Update on the Daddys in my life :-)

I don't like to post personal details on here, and I like to keep my blog upbeat and fun... because most of the time I am :-)

Although the last few weeks or so have been a little hard, and I've have quite a lot going on with regards to my personal life. This isn't something I wish to speak about on here, and I know it will all be OK. But, of course this has had a little impact on my sugar life and hence I haven't updated with stories of Pots and dates for a little while.

So to catch you all up - This is where Bow is on the sugar time line at this moment!

Mr Date came back on the scene, he was quite clear in what he wanted and I made it quite clear (in an almost rude way I was so clear but I'm a little past nicety's with this one!!) what I expected. What I expected by the way was a hell of a lot more than what was last 'put on the table'. An allowance of 5k+, An apartment, and a few extra things.

This he agreed to, but I am yet to see anything. This is partly due to my own flakiness baring in mind the last month Ive had stuff on my mind, and also due to him as we all know Mr Date cant keep a Date. All in all, I let him stay in the background but I have no real interest and I do not really mind either way so we will see if he makes any effort or not. The sparkle from Mr Date faded a long time ago...

New Pot: I do have a pot who I am arranging to meet. He seems very eager, and very sweet as Ive had to let him down numerous amounts of times. He is laid back, down to earth and I think he would take care of me very well. He seems interested in the whole Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby scenario so much so that he has read Sugar Baby 101 and the Seeking books. That's cute, I haven't heard of many Sugar Daddy's taking such an interest. Il meet him soon, and il let you know where/when and what he offers. Again, I'm very breezy on all of this, if it happens, it happens. I promise il give full details on this one.

Thirdly, Last and CERTAINLY not least - Mr Perfect.

I'm not going to say much. I apologise. I just want to keep him to myself at the moment ;-) But its all good... :-) :-) :-)

The only reasons I have the two other pots is I believe its good to hedge your bets, I haven't in the past and if things don't go to plan it can leave you dateless. I mean, its not a biggie anyway you can just jump back on seeking arrangement - but if you find a few you like, that can be rare, so I suggest keeping a few of them sweet. There is nothing wrong with dating a few people until you know each other and decide to make things more official, plus you never know, Daddy might be doing that too...

I wish you all a lovely week of sugar ahead, I'm off to the USA in the morning, just for the night although id much rather spend it at home relaxing, Oh well!

In other news I'm looking forward to Chicago Sugar coming over, we are going to go to Nobu or somewhere equally as delicious and fun! yay :-)

Keep it sweet sugars :-)

Baby Bow xx

Bronzed Sugar

Ive just returned from a little holiday to Dubai, and whilst I was there it made me reevaluate what I want out of my life... I like to do this every now and again. Sometimes my goals are deep and thoughtful, other times they are selfish and fickle, but what ever you dream... that's your dream... so it can be what ever you want :-)

I thought id give a little account of my few days there, as its like a sugar porno just arriving into that place...

Most of the time whilst I was in Dubai, I shopped. If you follow my blog you have probably noticed I shop anywhere, which is enjoyable of course but I do need to kick the habit down a few notches, at least until I have a steady allowance! I bought a beautiful pair of cream shoes from Dune - here they are if you are interested http://www.dune.co.uk/catalogue/category.asp?r=43&g=48&s=55

Perfect Sugar Daddy date footwear in my eyes :-)

Dubai is a very glitzy place. I was lucky enough to spend an evening in the lounge at Heathrow, eating seafood, cheese, salmon, caviar, and drinking champagne in immense quantities. I then was able to fly first class, in my own bed being served champagne and pampered. Once arriving in Dubai, the opulence of that place smacks you in the face. Its the city of 24 Carat hotel walls, helicopters picking you up to take you to the hotel, maids and nanny's. Everyone drives a Bentley, everyone owns an island.

In the evenings we would dine out at the most fabulous resturants, ordering what we liked and getting the bill often picked up by neighbouring diners. We spent the evenings dancing in the exclusive Roberto Cavalli owned club, with free champagne all night (in Dubai, girls drink for free everywhere you get into, thats what crazy money this place has - you are never charged) The place is total debauchery!

