Memoirs Of A Sugarbaby ♥

Mini Update Numero Uno!

2010-06-02T02:31:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone!

OK, so its official, I am back - and I'm here to update you on my last month or so, although it feels much, much longer as Ive had so much going on!!

Id like to say hello to all of my new followers and apologise, I usually try to post at least twice a week but lately I have had some crazy times... all will be revealed!!

I think il start with an update for Mr Perfect, as you know this has been one of the most influential men in my search for the perfect sugar daddy, and is the most important to me. So things are going well, I am still unsure of where I stand, what my exact position is in his life - but - It finally happened - we kissed! It was great, felt entirely natural as I was worried after such a long wait it might be a little awkward, but I need not have worried, it was PERFECT.

He had picked me up from my new apartment, in one of his 20 - YES 20?!!!! - cars, a beautiful black Jaguar, and driven us to his house. This was the first time I had visited his house, although we had driven by a few times and he had pointed it out. The house, well, where do I start. This is Perfects main property, as he owns them all over the world and a number of places in London, but this is his 'Home'.

The house is a sprawling mansion, set on acres and acres of land. The house is an old listed building, and I could imagine characters from a Jane Austin novel wandering around the grounds whilst reading a book and basking in the sunshine!

Inside, the house looked exactly like id imagined. Not at all modern, but scattered with antiques and trinkets, floor to ceiling bookcases, grand pianos and imposing dark wood. Very dramatic, and a little eerie, I'm not sure I could live there alone!

I laughed when I mentioned how the house reminded me of a film set, how I could imagine walking into the Library, pulling on the spine of a book id chosen to read, and the whole bookcase spinning to reveal a secret room. Perfect laughed, and took my hand, taking me into a hallway between the bathroom and the dining room. There was a cabinet, with a few framed photographs resting on its shelves. He took my right hand and reached it into the right hand corner, pushing down as he did. To my amazement the thing started to move back, and low and behold behind the cabinet was a secret space, not really a room, but big enough for it to hold a safe. CAN YOU IMAGINE!!! Hilarious!

We settled down in the lounge, and we ordered some food from a local Michelin starred restaurant, take out style! I had crispy prawn won tons and dim sum, and we shared a bottle of wine.

As the evening drew to a close, we hopped back into the Jag and set of for home. Just before he started the engine, he turned to me, cradled his neck in my hand - and kissed me :) YES! FINALLY!!

Over the last month of so we have been doing what we always do, we meet for dinner, go dancing or have drinks, spend the day together shopping and spoiling me, we speak every day on the phone and we are very close in that respect. Sometimes he picks me up and drives me to his airplane, and we fly over to Jersey or up to Ireland for dinner. Its truly amazing and an experience I always want. I think he is a brilliant man, inspiring and intelligent, and I have come to realise that id like him with or without a sugar coating.

I could go into detailed posts about our rendezvous, but I have so much other stuff to tell that I think il save such posts for later on... so expect to hear more, watch this space.

Baby Bow xx

Once upon a time....

2010-05-19T06:54:00.000-07:00

Baby bow used to update her blog all of the time. It was one of her favorite things to do, and she was passionate about telling her stories.

Then, the big volcano blew over the land, and held her stranded in Las Vegas. Being the good little party girl she was, she took full advantage of the city of sin, and practically induced a coma on her body.

Weeks later, she came home, tanner and poorer and more tired than ever before. She had to use this time to rebuild her life, relationships, and spirit.

Now, she is back. With a vengeance. And stories of douchbags, princes, Perfect Kisses, and a trip to a foreign land to meet a waste of space!

Baby Bow xx :-)

Sugary Sorrys....

2010-04-22T11:18:00.001-07:00

I'm sorry my beautiful followers and readers or anyone who randomly checked out my blog...

I have been AWOL and there are good reasons for being so... not all I can share *at this moment* but I will in the next few weeks I promise. I also have such big news, regarding Mr P, a brand new sugar daddy with whom I cant actually believe my luck and general life sugar and not sugar related!

I shall start composing the updates now! Watch this space...

Baby Bow :-)

The Perfect Effect...

2010-04-06T11:15:00.000-07:00

In my last post I mentioned how P and I have a strange relationship, but I didn't detail. Ive actually hardly posted on him during the 6 months we have been 'dating' and now I have decided to be a little more open...

From day one I have found P to be the most genuine of gentlemen I have ever met. I am genuinely very attracted to him, he makes me laugh and I cheer him up when he is having a bad day. We speak on the phone or at least text almost everyday, although I see him less often due to our clashing travel plans and our work...

In every single way, its perfect - at least it is from my point of view. I assume it is from his end too, as its gone on for too long now for us not to like each other.

Here comes the strange part - we have not had sex, nor have we really even kissed.

I have stayed with him a few times, lately on the trip to Dubai, but he always books me a separate room.

Now, as you can imagine this has confused me a great deal. Sure, I like a gentleman and sure its nice to know I'm not being used what so ever, but this is like something out of a 19'20s silent movie... I'm flirting, he is flirting, we are flirting. But that's where it stops. Thanks for this evening, and a kiss on the cheek!

At first, I thought he was gay, and I was his beard. But, I have come to the conclusion that he couldn't be less gay, plus the day we met he told me he is looking for a girlfriend. Then, I thought we might just be friends, so I sent him a message hinting at the situation, and he responded by saying he is just out of practice...

Its not a big deal, I love to spend time with him and in a way its so nice to get to know each other without all of that in the way, but I'm at the point where I am MORE THAN COMFORTABLE with us sharing a bed... or a kiss, at least.

So there you have it, my strange little set up with Perfect, I will keep you updated!

Kisses :-)

Baby Bow xx

*Update P.S - G got back in touch with me, after my cut throat message, can you believe it! He said something about being busy, so I said il leave the ball in your court. He replied ' The ball is in my court. Game, set match. And we are matched. Il be in touch' I WAS SICK IN MY MOUTH. CHEESE ON TOAST OR WHAT!!! No thank you Mr G, No thanking you x

Happy Easter ♥ Dubai Continued....

2010-04-05T08:32:00.000-07:00

After the day of shopping with my friends, I met back at the hotel and after a quick freshen up had the best dinner at Nobu, which is actually inside another amazing hotel, Atlantis, nestled on the palm a short drive away (Pictured above).

To dinner I wore an amazing corset I picked up in forever 21 - US baby's can find it in the Alice in wonderland collection - I LOVE! :-) Its cream and peach with clocks all over, and grey satin flowers around the top, and it was only about $20! I wore it tucked into a white bandage style body-con high waisted pencil skirt, with peach heels.

There was a big group of us at dinner as some of his Dubai friends came along, they were nice enough, although it was all men and me, but they really took care of me and I felt like a princess all evening. I usually have the same thing at Nobu London, but in Dubai the menu was different so I tried the Yellow Tail Sashimi with Jalapenos, and for main I had the fillet of Salmon with Avocado Tempura.... yum. I decided to not drink any alcohol so opted for Green tea.

That evening I had a great sleep and woke up refreshed and ready for the races! We ordered some room service pancakes, fruit, yogurt and coffee (Yes all I did this trip was EAT) and got dressed, I loved the dress and shall post a picture on my face book, although the feathers went a little crazy so the hair took a while to tame!

The races was a lot of fun, and much more extravagant than I ever expected, far more so than at home. I felt a little out of place, as most people in the area I was sat seemed very 'horsey' and really knew their stuff, I can chat to anybody so it wasn't a problem and I am pretty good at blagging it! I did sometimes wish I was just down at the regular bar and not in the posh area, as it seemed a little more relaxed and less pretentious, but I managed to bring the tone down by dancing on a table at some point anyway!! Mission accomplished!

I didn't win anything, although my 'allowance' was intended for betting, I took an interest in other peoples bets and I placed a few on horses with names that made me laugh, or reminded me of people I knew... there were no inspired choices and that showed in my losses!

