.

I have to admit the date was dire. If this had been the first time I had met him, we would have never met again. Conversation was almost all one sided, and as I chatted away he stared blankly at me or checked his blackberry that was persistently bleeping.

He told me he was very happy to see me, but the atmosphere pointed to the contrary. Lunch felt rushed and I was with him for all of about an hour. The only saving grace he had was that he did mention he had a lot going on that day, business wise, and he seemed a little apprehensions about that.

It made me wonder, did we ever get along very well, or did I look at our chemistry with rose tinted glasses? Maybe, but I'm sure he was making minimum effort possible yesterday.

Mr Date is being laid to rest in my sugar world, and he joins the sugar grave yard of past potentials, who tried, but failed to win me over.

It was as I walked out of the hotel, that I started thinking about my next meeting with 'G', and it was then I realised I was committing the shameful outfit crime. Luckily, I am sure 'G' is probably the least fashion or outfit savvy man around, and whilst I'm sure he appreciates a women who looks good - I doubt he takes into account details and features of ones outfit.

Luckier still, the outfit as you may recall from my previous post was pretty inconspicuous and casual, Black tunic, Biker boots, Cashmere Coat. I still felt I needed one little thing to change the look, and once I looked in my bag I realised I could fix myself up a little wardrobe on the go!

In my bag I had some Kirby grips, so I secured my hair all to one side in a chignon.

I then found my Chanel pearls hanging around in my bag, 3 strands white pearls with a Chanel black bow, and the Chanel white flower with a discreet and gold 'cc' on one of its petals. I took of my McQueen scarf (RIP McQueen, sad news, admired artist) and added the pearls. I hope this made the same outfit look different enough to get away with!

I had a few hours to spare before I met G, so whats a girl to do. Well when in London, shop! I headed to the flagship Topshop on Oxford Circus and picked myself up a Christopher Kane for Topshop brown lace dress in the sale it was £15 what a bargain... I also made a mental note to come back here and have eyelash extensions done in their eyelash bar in store.

By now my feet hurt but I soldier on and Arrive at out meeting point (One thing I like about G is that he meets me in very convenient places and is relaxed with regards to where) I was still a little early, so whats a girl to do? That's right. I found a Dune shoes and was in the shop looking at the prettiest flat sandals covered in crystals when he called me.

Outside the store I noticed him, and it was quite funny watching him when he didn't realise I could see, ehehehe evil me. So I went over, gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek (ONE kiss on one cheek, I remembered from last time. I always do the two kisses, one on each cheek and I think again this shows a difference in hmmmm....cant think of the word... CLASS sounds awful. But that's kind of what I mean...?) I dont mean to come across as a snob because I am not, and I dont care about peoples backgrounds and walk of life, im just very observent so I notice things like that.

We decided to go to a local sports bar. Very laid back and down to earth and we drank beer and I nibbled on chicken wings and hot sauce. I actually had one million times more fun with G than with Mr Date, and I think we spent a few hours in there.

G bought up the face-to-face allowance talk, which was much appreciated. He has had a similar relationship in the past, and he told me her allowance - quite causally - was 2.5k a week. He made a point of saying that was after a long time together and they were very happy, but its just nice to know he has that potential I suppose. To be honest, that's more than I ever imagine. But it is nice to imagine.

I had such a great time with G that I decided I was too hasty last week, and I'm very glad that we met again. He is an absolute gentleman and I don't feel any pressure to sleep with him, or to look spotless at all times - I though as I had hot sauce all over my mouth at one point :-)

I think this counts for something, and he made it clear everything is on my terms, even how often we see each other. I think its a good deal if it all rings true.

Il do another post on exactly what allowance he offered and what kind of relationship we would have. This post is getting long and id like to post on how I work out allowances and tips on conversations surrounding them, as they can be tricky.

Weekend Kisses!
Baby Bow xx

G and Mr Date returns...

Thank you for the comments on my recent post introducing G and our first date. Its really helped me to read them and get different opinions whilst Ive been reflecting over the last few days.