In one club we went to, every few minutes you will hear the music being cut out as they play a theme tune, and you will see 4-5 waiters bring out a huge 'Nebuchadnezzar' sized bottle of Champagne. Fireworks will light up the area, and the table receiving the bottle will bask in the glory. A few minutes later it all happens again, and you look to see the next table has bought yet another. Over and over again the men at these tables try to out do each other with displays of wealth. How much would this set you back you may wonder?

£20,000. And the most expensive coctail? $7,400. Crazy.

On my little shopping trip I popped into a designer store, and I found the most amazing dresses. They were affordable, maybe a couple of hundred pounds each, but I would feel bad paying that each time I wanted a new dress. I fantasised about how I love the Sugar life, I really do. We are cute women, using are best features including our brains, to get what we want.

On the flight over there was a couple in first class, The man was noticeably older than his younger girlfriend, and I heard a fellow traveller ask 'you know why she is with you?' The girlfriend cut in saying 'Of course, but then I know why he is with me too, and not a woman in her late 50's like yours' Bitchy, I know, but it sums it up perfectly.

We got what they want, they got what we want. Whats a girl to do? Its simple :-)

Baby Bow xx

Flying First Class... Up In The Sky

Happy Weekend everybody!

You may have noticed my last few posts have been a little 'generic' - well that is for a reason, as Ive got things to tell but I have been holding off posting for all kinds of reasons, all will be reveled soon, but until then I am jumping on the safety and traveling bandwagon and giving you a little of my own advice.

Firstly, this post is not to offend anyone, and I am certainly not posting this as a direct response to any ones travels. Just, like many other Sugar Baby's I have noticed the travel debate has arisen and id like to share my own experiences.

When speaking to a potential Sugar Daddy for the first time, we all know how exciting it can be. We all 'spend' our allowance mentally, we all plan on where we would live, how often we would see them, the things we would do together. This is good, and I think its important to positively think.

Now, when that SD lives out of the Country, or state, we can get caught up imagining the exotic location, the shopping sprees, the dinners out. Lets be honest, traveling somewhere is exciting, so this excitement can sometimes override our natural impulses and our COMMON SENSE.

A little while ago I 'met' a SD who was in New York. I met him actually in NY when I was on a work trip, and we kept in touch over SD.com. We got on OK, and I had him send me an email from his work address, so that I then could verify his position. He was a CEO at a major bank, the head quarters being based in NYC.

After speaking for a while, he asked me when I would be back. I explained that I had a long period of holiday leave from work, so I wasn't planning on being back anytime soon. To this, he suggested I fly out to NY to meet him, and stay with him for 3 nights. He promised an allowance, that we would go to his nightclub he owned a share in, and generally have a good time. I immediately told him I expected a hotel, confirmed and in my name, and a first class plane ticket. To this, he responded in an outrageously bad manor, demanding I respect his 'good name' in the business world, and that I 'knew who he was'.

Whether or not I would have been treated well in NY wasn't good enough for me. The fact he was a multi millionaire with a good rep and well respected within society wasn't good enough for me. The fact he even asked shows he is a dick. I said NO. And I said NO for two reasons. One was safety. And the Second - being a good Sugar Baby...

*Being a good Sugar Baby.

I really feel strongly that you should NEVER visit a SD who is a substantial distance from you, at least for the first couple of times that you meet. This is because, purely and simply they are asking too much of you. They are 'trying it on' to see if you say yes. Its the old "ask 100 girls and one will say yes" rule. But that doesn't mean its right, or that you should be the 'yes girl'.

A sugar daddy is a sugar daddy because he plans on providing for you, and he is also a gentleman. Why would he expect you to fly all the way to see him, and put your safely at risk? If a potential asks you to do this, in my eyes it is out of order.

Its a known fact that men like a chase, granted they also like a one night stand, but you need to be the one they chase in this instance.

Look at this from a SD's point of view, you met online, you spoke, you got along. Next thing, YOU have booked YOURSELF a plane ticket, YOU are taking time out of your life, YOU are paying the expenses. When you arrive, its a given that they are going to expect you to sleep with them, you have just flown your pretty ass half way across the country - in their eyes they believe you flew all that way because you wanted them so bad. I know this sounds strange, but its true. In a mans mind he will not understand why you would make that effort just to ask to sleep in the spare room.

It also gives the impression that you are a little bit of a pushover. No matter how strong you are, and how well you stand your ground, the Sugar Daddy knows that you made all that effort and he knows you will find it awkward to ask for reimbursement, because of course you would be awkward, who wouldn't?