After the races, it was a very quiet night as too much alcohol had been consumed in the blazing heat of the sun, and tidiness started to set in. After a relaxing sleep I woke up, and went to the gym for a quick Pilate's session before going to the airport to catch the flight home. I flew home alone as business was to carry on in Dubai, and I had to get back for my own job.

I quite enjoyed flying home on my own, I changed into Pjs right away and ate ice cream and watched movies, read magazines and generally chilled out. I had lots of thinking time on the flight, and I realised that the whole sugar search for me is just so much fun, I cant believe some of the experiences it has bought to me.

In all of this, this certain perfect individual is more than I could ever want, or would have ever expected to find, and I like and respect him very much. At the moment we have a strange relationship, which I have decided to post in more detail about next time... it might surprise a few of you, and it has me a little confused too...

I had a wonderful, unexpected trip and have been invited on something similar later in the summer. At the moment I'm hoping il have the time off work - if not guess who is getting the man flu in July!

That's all for now, will post again soon,

Baby Bow xx

Perfect Weekends, Perfect Sugar

2010-03-31T07:42:00.000-07:00

Why hello there beautiful Sugars!

I know I know, I haven't posed too much recently - but that is all about to change! I have so much news so much so much and not enough posts to tell it all in! I have been spoilt!

Well first I shall tell you about a wonderful surprise I had from somebody a little PERFECT.

Having a few days off from work and not quite being sure what to do with myself I made a few calls around to see what my pots where up to and to try and get the ball rolling after what seemed like the s-l-o-w-e-s-t few weeks....

My favorite of all time got back in touch, and invited me to an experience I could never turn down - THE DUBAI RACES. Now, for those of you not too familiar with Dubai it is like the sugar playground of all time, opulent and diamond covered, with sugar baby's grazing every mans arm. The people here have real F-YOU money, and buy hotel chains and private jets like its a game of monopoly.

I was flown by his private plane down to his huge house, its the most beautiful house Ive ever seen and I would have been happy for this experience alone, but it got better. We then went to a local Michelin starred restaurant for the best oysters Ive ever had, full of Tabasco and washed down with champagne.

We then got picked up by his driver, a very sweet man who has been working with him for years. Off we went to the airport, which was a short journey away although I fell to sleep from the bubbles of champagne within minutes! I was woken up to being driven straight through an express check in lane, with a drive-thru passport control and luggage check in.

From there we relaxed at the lounge, I ate king prawns in a chili sauce with spinach leaves, and had a coffee, and watched sports on the big screens whilst flicking through a page or two of Hello.

Next it was time to board, and we got onto the aircraft, turned left and went straight into First Class luxury. This was with an airline I had never before flown with, and I was amazed by everything from how beautiful the cutlery and linen that lined your table was, how comfy the beds were, and how amazing the company. There was a huge menu to choose from but as it was a relatively short 6 hour flight I decided to sleep most of the way so that I would arrive refreshed.

Once we arrived I checked into the hotel, he had to meet some friends and look at properties as the prices are lower in Dubai at the moment after the initial 'buzz' of the place. I had stayed at the hotel before, and it is just beyond flashy. Even the walls are 24 carat gold plated, and helicopters land right onto the roof.

I decided to freshen up in the bathroom, which was marble with heavy toweling robes and fluffy slippers and spa products all around. They even gave you small pots of creme De la Mer, which I slathered all over my face quicker than you could ever imagine - I love that stuff!
After showering I decided to go meet my friends who live in Dubai, we met at the mall of emirates which is a huge shopping mall that even has ski slopes within! We had a little walk around and I decided to look for a dress for the races. I found my favorite chain of shops in Dubai where they sell really nice designer stuff but it isn't stuffy or full of pretentious assistants, and they sell my favorite dress designer called 'sky' (I never see these dresses anywhere other than Dubai?)

The dress I picked out was a long white maxi dress, with a jeweled snake wrapping around your boobs, not a print of a snake, and actual jewelry type snake that wrapped around the top of the dress. It was perfect for the races and I decided I would wear some heels I already bought with white feathers clipped into my hair, rather than a hat.

The dress cost the equivalent of about £100 so it wasn't too expensive, but as I put my hand into my handbag I pulled out a little envelope with a 'x' on the front. Inside was a little stash of local currency and I was excited to find a surprise allowance inside! (It was actually money to bet with at the races i later found out, but id rather buy a dress too than gamble it all)

So with my dress ready and happy after an afternoon with friends I went back to the hotel, where the weekend got even more... perfect...

To be continued!

xx

'Off with your head'!

2010-03-21T16:44:00.000-07:00

CL is officially my favorite Sugar in disguise website, a quick anonymous e-mail can do no harm... I advise you all to try it, of course being careful as there are obviously some weirdos on there too, that much is clear.

So out of my CL pots I have a lovely e-mail chain going on with one very charming gentleman, although he is out of the country so no date has been fixed. I also had a wonderful date with another, all went very well and he bought up my expectations fairly quickly. He was the image of a 'Sugar Daddy' that I have in my minds eye, and I will see how/if this situation progresses.

In my previous posts I mentioned how 'G' was fleeting in and out of the scene, well, its official - HE IS OUT.

G got back in touch, gave a few excuses for not being around, and we rescheduled to meet again. The morning of the meet came, and there I am preening and prepping myself as all good Sugar Baby's do...

Knowing his recent flakiness, I decided to shoot him a quick text to confirm we were still on, before I made the effort of leaving the house and getting dressed! Id love to say I don't get out of bed for less than £100,000, but this would be grossly untrue. I don't get out of bed for less than a 5k allowance. That's more like it. ;-)

To my disappointment but not my surprise, I received the following text...

'Hi! sorry up to my everything in it at the moment. Having a s... day. Lots going on, and not sure when it will end. Probably best to scrub today. xx '

Pure crap. That's exactly how it was written too. Does everyone agree this is the most useless text apology you have ever had the misfortune to read. Probably best to 'scrub' everything actually, you poor excuse for a SD, and waste no more of my precious time. In the words of the Red Queen "Off with your head"...hehehe.

In fact, i said almost as much. Its one of my main sugar rules that you should never fully erase a SD from your life. At the end of the day, you never know when circumstances could change and it might be benefiting to have friends like this, plus its not in my nature to have a fall out with someone in general. Id rather be forgiving, and positive.

Like Ive said in the past, to feel anger towards another person is like swallowing poison and expecting them to fall ill. Its far better to get rid of any negativity, and remain happy.

In this instance, I defied all of my own rules and I text back with a rambling of how he had let me down and I wished for him to delete my number.... oops. Still, I don't regret this choice. I feel that G had something hidden, something was not quite right and I'm glad I outed him sooner rather than later.

In this case, it felt right. G was not going to go anywhere... lets be honest if you follow my blog you will know I was finding it unnatural to imagine an 'us' as a SD/SB unit, so i didn't need too much discouragement. G never replied, which I think just goes to show he was all talk and no wallet. The worst kind.

But, in general I would advise you stay friends with any pots that don't quite make the cut for what ever reasons. At the time he might not be right, but if you leave the gates open you never know when he might pop back, and fit into your world a little better than the first time.

Lovings :) Baby Bow x

Daffys Date...

2010-03-20T10:23:00.001-07:00

As you already know, I finally decided to let Daffy take me out to wine (and little did he realise, dine) me, after months of me not being so sure.

We decided to meet at The Dorchester in London, a beautiful and famous London landmark, oozing with class and old style glamour.

I had been out and about earlier in the day, and had decided to meet a friend for a few drinks. A few drinks in London often turn into a lot of drinks, in this case it turned into more than a few bottles of wine on an empty stomach....hmmmm Bow was feeling a little tipsy when she remembered that Ducky was waiting :)

So off I jumped into a black cab, and luckily I had only been around the corner. I explained my way out of my hasty leaving, and applied a little extra lipstick in the back of the cab.