One of the comments mentioned how sugar relations are not usually forever, and of course I knew this, but it hit home and made me realise who cares if I meet someone for a little while, as long as im happy with them it doesnt matter if they fit my ideal mould. The more I think about it the more I realise im looking for something laid back and temporary like this. G is like the cookie thats a little broken, still as sweet but just not as perfect as the picture you had in your mind...

Today I received a message from Mr Date, and he asked to take me for Lunch tomorrow. We have kept in touch but I have kept him at arms length after meeting pots who I admire and have more faith in than him. Saying that, I still like the guy and I do have time for him on my terms.

Ive decided, that tomorrow I will meet him for lunch. Il post after the date, although I see nothing more than lunch and a little catch up happening, and I'm quite happy with that. Whilst I'm in central London I decided to get the ball rolling and use my time wisely, so I have decided to meet G for drinks afterwards.

I have come to the conclusion that one date is probably not sufficient to base anything on, as I could tell G had some nerves going on and I am hoping a second time he would relax - allowing me to imagine an arrangement with him better.

Ive kept in touch with him since our last date last week, and I laid on the table what I wanted to see from him. We are going to meet again tomorrow and have a few drinks, to discuss and negotiate. Ive come to the conclusion that id be silly to not take him seriously as he has so many good points, even if he does not fit my 'sugar mould' exactly. Maybe that's refreshing? Who knows.

I know, if my vibes are right and if he is truthful, that I could get this whole thing started, allowance and all within one more date. Tomorrows date would be my starting point to plan this. Ive already made it clear, as I always do, that sex is a natural development for me. And sex does not equal allowance - i am not a hooker and I am not being 'paid' for anything.

G is a gentleman, takes this seriously and is a great sugar catch. He may not have swept me off my Louboutins but that doesn't mean he isn't worth my time. He is. How many sugar daddys actually research and read Sugar 101 just to make sure they 'get' it and that their Sugar baby will be a happy baby. I think that should stand for something!

So that's my day ahead planned. Lunch with Date, and drinks with G. Il of course update the little details, and I'm interested to see what G is going to 'lay out on the sugar table'!

By the way, I have so much going on with Mr Perfect, the funniest stories that would be so great to blog about. Its like a little adventure and my friends and I find it all so amusing and amazing. But for some reason I'm holding off letting it all go on here about him, I feel like guarding him. We are still 'dating' and I'm enjoying every minute.

Love, Baby Bow x

Tart with a Cart, Trolly Dolly, Sky Harlot!

Being a flight attendant, or as I like to say 'Air stewardess' is a somewhat lusted after job. It appears to be very glamorous, chic, and oh-so-international. We carry with us connotations where ever we go, who ever we meet - see http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sky%20harlots and people have a preconception of what you are like the minute you answer that you 'fly the skys' for a living.
Ive had a little interest in my blog via emails and comments, relating to this side of my life rather than the sugar. I though id post entirely on what its like, how to do it, and how to start.

Firstly you have to pick an airline. I work for a major UK international carrier, and its the company I always wanted to work for. I decided I liked them, and I went for it. Nothing else would do (In the UK admittedly we have far fewer to choose from)
If you choose a short-haul airline, it will be a completely different job to the one I'm about to explain. This is because you will work different hours, fly back and fourth domestically or short distances, sometimes up to 3 or 4 sectors a day. You wont see anything of the country or state, your lifestyle will literally be on board that plane. That's not to say its a bad job, its still more exciting that 9-5 in an office I guess, and I hear the money is good at short haul level. It also means you will be home every night, ideal for having a life outside of work and of course if you have a family or children.