I think the main reason, after safety, not to travel is just by him asking you to, it proves he isn't a Sugar Daddy worth seeing. The only exception to this rule is if he is busy, and cannot take the time to go see you. In this case, he may book you a ticket, and a hotel which you could confirm before you arrive. I would still advise against this, as I think its ungentlemanly and that is the exact kind of person I wouldn't waste my time own time on, and neither should you.

Remember back to when you first aspired to be a SB, I'm sure you didn't imagine flying your self out to some random place and loosing your own money. Being a 'good sugar baby' is all about expecting THE BEST. I expect no less that first class travel, and I wont travel (in a sugar situation - I'm not a complete snob :-) any less. The good Sugar Daddy's want you to have a standard, they want to see that you wouldn't fly out cattle class on your own dollar to see just any tom dick or harry for the promise of $...

Safety:

I didn't want to base this post around safety, as I think its pretty much common sense and other sugar baby's have covered it extremely well - like Chicago Sugar's blog. I wont go over things that have already been said, and I wanted to show more reasons why in unwise to visit a SD on the first date, from a different perspective. I hope I've managed to do that?

The only safety related advice I would like to give is this - never go anywhere without your own money, and that's not even in relation to sugar. I see flights get canceled everyday, and people have to put themselves in hotels for 2,3,4 nights before they can fly home/out.

Ive seen people get stranded in places, with full hotels apart from the 6* ones because every ones in the same boat, and its not a great situation to be in. You always need to have your own cash, and if you don't have emergency money, then just sit tight.

Being stranded without money isn't the only risk. You carry the risk of rape, of abuse, of being held without your will. Watch the film 'Taken' if you haven't already seen it, although fictional, the sex slave/trade industry is very real and a multi billion black market. The men who run it and who are involved may be respectful, well dressed, well spoken and will be seen as a 'SD' to on the outside. Think about it, your beautiful, young, impressionable. No body knows where you are, they know that. You know that. Its the ideal trap.

It all really doesn't bare thinking about so please girls be careful, your all very beautiful and you need to remember what your worth and how easily someone could take you...

Take care and keep yourselves safe,

Baby Bow x

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

Just as there is a 'career ladder' in life, I like to think there is a mirror image ladder in Sugar Town.

All of the sugar daddy's are climbing it. Its pink, it sparkles, its polished. Look closely and you will see potentials struggling to the top with all their power heavy on their backs, a few slip off after the first step - falling into the black hole of forgotten daddy's after countless e-mails. Some don't even get noticed and wait down below. Half way up lingers the odd picture collector, intent on not moving - just sitting still. Then, your hair blows and you hear the loud chopping sound, and that diamond daddy whizzes past you, in the race to the top in their own helicopter!

I have come to realise, via my own experience and that of fellow sugar babys, that there are certain jobs that make the best Sugar Daddy's. This is not exclusive, of course, there can be all kinds I'm sure, but usually these careers pop out the best beneficiers. They give birth to diamond daddy's!

Here they are: My 'Power Three'!

The Good

• Owning an empire - Business men *Pros - Good advice and guidance, would make a good mentor. May invest in your own ideas *Cons* May be busy with limited time (maybe that's a pro and a con depending on you)


• Stock brokers/ Bankers/ Traders *Pros - Ridiculous amounts of income, its not unusual to earn millions of pounds just in a bonus. Good advice on trading, may help you invest yourself. Possibility to be a younger SD Cons* The old saying bankers wankers - although in most cases these comments are directed from people who have lost money, not the sugar baby of a banker :-) I'm sure she is mostly a happy lady.


• CEO - MD - Being the CEO or Managing Director *Pros Its a 'job' so no risk of there own business going down the pooper, highly powered, travel. Cons*Busy, limited time in one place can make SD/SB hard to maintain.

Other good but more unusual ones to look out for are company directors, poker players, sports men, artists, writers, High up Doctors/Surgeons, Investors, lawyers with own firm.

The Bad

These are the Jobs I consider to be more 'splenda' than sugar. They should be approached with an air of caution, and a pinch of salt. These jobs, although classed as 'good jobs' are not high enough for a real SD/SB relationship in my eyes, if your looking for a high allowance. When I think of a SD I think of MILLIONAIRE OR BILLIONAIRE, so this is the system I use. This is the reason I have put them into 'The Bad' category, as we see these jobs on sugar daddy dating websites all of the time, and personally its not what I'm looking for. Although, if you would like a gift daddy, a travel daddy, or even a boyfriend or husband - these are all good candidates.