I was wearing a dark grey Galaxy dress, (although mine was Topshop) covered by a white cashmere coat topped of with killer black Louboutins. No jewelry, sometimes I like my self to do the sparkling ;)

Once I got to the hotel I had a few minutes to spare so I asked a some rather snooty looking hotel staff where the bathrooms were. A perfectly manicured finger pointed down a hallway, and I heard a muttered 'on the left'. Turning on my heels I tipsily made my way down the passage, only to find the door id set my sights on jammed closed.

I pushed, and pushed and pushed, at one point unladylike-ly banging the door with my ass to try and get some weight behind me and jam it open!

All of a sudden, whilst I was banging away with my butt, I feel a pat on my shoulder, and to my surprise there is Daffy, looking very smart in a beautiful suit and pink shirt. 'Darling, if you are looking for the restrooms, here they are' he said in a kind but obviously amused tone, as he pointed directly opposite to the blatantly sign posted 'Ladies'.

As you can imagine, I died of embarrassment once inside the safety of the 'Ladies'. After a few 'shit, shit shits' to myself and another coat of lipgloss I decided I was ready to face the world, if not ready to laugh at my 'Blondness'.

Daffy and I took to a gorgeous table in the main foyer, with a string quartet playing softly as we introduced ourselves. Daffy looked better in person that he did on his photos, a full head of hair and a fancy suit. We ordered a bottle of Champagne, and started to talk.

When I say talk, I should say I talked. And talked. And talked. Talked some more... Daffy sat there, listening, but not venturing much.

It soon dawned on me that not only has daffy got the most boringly ridiculous voice I have ever had to listen to, he may just be the most dull person I have ever had a date with. DULL, DULL, DULL. Poor Daffy.

That said, as the champagne was poured he did loosen up a little, but I soon realised we were looking for different things and I was finding it hard to not become irritated at his voice. Shame there isn't a cosmetic surgery for an unpleasing voice?

After eating, which I did, in abundance FYI, I actually bought up his comments and what I had taken a little offence to. He responded by saying he just hated very skinny girls and that has actually put him off many of his dates, again, not sure if this was an insult or a compliment :D But you have to laugh at his lack of tact...

The date neared to an end, and I had to leave. Daffy slipped me a little cash for a taxi home, and I gave him a little hug. I truly don't think there is anything wrong with Daffy, its just personally I find it hard taking the more dominant role in conversations 90% of the time. I like to be wined and dined, and I felt like I was doing all of the entertaining.

Daffy must have not sensed this, as out came the smythson and an attempt to re-arrange was made. I think id rather let daffy fly on over to another sugar pond - I'm sure he can find someone better suited to him. Maybe someone boney with a small hearing problem...

Lovings, Baby Bow xx

PS - Sorry for the delay in Blog, I have been unwell! I am back, so a few more posts to come keep an eye out :)

PPS - IM A HAPPY LADY...

YAY to the CL....

2010-03-09T13:39:00.000-08:00

Good day Sugars,

As aforementioned in my last post, I have had a little 'play around' with Craig's list. Its something I always knew was a helpful addition to websites such as seeking arrangement, but I never knew quite how fabulous it could be until yesterday.

You see, I decided after G had become quiet, and seeing as Perfect and I are 'courting' like something out of a 1950's film, I might need to think about adding a few potentials to my little black book.

Not being prepared to fork out for Sugar Daddie.com, especially when my last experience led me to a lot of men with just decent paid jobs looking for a wife (something at this time of my life I'm not looking for, in the future? who knows) and being less inclined to do the whole seeking arrangement thing when a sneak peek found its the same men that were there the last time I did, I found myself contemplating the prospects of my own 'advert' on Craig's List.

In the past, I have had a little dabble with the naughty pleasure that is CL. We all know it has a bad rep, and im sure there are 10 weirdos for every regular person who uses the site. Each time, id write what I thought was a perfectly respectable note, emphasising I am not a whore, and hopefully attracting the right kind of browser. Each time, to my surprise my posts were 'flagged' and removed, by most likely some old hag who hasn't heard of the term mutually beneficial and obviously needs a shag.

This time, I was a sugar baby on a mission. I drafted up a few different approaches, mentioning buzz words like genuine, generous, mutual arrangements, that sort of thing, and off I sent them into the list that is Craig's.

To my pleasant surprise, each one had a life of about 3-4 hours. Something I didn't expect, and gave me enough time to receive maybe 20+ replies. All of which were witty, interesting and unexpected. Give or take the token 'SLUT' or equally boring ' I'm looking for sex tonight love'. Delete.

I replied to all sane sounding mails, and in reply got some pretty decent pictures and sincere seeming messages. All in all I conversed with Traders, Lawyers, Directors, head of a record label, entrepreneur, the list goes on...

So my friends, I have done what I seem to do in this situation time and time again. I am greedy and I want to meet them all. So I plan on doing, although il probably be fatter than the Christmas goose at the end of it, but who knows what could happen.

That's what I love about London, and meeting new people. Anything could happen. Although, as I always say meet in a restaurant etc and keep safe... literally anything could happen but we want the sugar not the shit.

So tomorrow, I have two dates. One, lunch and wine at a beautiful french wine bar in London with an unnamed pot from aforementioned CL. Experienced in SD lifestyle, dabbled on Seeking Arrangement, seems to know what he is talking about, is attractive and gentleman-like.

Although the food sounds beautiful I wont be eating much with unnamed potential, because, at 7pm, I am meeting the one and only Daffy. And we all know what that means. Bring on the elasticated jeans - I'm going in!

In other news, G resurfaced with an excuse of sorts. He agreed to a date this week, and il see how that goes. I'm thinking positively as he is maybe the most genuine sounding man Ive met in this way and will be sure to update as and when I have my allowance :)

Expect a full update soon on tomorrow's date day, and I wish a happy week to you all,

Love, Baby Bow xx

G on his sugar death bed....

2010-03-08T11:20:00.000-08:00

Happy Mondays everyone!

I have had a rather mixed emotion of days today.

As you already know, G and I had a meeting last week, he canceled but contact was kept everyday, and today he finally said it was possible to meet again. After a few messages going back and forth I suggested a day this week (Friday), suggested food (sushi) and confirmed that this would be the allowance day - no beating around the bush, Ive been watching my little pink ball bouncing around his court for too long..

Low and behold, since that little magical text, I have been ignored. Now, sugars this is not good. I think this is an allowance slipper, one of those men who are never quite sure, are happy to take you out umpteen times but never actually get anywhere....

Hasty, you may think I am being. For it was only four hours ago I sent the message. But I think he would have usually got back in touch within minutes. Seconds even.

In a way, there is a positive here. I have been relying and expecting the promised allowance this week, and id rather know now that it isn't going to happen so that I can take control of the situation. I'm sure if I hadn't have mentioned the big A-day, he would have replied but that isn't doing me any favours, only for him to back out at the last minute.

No, this is good news sugars, good news that I can prepare to put G in the sugar grave yard......

But, not just yet. He is in the Sugar mortuary. Who knows, he may come back from the dead?

Meanwhile, I'm having a new found love affair with Craig's List! :)

Baby Bow x

Spring/Summer Sugar Wishlist

2010-03-07T09:28:00.000-08:00

Today was my arranged dinner with Ducky, and as you already know I planned on dining like a Queen. Well I decided to cancel due to being a lazy ass and not wanting to miss out on a little family get-together.

Rest assured, I have rescheduled for during the week, and Ive managed to move it to a full on dinner date, think of the courses, think of the food! So much more room for teasing Ducky, maybe not so much room in my dress.

Also, rest assured amid the canceled lunch date I have not gone hungry, I decided to eat like a Queen anyway and I'm currently munching on a Cadburys cream egg and drinking tea as we speak. I plan on a long power plate session this evening so I'm enjoying every piece of chocolaty egg gooyness!