I am a long haul stewardess. This means my flight times are at minimum 6-7 hours, and at most 12-14 hours. I have to legally stay where ever I fly for the minimum of one night. An example of a short 'bullet' flight like this - London to New York. A 6-7 hour flight, which allows us one night and one day in Manhattan, before checking out and working home.
Depending on the airlines schedules and many other factors including flight time limitations and time change, you will get a varying amount of time in each destination. As a general rule of thumb, when I fly to the West Coast of the USA Il spend 3 days there, so that's San Fran, Vegas, LA. When I fly to Africa/India it will usually be two nights. If I fly to some Caribbean destinations including Barbados, Havana Cuba, St Lucia, this is usually a 3-4 night stay. Then you have the longer haul trips including Sydney Australia, Hong Kong, Singapore, China, Mauritius and Indian ocean which can result in a 9 day stay.

Benefits

Every place that we fly to we get put into 5 star hotels at the other end, and we get paid an 'allowance' for being there. This is our expenses that we will incur by living away from home for 1-10 days. The rate is fabulous, usually $200 per night, and of course you never end up spending all of this, especially in quite places like the Caribbean where there is no shopping, so you can bring it home with you. This 'tops up' our money each month. As you can imagine, if we do a 9 night trip at $200 a night that can work out at almost 2k a trip.

On top of this we get our monthly wage. You can be working in Economy at the lower wage, or in First Class or be a supervisor and get paid higher up the scale. You will work your way up, even though admittedly they are not particularly great wages. Again, pay works differently between airlines, and I work at an airline well known for not paying all that well compared to some of the others - but I think we make up for it in Allowance and lifestyle.

We also then get a pay each time we fly this is called flight pay, or sector pay. So this is added to our wage packet, and obviously the more you fly the more you will earn on top of your basic salary.

The main benefit I think is our lifestyle. We get to work as little or as often as we like. There are legal implications on the amount of hours we spend in the air, so this limits your work. I usually fly 3-4 times per month, the max being 6 short flights. Some months you may just work one long flight, and have the rest of the time off. Some months you wont work at all so that your 'flying hours' are managed throughout the year, but you will still get paid your basic salary

Its a great feeling to go to work once or twice per month and still get paid the same!

Your airline will also give you great deals for your own lifestyle. Each is different, but for example I get 10 free return flights anywhere on our network per year. I am allowed to take friends with me, so if I have 3 nights on a Caribbean island I can get a friend a free ticket and bring them along! :-) We also have upgrades, so enjoy flying first class and little things like this.
I love the uniforms, that's one of the best bits! You will usually get a designer uniform, made by someone like Vivian Westwood as an example.

Not So great bits

Working strange hours can put a strain onto you physically and mentally, and is apparently not great for your body. Flying is obviously risky and you have a lot of responsibility at all times (hence the hard training)

You may find it hard to sleep at home, or to readjust to your sleeping patterns. Your internal body clock will be all over the place.

You also may find planning a social life hard as you don't know what your doing or where you will be, I think this would be harder for people with Children but saying that I know plenty of people who fly and enjoy a perfectly normal home life too. Like I said you get plenty of time off so there are ways of working it out. We also get 28 days of holiday each year which is paid.

Applications
If you like the sound of this the best thing to do is google airlines that you know have a base close by, and apply for an interview. There used to be an age limit (21-35) but they had to scrap that as its discriminative. Speaking another language/languages is fabulous and will give you an extra something. As will medical back ground like a nursing qualification for example.

There are no set qualifications and any 'courses' are just a rip off, if you are good with people and have customer service experience that's all you need :-)
You need to be tall enough to handle a door in an emergency and this can differ between airlines. I am a petite 5'3 and a half. You also cannot be too tall as some of the planes are small!

You will need to look good and be well groomed at all times, and be fit and healthy, but I think here in the UK we are more 'old school' with regards to the glamour. Ive flown with a few international airlines and been shocked at the girls nails, hair and general grooming. You also find they favour more attractive girls as cabin crew, but again that is discriminative so that's not an official thing!!
Once you decide, apply with professional photos if needed and prepare for a grueling interview. Interviews can be anything from hours to days. Mine was a full day interview, and many include 'rounds' which you will have to keep making it through before your invited to the next part, its like X factor! Mine was including Maths and English tests, Group interviews, One on One interviews, group presentation, role play... etc.