• Pilots, Managers, some doctors, builders, small business owners, recruitment, sales, flight engineers, economists, Old Money.
  

I mention 'Old Money' because I think this, although they may own all they want are not a generous breed of people. If someone is born into Money, especailly not a huge deal of it, then they seem to be very protective of it. You might find them to be old fashioned, resusing things time and time again, and very cost concious. If you married into it, im sure you would have a better time.

The Ugly

I'm not going to list these, but we all know who they are. They post on SD.com and lure you in, and then you realise they drive a lorry/truck all day. Or worse still, they do nothing all day!

I suppose what matters is what your looking for as we all look for different things. If your looking to go from college girl to driving a Bentley, with 8k in the bank each month, a personal shopper, use of a private jet - or any of these luxuries id keep your sights high on the power 3.

If you wouldn't mind dating someone who will pay your bills and keep you dressed well, then 'The Bad' could still pay off, besides all the 'Power 3' will have once been in the lower divisions. So why not try to catch one while he is starting, and be there when he reaches the top!

Love Baby Bow from a freeeeeeeezing UK x

Younger VS Older

Ive been catching up on the blogs, whilst generally staying in my PJ's and roaming around the house as Ive been a little ill, although I'm starting to feel better and the platinum lining is my tummy is flat as a pancake - good times!

From today I'm going to try to update each day, as I have lots to update!

One thing Ive noticed that I find interesting is other SB's pondering over a younger SD/older SD and what might be better, so I thought id give my two sugar cents. Everyones different, and everyone looks for different things, but I only like to find the Diamond Daddy's.... Maybe Ive mentioned that before?! :0)

With that in mind, I vote OLDER and here are the reasons why:

A Sugar daddy is someone accomplished. This doesn't mean 'has a good job' - anyone can have one of those. He has already earnt his majority of wealth, he may now be retired or winding down. He may be in the peak of his main job, the role he has been working towards for the last 30 years.

Lets take a regular 'CEO', for an example in this story. OK, so when 'CEO' was 21, he may have been hot, lets just say he was, so he was really freakin hot. He worked hard, went to UNI/COLLEGE whatever you like, graduated and started to work in his chosen field. He is now in his 30's, he may now meet a wife, he may not. He may start a family, he may not. What he certainly will be is busy.

A lot of his money will be tied up in a family, new/first homes, investments. His income - no matter how high - will more than likely not be disposable at this point. 'CEO' is working towards being a real CEO - Cheif Executive Officer of a company, and will reap the benefits in later years.

Lets look at CEO now, in his late 40's. This is when he is more likely to actually be a CEO. This is what he has waited to achieve, and this is when he will start to build a nice little pot of sugar.

In the 40-50-60's period, most people have done all of their working. They have the investments, the homes, the planes, the cars. Everything that a Sugar Baby looks for. They are now, and only now, in the position to financially care for a Sugar Baby and enjoy each others company.

So with this in mind, I do not see a man in his 30's as a Sugar Daddy. Sure, one day he will be. Sure, he will take you to a good restaurant and pick up the bill. Sure, he might buy you a pair of Louboutins. BUT - he wont hand you 5k the last day of the month, he wont buy you a car, or an apartment. He may mess you around, and you will be smarter than him.

I actually like dating older men. I can put my hand on my heart and say I find myself completely attracted to guys in the age ranges of 40-50. If I wasnt, maybe id still be out there looking for the younger ones? I dont know.

Besides, You can always have the sugar daddy and enjoy 'dating' the younger guys. In fact, if you quite fancy being a trophy wife then that may be the route you choose, exclusively.

Just remember, when it comes to real Sugar Daddys they know how lucky they are to have you, and they show it in the ways us Sugar Babys like... a younger guy may not feel quite as 'lucky' because he will have women dropping at his feet on a daily basis. Come on, he is hot rich single 30 year old. He can have whatever he likes. He isnt yet a daddy - in every meaning of the word.