I'm loving secret diary of a call girl, I'm not sure of you guys in the USA get to see this, maybe you can find it online? Its a British TV show of the book, formally a blog, Belle De Jour - Dairy of a London call girl. In the UK its a pretty popular show, and there is more hype over the last few months as the real life Belle behind the blog revealed herself. The blog is still running, and it can be found under the 'blogs I'm following' list. I like the fact its based on true stories, I also love that its filmed in London.

Speaking of London, Ive been mulling over London fashion week footage and been to a few party's, and its made me want to shop. In times like this I like to write a list of things I might like, to stop impulse buying and because thinking about it sometimes is better than the actual owning :)

Jimmy Choo Quinze - This is certainly the case of 'thinking about it is better than the owning' as at £1095 of my British pounds, I'm not sure I could ever warrant such an amount on shoes that look like they would attract every particle of dirt on every London street. But alas, they are beautiful.

An Ibiza holiday - The girls and I would like to take a little holiday to Ibiza, its somewhere I have never been but only a few hours away, so it would be rude not to.

The first Christian Louboutins Cat Burglar Barbie Doll - purely to collect (OK, maybe to play with, maybe, in private...) I'm not keen on the newest addition, is it just me or does she look like a hooker?

Creme De La Mer - I would like to start taking care of my skin, and I refuse to do so until I can do so with this bad boy. I also would like the serum. The cream of the sea will be mine :)
An Apple Airbook - my laptop is gorgeous and pink but its heavy to carry around so id like something a little more lightweight

5 things - i wonder how many I can tick off. Hmmm, I've finished off my cream egg so I'm calling G to see if he can be roped into any of the above!

Love, Baby Bow xx

A quiet week in Sugar world, so let me introduce...

2010-03-04T07:07:00.000-08:00

Ducky.

Ducky contacted me on Seeking Arrangement.com back when I had a profile on there, which was at least 3 months ago now.

At the time, I was corresponding with many pots and I felt busy with many dates planned. I was at the whittling down stage. Because of this, I let Ducky slide, but he remained in the sidelines and we kept in touch. I was honest and explained I had met someone and I was happy dating him, but he still shot me the occasional text or call to check in with my world.

This week, although a welcome break of downtime in my personal life, in the sugar world it has been quiet. Mr Perfect is getting his feet back on the ground after travels we are not meeting until next week. G, although we planned to get lunch midweek (on allowance day, I might add) he canceled on me.

Id like to think G is very real and reliable,he is on his first strike.

Because of this, when I had a friendly little text from Ducky this week I decided why the hell not. Ive always been put of by this man as he has the funniest voice. Seriously it sounds like I'm on the phone with a cartoon character or something... I can only imagine what that would sound like in bed. Fancy f*cking daffy duck anyone?

So this weekend I'm off to meet him, by a pond in London. Only kidding, we will meet at the Ritz for lunch.

I'm a little wary about Ducky before I even meet him, as he has raised a few alarm bells in my mind during previous conversations. The first, was a picture I sent him. He called me to tell me how beautiful I am, lovely I thought - I do like a compliment. He then went on to say how I looked like I had lost a lot of weight since the Seeking Arrangement.com pictures, and I looked better for it. Well, Sugars, I had not lost any weight between pictures. Even if I had, I am very happy with myself. I'm a UK size 10/US 6 with curves I am very proud of. Sure, i wouldn't put up a fight if a few pounds wanted to migrate for the summer, or if my arms got that little bit tighter, but I'm not able to get all paranoid about it. I couldnt care less!

So this comment, whilst I'm sure he meant it as a compliment, I have taken the wrong/right way. I'm not sure how it was aimed.

To the back of my mind this comment went, and I proceeded to arrange a meeting with him. Then, a second blow. When asking where to meet, and him suggesting the Ritz, I suggest Lunch. " Bow, why don't we just meet for Champagne"? Because its lunch time, and il want to eat lunch, jackass. "Bow, champagne is better for you". I like my curves where they are thank you, so either take me for lunch, or loose them - i replied.

Needless to say, we are now going for lunch and I wouldn't miss it for the world. I plan on eating 3 courses, something I never do at midday, just to prove a point. I will eat like a Lioness, and I will drink Champagne like a king. I hope he bought his black Amex.

If Ducky thinks he can physiologically get one over on me, he has another thing coming, Il walk all over him!

PS. I may have read too much into his two comments, and I'm sure il get a 'feel' for him once we meet. If he was a controlling, weight conscious man, id be sure never to see him again. I feel very strongly about men like this, and I am the most powerful one, I demand to be treated as such. From all our correspondence - bar these two comments - he has been gentlemanly and kind :)

This has made me hungry! I'm off to eat a big bowl of coco pops!

Love Baby Bow xx

First♥Second♥Third Date Tips

2010-03-02T08:13:00.000-08:00

This is my second post in one day, as I feel my blog has been quiet over the last week and I like to post at least once every week. I don't like to post just for the sake of posting, so I like to think of new topics id enjoy reading myself.

Over the last few days I checked my E-mail and I had a few very sweet e-mails asking a little about dating advice, and outfits that kind of thing. I think its sweet anyone would think to even email me to ask, so after reading and replying to these e-mails I thought why not blog and share my personal favorite tips and if anyone wants to do a similar blog id love to read it. I also had a cute e-mail asking if id be someones Mentor, and although I don't think I'm quite up there that's very very flattering and I do love to help anybody so that made me smile :)

When it comes to dating whether or not you met them through a sugar website it can be very nerve wracking, even if your the most confident person ever. I find that the more dates you go on the more used to it you get, in fact I feel like I'm a little bit addicted to dating. I love the butterfly's and learning all about someone as I'm quite romantic and I love to be wined and dined!

Here are my tips I use all the time :)

Research, Research, Research

A little research goes a long way. This can be from actually googling your date, which sounds a little creepy but a lot of people do it, especially when you have 'met' someone over the Internet. It helps to keep you safe as if they have messed a lot of girls around their details will come up on 'bad sugar daddy black list' websites - SD's be warned!

It will let you confirm their job, and that they are who they say they are. If this keeps you safe in my eyes it cant be bad so google away!

Apart from the safety reasons, it can help you strike some common ground with your date. I'm not saying a date is like a job interview, but you should always go into any kind of 'meeting' knowing what you are talking about. If you have a little idea of his role at work, or his company, this will impress him and its always good to take an interest anyway. Obviously be subtle and don't mention it first hand, but if the subject comes up you will have a little head start!

Know where your going

Google comes in handy yet again! As soon as I know where my date is taking me I google it.

The kind of things I want to know is where the nearest tube is, so that I know my journey and journey time. You don't want to be stressed on the day of a date, but relaxed. Make sure you know how your getting to A to B and if its far id expect to be picked up, but on the very first meeting its safer to meet in a public place not a car!

Once you know where you will be going, decide where you will meet and make it clear. I have had numerous guys take me out and say 'meet me at the Dorchester' for example, only to wait outside whilst Ive gone in and got a coffee at the bar to escape the cold!

If your eating my top top top tip is google the menu. Go to the website of where you are going and decide what you might like to eat. I find eating on dates quite hard, I never want to order the most expensive thing, yet not the cheapest and these are natural feelings we all have. If you go in there knowing what you might like, when the waiter offers you the menu you wont have to bury your pretty head in it for 20 minutes, you can have a quick look and confidently know.

This is also important if its a french restaurant or a different nationality, you have time to make sure you know how to pronounce things if you dont already know, so as to not look too silly :)

How to Dress?

There isn't really a 'how to dress' - just dress like you. If im being taken to an upscale hotel or restaurant I personally like a classy dress. I like a shift dress or a pencil dress, with understated make up and glamorous hair. I accessorise with sky high heels and I might show my personality through jewelry and my bag.

If its a more casual date il dress down a little, just go with what makes you feel comfortable and confident. Men don't really care, as long as you look polished. That is my golden rule, look polished and groomed and the details wont matter!

Getting Intimate?

I think its paramount on the first date you keep all intimacy for later. If you like the guy and decide you would like a second date, do not kiss, other than on the cheeks (of his face :)

This obviously goes for anything more than kissing too! Read the Rules book, it works for Sugar Daddy's too.