Once you get the job you will have some of the hardest training of your life (I'm very passionate that people have the preconception we are airheads and yet its one of the most intensive training programmes on which we are tested everyday) You may spend 4-8 weeks training, day in day out, with exams everyday and you get the boot if you don't pass with flying colours. You will learn survival in Antarctic conditions and at sea, be required to "ditch" into a pool, make use of all doors and slides, know every location of every piece of equipment by heart on a fleet of maybe 1-4 different aircraft models, and all the safety that goes with it and differs between each!

Its a fabulous way to see the world without 'roughing it' by backpacking, and you make some great friends :-)

I do hope I didn't bore anyone too much, but there is so much to write!

Baby Bow xx

Dates, Details, Diamonds

No Diamonds now I am afraid, but it sure sounded cute ;-)

Do you have a 'type' when it comes to Sugar Daddy's. We all know there tend to be different kinds of guys, and each provides a different experience. There are Allowance Daddy's, Gift Daddy's, Experience Daddy's, Travel Daddy's - and as I like to call them the Diamond daddy's, where id expect all of the above :-)

Well my date this week was with 'Economy Daddy' for want of a better expression. Il try to explain, and here as promised is a detailed account of our meet!

I will call him 'G' and I met him on Craigslist a few months ago. Due to him being out of the country we have only just met, although we have kept in touch and he has been patient.
G's Advert on Craigslist mentioned he would like a 'GFE - Girl Friend Experience' and was happy to provide a monthly allowance, shopping and more. He came across as kind and gentlemanly, and I had good vibes from him.

On the morning of the date and I got ready at home, before embarking on a 2 hour journey to see him. The journey does not bother me, as I am very used to traveling and I quite enjoy it. From speaking to G on the phone it was clear he was extremely laid back, and not as 'suave' 'urbane' or 'polished' as all other men I have met. I had a acute feeling he would not know his Pucci from his Gucci, so I adjusted my look and felt a lot less pressure to look flawless, like I have felt the need to in the past.

I decided on black treggings - you know, trouser legging things, with a long sleeved black tunic top. I wore black leather medium heeled biker boots over the leggings, and had my hair down, big, and blown out to perfection. My make up was natural, and I accentuated my eyes with a few eyelash extensions in the outer corners.

Over this I wore a caramel cashmere coat, with a tan leather Prada bag. I wore simple Tiffany studs, and a silver bracelet by Pandora. Around my neck I tied a Alexander McQueen Skull scarf. A very casual look, and I felt comfortable which is always important.

Off I went, and I have to say I had zero nerves. I thought at first it was the fact that I was a little un-excited (is that even a word?! It is in my mind :-) But i have come to the conclusion that the more you date, the better you get used to it. I even will go as far to say that I enjoy the lurching feeling in your stomach as you silently look around, scanning faces blindly for any likeness to that Jpeg he sent you last week. Will he be as fat? Will he be less fat? Will he be as old? What will he wear? Will be make me want to turn around and pretend I don't know who he is?! Will I feel like running over and giving him a hug?!

On this occasion, I saw him the moment I got to our meeting place, which was by the side of the River Thames. He was lent against the railings looking bigger than I imagined, but in a strong and imposing way, not a too many krispy kremes way... although admittedly, he was no stranger to a doughnut or two. With blonde hair, jeans and a leather jacket.

I greeted him, and we started heading towards a restaurant he would take me to for lunch. Straight away, he fired into a spiel, almost like a sales pitch - I put this down to his nerves, which he later admitted he had been full of before meeting me. I hope I put him at ease, but I'm not really sure he ever fully relaxed.

As we walked into the restaurant, I noticed he knew everyone there. The staff, the waiters, the owners. This is nice, but it made me feel 'on show' and a little like I was paraded around for kudos points. I greeted all with a smile, and made the most of the friendly service.