Love, Baby Bow x

♥ Continued

Firstly, its taken me a while to finally tell you all part to of how baby bow was born, I have been away and had an exciting and somewhat strange week, Ive also been catching up on all of the blogs that I follow~!

So here we go....

After the crazy night spent at Bigs apartment, I thought about the lifestyle he led. It intrigued me, and shocked me, I loved it but was scared by it, I felt a real mix of emotions but I knew I wanted to experience more.

It must have been a few months later, and some girlfriends and I went back to that London club. None of them knew about Big, or that night I spent partying in his apartment.

Across the dance floor I spotted him, seated at his table - just as before. I caught his eye, and to my surprise he remembered me, waving me over and pulling back the red rope that separated his table from the dance floor.

I sat next to Big, and to be honest I don't remember what we spoke about. All I know is we drank and drank and danced and danced. Drank some more, Danced again...again, and again. The club started to close, and as it wound down we jumped into a car and went to his apartment. This time it was a different apartment, much smaller and less showy and flash, but in an amazing location and still very luxurious.

A few people came back with us, and we started to crack open bottles of champagne. I remember him saying how 'cheap' he thought Crystal tasted, and that what we were drinking was vintage and just one bottle was the price of a case of crystal.

As the evening went on I started to feel attracted to Big. It helped that he kept saying how he wished he had spoken to me more the first time we met, and that he wanted to but felt awkward as my friend was sat next to him. I felt like it was luck that I had met him again, and the alcohol made usual social boundaries disappear.
I ended up sleeping with Big that evening. I had a very confident, maybe overly confident aura about me and I really felt I could do what ever I wanted and not think of the consequences. Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with a one night stand but I am far more sensible and I prefer to sleep with people once I know them a little more, I also think this is paramount in sugar dating~! But, back then, I had not a care in the world and I saw no harm in 'spreading myself around'. I was known in my family as the 'wild child' and I suppose I somewhat still am!

The next morning we enjoyed breakfast together, Nutella on toast, not particularly glamorous, with breakfast tea. Big made it clear he has enjoyed the night before, and started to explain what he wanted. He was looking for a girl, like me, who he could spend time with, but who would not care about his wild ways. His past had been full of girlfriends putting pressure on him to marry, lecturing him over his party antics and drug use, besides the fact that his religious family had certain views on the kind of woman he should ultimately marry.

It was an idea I grasped instantly, a part time lover with all the benefits of being his girlfriend, with out all the hassle. I had my own thing going on, at the time a struggling modeling career that would never really take off, but my time was my own and I liked it that way. Big told me he would take care of me, and I wouldn't have to worry financially. I liked the sound of this, and my 'prostitution' worries were taken away, never to return - I understood a SD/SB relationship naturally.

As I left, I worried out loud the price of my taxi, Big assured me id be fine, and he had put some taxi money in my bag. Later when I checked, there was more than a few £50 notes, enough for a taxi around the UK a few times over. I remember the taxi driver asking for something like £23.20 when I got to my destination, and realising all I had was these 50's. He has no changed, so I smiled as I gave him a £50 and told him to 'keep the change'. He looked at me like I was crazy, and I found the whole thing hilarious. It didn't feel like my money, because really it wasn't.

So that was it, after just one night a friendship had been made, and I had 'agreed' to put up with long periods of not seeing him, erratic communication and occasional infidelity. This came at a price, of £4-5 k per month. This was no different to a 'pre nup', its just money to ensure I was happy, and he gets an easier life - no strings!

From then on I would spend 2-3 times per week with Big, and we loved each others company. It wasn't like having a SD because we were such good friends and we were hardly ever alone. I got to meet all of his friends and id invite mine to his party's. We were crazy, and nights turned into days. We would shop, travel, and sleep, and everything was at 100miles an hour.

Later, Big moved on as he met an actress who is now in a crime investigation drama on TV. She was the same ethnicity and his family wanted them to marry and be serious together. I decided that if I didn't stop partying I might be ill, and I had gotten sidetracked from my own goals in the whole whirlwind.

Myself and big parted on very good terms. I had his number, but I since lost the phone it was saved in. Over the years we lost touch, and when ever I stay in one of his hotels it makes me smile. I suppose, if I really wanted to, I could find him.

I wonder if he did marry, and if he is happy. I wonder if he still lives in London, and I wonder... will I ever bump into my sugar daddy again...

Baby Bow x