And last, certainly not least just relax. The man you are meeting will have worried so much more than you, he has a beautiful woman to entertain, so let him do the entertaining. If conversation takes a quite turn, relax. You don't have to fill in every gap, let him do that if he likes. Don't over compensate. Do show the best of yourself, in a refined, demure and classy manor. Be positive, Smile, and laugh lots - just be yourself :)

If all else fails, remember this story I will tell below, of a little date I went on - and remember - it cant be as bad as that!!!

I met a 'pot' from Aeeking Arrangement at a seafood bar and restaurant . I like seafood and I generally know my way around posh cutlery lay outs, little silver spoons and linen covered lemon slices - you know the kind of thing.

After our delicious starters of baked fish and roasted shellfish, my main course came. Beautiful tiger prawns with an array of sauces and implements. This being one of my very first dates of the kind, I felt quite nervous and the glass of wine on an empty stomach had hit me harder than I thought. As the waiter put down a little bowl of lemon sliced water, I barely considered its use.

With one hand, after breaking the long head from the prawn and undressing its shell, I dipped the beautiful gorgeousness straight into the lemony water, and straight into my mouth.

YES. I dipped a prawn, into a bowl of water you wash your hands in. I then ate it.

Luckily, my date found this endearing and wished to see me again. So there you have it, you might have a few 'uhoh moments' but they add sparkle to the date...

If they dont, you have a great little story to tell and some experience under your belt!

Best Wishes,

Baby Bow xx

Will the real Baby Bow please stand up...

2010-03-02T07:51:00.000-08:00

Hello Dolls!

You may have noticed 'two' baby bow profiles following your blog if I am a regular reader, do not panic, its only me!

Ive had a message on the book of face, wondering if there is a 'hoax bow' as there seems to be two profiles using my name and picture, but don't worry, there isn't. I recently changed the admin address to my blog and a few other personal details, just because this is a private blog and I think people should respect that and not try to work out who is behind it. In doing so I decided to create a new account.

I then lost all of my favorite blogs, so I followed again with my new account, so that I don't miss reading your blog. Whilst doing so, I couldn't work out how to delete my old following 'badge' and profile. I think Ive worked it out - but I'm a sugar baby not too techy so its the best I can do :-)

Now that Ive put a few peoples mind at rest, here is other news fresh from London!

This week I have been over in Africa with a friend of mine. This friend is quite well known in the sporting world and Ive known him for years as he was a childhood friend. Whilst in Africa we met and had the best time, I went out to dinner at the most fabulous restaurant, and after got picked up by his driver. We partied at a club by the pool on a cabana, had a penthouse party and generally excessed in all ways!

The next day my girlfriends and I woke up to the sound of the sea, and the sound of our ears ringing. Its safe to say I spent that whole next day in bed and missed all of the beautiful African sunshine. A peanut butter smoothie was all I could manage before I was homeward bound!

Since Ive been back Ive been so into cooking, I feel like a domestic goddess in training. Ive found some amazing cookery blogs and im training my self to be the ultimate wife!

I made some delicious Rocky Roads which im going to give to Mr Perfect as a treat, now that he is home from his travels. I love it so much im thinking of starting my own cookery blog or youtube videos, I want to be the next July and Julia!

Kisses, Baby Bow xx

What its like to date an older man...

2010-02-22T07:15:00.000-08:00

Recently I read an article in The Times that got me thinking. It was an account of life with an older man, written by a girl married to a rock star 20 years her senior. It was written from a positive perspective of the ups and the downs, but mainly of the ups...

This is something I am very passionate about, and a topic that melts in with Sugar dating quite well. I really do not understand the taboo towards age-gap relationships. Just because you are 20-something, 30-something, 40 something - does this automatically mean you should end up with someone within this little age bubble?

Personally, I have always been attracted to men older than myself. I am quite disenchanted with men my own age. To me, an age gap is natural, not daunting. I like the different perspectives and experiences that an age gap offers, and in the past its happened without me seeking it out.

Then comes the way you get treated by an older man. By no means are only older men gentleman, but most seem to come from the old school of manners, they are more comfortable and confident with old fashioned chivalry. Whilst they might not be any more cultured than younger men, they have life experience to draw from. Their longer time on the planet means these pearls of wisdom can be passed onto you.

Its a novelty to be treated like a lady. Some like it, some don't...... I do.

I like to relax and have a man take care of the small things, being taken out and feeling spoilt. Being made to feel like paying for the occasional dinner is the most generous act imaginable. Being made to feel like that little gift you bought him was the most innovative and inspiring gift he could ever imagine.

Old Fashioned Chivalry makes you feel special. I appreciate and notice good manors. A man standing up when you get back to the dinner table, walking on the road side of the pavement, opening the car door, treating you with respect - all incredibly romantic gestures in the least flashy way possible.

This brings me to thinking. After reading a few blogs recently, both here on blogger and over at world press, it seems to me some girls are very uncomfortable with the idea of dating an older man. It seems to me they have been sucked in by the 'gifts and money' and would not been seen dead with the guy in question otherwise. This is not a good idea, you are selling yourself for a gift that will hold no value later in life, and will probably live to regret it. You are wasting time you could spend meeting people you actually like. You are selling yourself short, no matter the $ you receive. It wont be enough.

What I'm trying to say is you either want to meet an older man, or you don't. I have and will always date men older than myself, whether that's a few years or 20 years, it makes no odds to me. Wether or not money was involved, that makes no odds to me either. The last man I fell in love with was 35, and I would have been happy to marry him. He wasn't a 'sugar daddy', just a successful older man who I genuinely loved.

So I have put this together with looking for a Sugar Daddy, and its the best of both worlds all mixed together for me. Its the older man, the maturity and life experience that I crave, mixed with Success, passion, and power. That makes for a very happy Bow, and there is nothing wrong with that. I know what I want, and I am selecting it.

Love, Baby Bow xxx

A mid-sugar update

2010-02-21T16:04:00.000-08:00

This week Ive spent a few days away, and have been busy planning a few little holidays over the summer. I plan to go back to Dubai to spend longer with my friend out there, and a little trip to Ibiza or Marbella during the summer with some of my friends.

I went shopping whilst in NY recently, and I have to say you American girls are so lucky to have Forever 21 and Victoria's Secret - why don't they come to the UK! I bought some jeans from Forever 21, I would usually only try to stick to designer jeans as I think there worth the investment for fit and the amount of times you wear them - but these are so cute. They are cropped with turn up and a tan studded skinny belt.

In Victoria's Secret I love their secret garden range, so I bought the whole range of 'Pure Seduction' the body wash, moisturisers, body sprays and perfume. I smell of Seduction from head to toe! I also bought some of their new coconut passion range, yummy.

Sugar wise I am at a cross road and there isn't too much to say. Mr Perfect is overseas on business, but checks in with me most days. We get together on his return. Mr G and I are in contact, but I haven't seen him since my last post as he and I have both been away.

In other Mr G news he has invited me to see him later next week, and I have given him a time frame for my allowance. That may seem a little direct, but its the only way to be and he has responded well. He has also said he would help me out with something that has to be done by the end of this month - hence the time frame. I expect to receive it soon, and then I can fully relax as I know we are both serious. I think getting over that first hurdle is important, and then once that investment of both £ and trust is made I can fully invest in our relationship.

I hope every ones having fun, oh and Ive lost a lot of the blogs I was following so if you have a private invite only blog please send me an invite again to myaccount74@hotmail.co.uk. Thank you :-)

Monday Morning Love,

Baby Bow x

The Big A - Allowence discussions!

2010-02-12T02:50:00.000-08:00

I thought id do a post on the big A and how to...