We took a look at the menu, and he kept reminding me 'I could have what ever I wanted'. Kind, you might think, and of course it was. But I have to admit, I find this annoying. I feel like saying "I KNOW I can have whatever I want, and If I cant we may as well end the date right now, because that is the main motive for my being here"

Of course Lunch isn't my 'main motive' but in sugar dating the whole point is you are treated like a lady and expensive lunches are all part and parcel. The added factor that this was a pretty but middle of the road restaurant confirmed my attitude towards things like this. I sound like a bitch? I really am not, but lets not beat around the bush :-)

Through our conversation I gather that he is in his 40's, and he owns beauty salons. He is divorced, with grown up children, some of whom are older than I am. The beauty salons are in average areas of greater London, not plush, and not somewhere id be all that interested in going in.

G is less educated than I am, but has done well for himself none the less. I admire this, but I found I was 'dumbing' myself down during conversation - certain topics were going over his head and I was adjusting myself to his level. This is a major downside to me, as I want to be constantly learning and advancing myself - something I see a different kind of Sugar Daddy benefiting. G would be the opposite, and id just be a pretty face.

What I'm trying to say, without sounding like a snob, is G is just your average guy. Joe Blogs. He has some spare cash, and wants to invest it in a 'relationship'.

'You can tell me what you want and id buy it for you' he would say. 'Il get you an apartment if you needed one, id put it through my business'. Or 'If you ever need money, call me and il send it to you' At one point I stopped to mention that id quite like a new apple laptop, and he said 'This is the kind of thing you could ask for, and id get you'.

Overall, he was an absolute gem. Kind, caring, and down to earth. I have no doubt that he would take care of a sugar baby very well, and I think he had a naive side that could be walked over. He is a gold diggers dream, but I am not a gold digger.

I think this is a classic example of how to be a sugar baby and not an escort. As the former, I am going to take into consideration the impact on my own life he would have, the benefits, the pros and cons, attraction and chemistry, whether I would be happy with myself dating him. Its not all about the money.... If it was I would have met him again already and be a couple of K richer, or had it wired into my bank. I know id be able to ask this of him, but I am not about to take advantage of this man. Its a little too 'easy' for me.

At this point unsure of what I want to do. I think if I put him in a suit, moved him into central London and gave him a quite cultural crash course id be much happier. The kind of Daddy I like is powerful, challenging, someone I can learn from and who will help me to advance myself. Someone I will enjoy experiences with from a holiday to a conversation.

Being with G is more like having a relaxed lunch with an old friend, good in a way, but maybe to comfortable for my liking?

As I left the date we spoke briefly about 'the small print' - i like this expression I think it sums it up well! My small print is £3k month, once a week, gifts and I call the shots. No sex until it naturally happens, nothing planned. He asked where he could sign.

Its a hard situation. Does anyone reading relate? What do you think you would do? Would you take the £ and see? Or would you end things before they ever started because it isn't how you imagined? A lower class life, but with money in the bank to fund my own?

A contemplating, Baby Bow xx

Comments and Followers and Emails, Oh My ♥

Id just like to post to say thank you for comments that have been left recently, I love something to read and I find every ones sugar aspirations so exciting :-)

I will as recommended do a detailed post on my job as it seems to be a point of interest, its far less glamorous as it sounds but I suppose I do get to travel and it definitely opens up your world and I think works well alongside sugar dating. So that's a post that's coming up over the next few weeks and il give all the advice I have relating to that.

As well as comments Ive been receiving a few emails at babybow@live.co.uk , They are all so flattering and its so nice to know people read my blog. I welcome any e-mails, when I first started becoming interested in the Sugar world I had a fellow sugar baby who would give me advice and I think it was really helpful so I don't mind at all if anyone emails, I'm not an expert - far from it but sometimes it nice to pass on little bits of advice :-)

Also coming up is a full details post on my date yesterday with a new Pot, I'm going to tell absolutely everything and I plan on doing so with anything relating to this pot. This is mainly because I feel a little guilty I'm not dishing the dirt on Mr Perfect but I will do in good time, in fact I'm meeting him tomorrow and visiting his home town, I'm very excited!

So anyway that was just a little random post, and now IL write about yesterdays date.

Hope everyone is ready for a fun weekend!

Baby Bow xx