Work out what you need/want
Consider how to use it
Choose how to recieve it

I admit I'm not particularly an expert, but I usually am confident enough to strike up this conversation, and I know how to read men and give them that kick up the butt they usually need! I also thought it would be an interesting post, as everyone has different views and tips, so please feel free to share your own in a post or in my comments. If we all share our tips, we will be a new breed of super baby's! :D

Deciding the how, when and what with regards to your allowance or monetary gifts usually comes naturally, as you know yourself what would help. This is personal and will vary from Sugar baby to Sugar baby.

The How...

There are several ways you can arrange the monthly or weekly allowance. Some ways include -

Prepaid Credit Card - You have a set amount, no 'overdraft', can withdraw at ATMs
Credit Card - A credit card in your name on your Sugar Daddy's account

Cash - Old fashioned brown (pink?) envelope full of spondoolies

Electronic - PayPal or similar

My favorite way is a Pre Paid Credit Card. Reasons being, Obviously cash is simple, BUT this can be problematic - it can seem too transactional. A Pre Paid Credit Card is great because its all yours, not attached to his account so you can use it as you like, you can still withdraw at ATMS and put into your own bank if you like, you can also use online and in stores. It will be automatically set up to 'refill' every month. We all like a bit of refilling! Also... you don't have to have the whole conversation every few weeks like you will do with cash if your Sugar Daddy is of the forgetful variety! Carrying cash is a little unsafe too.

My least favorite way is a Credit card on his account, most daddy's are economically savvy and wont favor credit cards anyway as the high charges plus you don't have a limit which may sound appealing but how will you know what you can spend? You may think its appropriate to spend £1000 on a shopping spree, he may have intended you to be more conservative and use it for bills. I'm also not a fan of Paypal, its ok for the first few times but you need to check its in there, wait for it to clear, they take a cut etc and it may not be automatic every month.

When?

You decide on monthly, weekly, whatever works for you. I think Monthly is good as long as you are seeing each other quite regularly. It all less transactional and weekly can easily fall into the 'pay for play' category if its not set up well.

What?

I think a good starting point for an allowance is your rent + your bills + a little to spend on whatever you like = a good allowance. If you work this is perfect as it allowes you to invest and use your wage packet for whatever you like knowing that some of the main things are covered.

Personally, I am happy with an allowance of between 3-4K a month. This works out at a grand a week, and would allow me to save/invest maybe 2K each month, and still live a comfortable life with plenty of money for the little things that make us smile :)

I have in the past had higher allowances, but a little less is better than nothing. I also find lots of potential Sugar Daddy's who fall into the 3-4 K category, where as the higher guys are harder to come across. As long as your chosen Daddy has potential, you will be able to up your allowance at a later date in most situations, once you have bonded well.

*Don't forget, 3-4 K in one currency, is not 3-4 K in another. If your talking to an international daddy make sure your not cutting yourself short. Seeking Arrangement for example uses $ as a guideline. If your a UK baby, this amount will be roughly half in pounds - not as interesting as it first looked.

Check the exchange rate and be smart. At the moment £1 is equal to $1.56 dollars. So my set allowance of 3-4k in GBP is equal to $4,700-$6,261 in USD. If your a USA baby, and followed my guidelines your allowance will be between roughly 5 and 6 k.

Being Smart About Money

Its tempting to create a huge wish list of things you want to spend your allowance on, and its exciting to do. I think for the first few allowances you should try to consider clearing any debts you have, maybe paying of credit cards etc. Its also a good idea to keep a 'float' of money in your bank account, try keeping it so that it never falls less than 4 figures. This is a good back up, as you never know when the arrangement could come to an end.

If your Sugar Daddy is in the financial world, maybe a banker or a broker, pick his brains at how to invest wisely. Maybe you want to play around with some extra money and invest. If your lucky, he might set you up with a little stocks and shares account and give you some tips.

Budget well as a Sugar Baby too, be smart and save for the future. Budget at least half of your allowance into savings, if you can. Those shoes you want could be included into shopping trips with your new Sugar Daddy, or you could send him an online link!

Ive as usual gone on and on :) So Ive missed out the actual conversation and stumbling blocks you may find when you broach the subject with your Pot. That's coming up in my next post!

Kisses, Baby Bow xxx

Saved by Channel ♥ CC

2010-02-12T02:05:00.000-08:00

Yesterday I committed a cardinal sin of sugar dating, or well, dating in general.

I didn't realise id done it until it was too late...

DUN

DUN!

I wore the same outfit! EEEK¬! :-)

By the time I got to my date with 'Mr Date' it was early afternoon. We met at a well known hotel in London, and I saw him as soon as I walked into the lobby. He was dressed smartly like always and greeted me with a hug.

We decided to get something to eat in the restaurant inside hotel, for ease and because we were both hungry by now.

The restaurant was a kind of Chinese with a twist, where they served Asian flavoured burgers if such things exist. I went for a plate of rice with shrimp and chicken, and Mr Date went for a big bowl of noodles.

I have to admit the date was dire. If this had been the first time I had met him, we would have never met again. Conversation was almost all one sided, and as I chatted away he stared blankly at me or checked his blackberry that was persistently bleeping.

He told me he was very happy to see me, but the atmosphere pointed to the contrary. Lunch felt rushed and I was with him for all of about an hour. The only saving grace he had was that he did mention he had a lot going on that day, business wise, and he seemed a little apprehensions about that.

It made me wonder, did we ever get along very well, or did I look at our chemistry with rose tinted glasses? Maybe, but I'm sure he was making minimum effort possible yesterday.

Mr Date is being laid to rest in my sugar world, and he joins the sugar grave yard of past potentials, who tried, but failed to win me over.

It was as I walked out of the hotel, that I started thinking about my next meeting with 'G', and it was then I realised I was committing the shameful outfit crime. Luckily, I am sure 'G' is probably the least fashion or outfit savvy man around, and whilst I'm sure he appreciates a women who looks good - I doubt he takes into account details and features of ones outfit.

Luckier still, the outfit as you may recall from my previous post was pretty inconspicuous and casual, Black tunic, Biker boots, Cashmere Coat. I still felt I needed one little thing to change the look, and once I looked in my bag I realised I could fix myself up a little wardrobe on the go!

In my bag I had some Kirby grips, so I secured my hair all to one side in a chignon.

I then found my Chanel pearls hanging around in my bag, 3 strands white pearls with a Chanel black bow, and the Chanel white flower with a discreet and gold 'cc' on one of its petals. I took of my McQueen scarf (RIP McQueen, sad news, admired artist) and added the pearls. I hope this made the same outfit look different enough to get away with!

I had a few hours to spare before I met G, so whats a girl to do. Well when in London, shop! I headed to the flagship Topshop on Oxford Circus and picked myself up a Christopher Kane for Topshop brown lace dress in the sale it was £15 what a bargain... I also made a mental note to come back here and have eyelash extensions done in their eyelash bar in store.

By now my feet hurt but I soldier on and Arrive at out meeting point (One thing I like about G is that he meets me in very convenient places and is relaxed with regards to where) I was still a little early, so whats a girl to do? That's right. I found a Dune shoes and was in the shop looking at the prettiest flat sandals covered in crystals when he called me.

Outside the store I noticed him, and it was quite funny watching him when he didn't realise I could see, ehehehe evil me. So I went over, gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek (ONE kiss on one cheek, I remembered from last time. I always do the two kisses, one on each cheek and I think again this shows a difference in hmmmm....cant think of the word... CLASS sounds awful. But that's kind of what I mean...?) I dont mean to come across as a snob because I am not, and I dont care about peoples backgrounds and walk of life, im just very observent so I notice things like that.

We decided to go to a local sports bar. Very laid back and down to earth and we drank beer and I nibbled on chicken wings and hot sauce. I actually had one million times more fun with G than with Mr Date, and I think we spent a few hours in there.

G bought up the face-to-face allowance talk, which was much appreciated. He has had a similar relationship in the past, and he told me her allowance - quite causally - was 2.5k a week. He made a point of saying that was after a long time together and they were very happy, but its just nice to know he has that potential I suppose. To be honest, that's more than I ever imagine. But it is nice to imagine.

I had such a great time with G that I decided I was too hasty last week, and I'm very glad that we met again. He is an absolute gentleman and I don't feel any pressure to sleep with him, or to look spotless at all times - I though as I had hot sauce all over my mouth at one point :-)

I think this counts for something, and he made it clear everything is on my terms, even how often we see each other. I think its a good deal if it all rings true.

Il do another post on exactly what allowance he offered and what kind of relationship we would have. This post is getting long and id like to post on how I work out allowances and tips on conversations surrounding them, as they can be tricky.

Weekend Kisses!
Baby Bow xx

G and Mr Date returns...

2010-02-10T14:47:00.000-08:00

Thank you for the comments on my recent post introducing G and our first date. Its really helped me to read them and get different opinions whilst Ive been reflecting over the last few days.

One of the comments mentioned how sugar relations are not usually forever, and of course I knew this, but it hit home and made me realise who cares if I meet someone for a little while, as long as im happy with them it doesnt matter if they fit my ideal mould. The more I think about it the more I realise im looking for something laid back and temporary like this. G is like the cookie thats a little broken, still as sweet but just not as perfect as the picture you had in your mind...

Today I received a message from Mr Date, and he asked to take me for Lunch tomorrow. We have kept in touch but I have kept him at arms length after meeting pots who I admire and have more faith in than him. Saying that, I still like the guy and I do have time for him on my terms.

Ive decided, that tomorrow I will meet him for lunch. Il post after the date, although I see nothing more than lunch and a little catch up happening, and I'm quite happy with that. Whilst I'm in central London I decided to get the ball rolling and use my time wisely, so I have decided to meet G for drinks afterwards.

I have come to the conclusion that one date is probably not sufficient to base anything on, as I could tell G had some nerves going on and I am hoping a second time he would relax - allowing me to imagine an arrangement with him better.

Ive kept in touch with him since our last date last week, and I laid on the table what I wanted to see from him. We are going to meet again tomorrow and have a few drinks, to discuss and negotiate. Ive come to the conclusion that id be silly to not take him seriously as he has so many good points, even if he does not fit my 'sugar mould' exactly. Maybe that's refreshing? Who knows.

I know, if my vibes are right and if he is truthful, that I could get this whole thing started, allowance and all within one more date. Tomorrows date would be my starting point to plan this. Ive already made it clear, as I always do, that sex is a natural development for me. And sex does not equal allowance - i am not a hooker and I am not being 'paid' for anything.

G is a gentleman, takes this seriously and is a great sugar catch. He may not have swept me off my Louboutins but that doesn't mean he isn't worth my time. He is. How many sugar daddys actually research and read Sugar 101 just to make sure they 'get' it and that their Sugar baby will be a happy baby. I think that should stand for something!

So that's my day ahead planned. Lunch with Date, and drinks with G. Il of course update the little details, and I'm interested to see what G is going to 'lay out on the sugar table'!

By the way, I have so much going on with Mr Perfect, the funniest stories that would be so great to blog about. Its like a little adventure and my friends and I find it all so amusing and amazing. But for some reason I'm holding off letting it all go on here about him, I feel like guarding him. We are still 'dating' and I'm enjoying every minute.

Love, Baby Bow x

Tart with a Cart, Trolly Dolly, Sky Harlot!

2010-02-08T07:47:00.000-08:00

Being a flight attendant, or as I like to say 'Air stewardess' is a somewhat lusted after job. It appears to be very glamorous, chic, and oh-so-international. We carry with us connotations where ever we go, who ever we meet - see http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=sky%20harlots and people have a preconception of what you are like the minute you answer that you 'fly the skys' for a living.
Ive had a little interest in my blog via emails and comments, relating to this side of my life rather than the sugar. I though id post entirely on what its like, how to do it, and how to start.

Firstly you have to pick an airline. I work for a major UK international carrier, and its the company I always wanted to work for. I decided I liked them, and I went for it. Nothing else would do (In the UK admittedly we have far fewer to choose from)
If you choose a short-haul airline, it will be a completely different job to the one I'm about to explain. This is because you will work different hours, fly back and fourth domestically or short distances, sometimes up to 3 or 4 sectors a day. You wont see anything of the country or state, your lifestyle will literally be on board that plane. That's not to say its a bad job, its still more exciting that 9-5 in an office I guess, and I hear the money is good at short haul level. It also means you will be home every night, ideal for having a life outside of work and of course if you have a family or children.

I am a long haul stewardess. This means my flight times are at minimum 6-7 hours, and at most 12-14 hours. I have to legally stay where ever I fly for the minimum of one night. An example of a short 'bullet' flight like this - London to New York. A 6-7 hour flight, which allows us one night and one day in Manhattan, before checking out and working home.
Depending on the airlines schedules and many other factors including flight time limitations and time change, you will get a varying amount of time in each destination. As a general rule of thumb, when I fly to the West Coast of the USA Il spend 3 days there, so that's San Fran, Vegas, LA. When I fly to Africa/India it will usually be two nights. If I fly to some Caribbean destinations including Barbados, Havana Cuba, St Lucia, this is usually a 3-4 night stay. Then you have the longer haul trips including Sydney Australia, Hong Kong, Singapore, China, Mauritius and Indian ocean which can result in a 9 day stay.

Benefits

Every place that we fly to we get put into 5 star hotels at the other end, and we get paid an 'allowance' for being there. This is our expenses that we will incur by living away from home for 1-10 days. The rate is fabulous, usually $200 per night, and of course you never end up spending all of this, especially in quite places like the Caribbean where there is no shopping, so you can bring it home with you. This 'tops up' our money each month. As you can imagine, if we do a 9 night trip at $200 a night that can work out at almost 2k a trip.

On top of this we get our monthly wage. You can be working in Economy at the lower wage, or in First Class or be a supervisor and get paid higher up the scale. You will work your way up, even though admittedly they are not particularly great wages. Again, pay works differently between airlines, and I work at an airline well known for not paying all that well compared to some of the others - but I think we make up for it in Allowance and lifestyle.

We also then get a pay each time we fly this is called flight pay, or sector pay. So this is added to our wage packet, and obviously the more you fly the more you will earn on top of your basic salary.

The main benefit I think is our lifestyle. We get to work as little or as often as we like. There are legal implications on the amount of hours we spend in the air, so this limits your work. I usually fly 3-4 times per month, the max being 6 short flights. Some months you may just work one long flight, and have the rest of the time off. Some months you wont work at all so that your 'flying hours' are managed throughout the year, but you will still get paid your basic salary

Its a great feeling to go to work once or twice per month and still get paid the same!

Your airline will also give you great deals for your own lifestyle. Each is different, but for example I get 10 free return flights anywhere on our network per year. I am allowed to take friends with me, so if I have 3 nights on a Caribbean island I can get a friend a free ticket and bring them along! :-) We also have upgrades, so enjoy flying first class and little things like this.
I love the uniforms, that's one of the best bits! You will usually get a designer uniform, made by someone like Vivian Westwood as an example.

Not So great bits

Working strange hours can put a strain onto you physically and mentally, and is apparently not great for your body. Flying is obviously risky and you have a lot of responsibility at all times (hence the hard training)

You may find it hard to sleep at home, or to readjust to your sleeping patterns. Your internal body clock will be all over the place.

You also may find planning a social life hard as you don't know what your doing or where you will be, I think this would be harder for people with Children but saying that I know plenty of people who fly and enjoy a perfectly normal home life too. Like I said you get plenty of time off so there are ways of working it out. We also get 28 days of holiday each year which is paid.

Applications
If you like the sound of this the best thing to do is google airlines that you know have a base close by, and apply for an interview. There used to be an age limit (21-35) but they had to scrap that as its discriminative. Speaking another language/languages is fabulous and will give you an extra something. As will medical back ground like a nursing qualification for example.

There are no set qualifications and any 'courses' are just a rip off, if you are good with people and have customer service experience that's all you need :-)
You need to be tall enough to handle a door in an emergency and this can differ between airlines. I am a petite 5'3 and a half. You also cannot be too tall as some of the planes are small!

You will need to look good and be well groomed at all times, and be fit and healthy, but I think here in the UK we are more 'old school' with regards to the glamour. Ive flown with a few international airlines and been shocked at the girls nails, hair and general grooming. You also find they favour more attractive girls as cabin crew, but again that is discriminative so that's not an official thing!!
Once you decide, apply with professional photos if needed and prepare for a grueling interview. Interviews can be anything from hours to days. Mine was a full day interview, and many include 'rounds' which you will have to keep making it through before your invited to the next part, its like X factor! Mine was including Maths and English tests, Group interviews, One on One interviews, group presentation, role play... etc.

Once you get the job you will have some of the hardest training of your life (I'm very passionate that people have the preconception we are airheads and yet its one of the most intensive training programmes on which we are tested everyday) You may spend 4-8 weeks training, day in day out, with exams everyday and you get the boot if you don't pass with flying colours. You will learn survival in Antarctic conditions and at sea, be required to "ditch" into a pool, make use of all doors and slides, know every location of every piece of equipment by heart on a fleet of maybe 1-4 different aircraft models, and all the safety that goes with it and differs between each!

Its a fabulous way to see the world without 'roughing it' by backpacking, and you make some great friends :-)

I do hope I didn't bore anyone too much, but there is so much to write!

Baby Bow xx

Dates, Details, Diamonds

2010-02-07T09:14:00.000-08:00

No Diamonds now I am afraid, but it sure sounded cute ;-)

Do you have a 'type' when it comes to Sugar Daddy's. We all know there tend to be different kinds of guys, and each provides a different experience. There are Allowance Daddy's, Gift Daddy's, Experience Daddy's, Travel Daddy's - and as I like to call them the Diamond daddy's, where id expect all of the above :-)

Well my date this week was with 'Economy Daddy' for want of a better expression. Il try to explain, and here as promised is a detailed account of our meet!

I will call him 'G' and I met him on Craigslist a few months ago. Due to him being out of the country we have only just met, although we have kept in touch and he has been patient.
G's Advert on Craigslist mentioned he would like a 'GFE - Girl Friend Experience' and was happy to provide a monthly allowance, shopping and more. He came across as kind and gentlemanly, and I had good vibes from him.

On the morning of the date and I got ready at home, before embarking on a 2 hour journey to see him. The journey does not bother me, as I am very used to traveling and I quite enjoy it. From speaking to G on the phone it was clear he was extremely laid back, and not as 'suave' 'urbane' or 'polished' as all other men I have met. I had a acute feeling he would not know his Pucci from his Gucci, so I adjusted my look and felt a lot less pressure to look flawless, like I have felt the need to in the past.

I decided on black treggings - you know, trouser legging things, with a long sleeved black tunic top. I wore black leather medium heeled biker boots over the leggings, and had my hair down, big, and blown out to perfection. My make up was natural, and I accentuated my eyes with a few eyelash extensions in the outer corners.

Over this I wore a caramel cashmere coat, with a tan leather Prada bag. I wore simple Tiffany studs, and a silver bracelet by Pandora. Around my neck I tied a Alexander McQueen Skull scarf. A very casual look, and I felt comfortable which is always important.

Off I went, and I have to say I had zero nerves. I thought at first it was the fact that I was a little un-excited (is that even a word?! It is in my mind :-) But i have come to the conclusion that the more you date, the better you get used to it. I even will go as far to say that I enjoy the lurching feeling in your stomach as you silently look around, scanning faces blindly for any likeness to that Jpeg he sent you last week. Will he be as fat? Will he be less fat? Will he be as old? What will he wear? Will be make me want to turn around and pretend I don't know who he is?! Will I feel like running over and giving him a hug?!

On this occasion, I saw him the moment I got to our meeting place, which was by the side of the River Thames. He was lent against the railings looking bigger than I imagined, but in a strong and imposing way, not a too many krispy kremes way... although admittedly, he was no stranger to a doughnut or two. With blonde hair, jeans and a leather jacket.

I greeted him, and we started heading towards a restaurant he would take me to for lunch. Straight away, he fired into a spiel, almost like a sales pitch - I put this down to his nerves, which he later admitted he had been full of before meeting me. I hope I put him at ease, but I'm not really sure he ever fully relaxed.

As we walked into the restaurant, I noticed he knew everyone there. The staff, the waiters, the owners. This is nice, but it made me feel 'on show' and a little like I was paraded around for kudos points. I greeted all with a smile, and made the most of the friendly service.

We took a look at the menu, and he kept reminding me 'I could have what ever I wanted'. Kind, you might think, and of course it was. But I have to admit, I find this annoying. I feel like saying "I KNOW I can have whatever I want, and If I cant we may as well end the date right now, because that is the main motive for my being here"

Of course Lunch isn't my 'main motive' but in sugar dating the whole point is you are treated like a lady and expensive lunches are all part and parcel. The added factor that this was a pretty but middle of the road restaurant confirmed my attitude towards things like this. I sound like a bitch? I really am not, but lets not beat around the bush :-)

Through our conversation I gather that he is in his 40's, and he owns beauty salons. He is divorced, with grown up children, some of whom are older than I am. The beauty salons are in average areas of greater London, not plush, and not somewhere id be all that interested in going in.

G is less educated than I am, but has done well for himself none the less. I admire this, but I found I was 'dumbing' myself down during conversation - certain topics were going over his head and I was adjusting myself to his level. This is a major downside to me, as I want to be constantly learning and advancing myself - something I see a different kind of Sugar Daddy benefiting. G would be the opposite, and id just be a pretty face.

What I'm trying to say, without sounding like a snob, is G is just your average guy. Joe Blogs. He has some spare cash, and wants to invest it in a 'relationship'.

'You can tell me what you want and id buy it for you' he would say. 'Il get you an apartment if you needed one, id put it through my business'. Or 'If you ever need money, call me and il send it to you' At one point I stopped to mention that id quite like a new apple laptop, and he said 'This is the kind of thing you could ask for, and id get you'.

Overall, he was an absolute gem. Kind, caring, and down to earth. I have no doubt that he would take care of a sugar baby very well, and I think he had a naive side that could be walked over. He is a gold diggers dream, but I am not a gold digger.

I think this is a classic example of how to be a sugar baby and not an escort. As the former, I am going to take into consideration the impact on my own life he would have, the benefits, the pros and cons, attraction and chemistry, whether I would be happy with myself dating him. Its not all about the money.... If it was I would have met him again already and be a couple of K richer, or had it wired into my bank. I know id be able to ask this of him, but I am not about to take advantage of this man. Its a little too 'easy' for me.

At this point unsure of what I want to do. I think if I put him in a suit, moved him into central London and gave him a quite cultural crash course id be much happier. The kind of Daddy I like is powerful, challenging, someone I can learn from and who will help me to advance myself. Someone I will enjoy experiences with from a holiday to a conversation.

Being with G is more like having a relaxed lunch with an old friend, good in a way, but maybe to comfortable for my liking?

As I left the date we spoke briefly about 'the small print' - i like this expression I think it sums it up well! My small print is £3k month, once a week, gifts and I call the shots. No sex until it naturally happens, nothing planned. He asked where he could sign.

Its a hard situation. Does anyone reading relate? What do you think you would do? Would you take the £ and see? Or would you end things before they ever started because it isn't how you imagined? A lower class life, but with money in the bank to fund my own?

A contemplating, Baby Bow xx

Comments and Followers and Emails, Oh My ♥

2010-02-05T14:16:00.000-08:00

Id just like to post to say thank you for comments that have been left recently, I love something to read and I find every ones sugar aspirations so exciting :-)

I will as recommended do a detailed post on my job as it seems to be a point of interest, its far less glamorous as it sounds but I suppose I do get to travel and it definitely opens up your world and I think works well alongside sugar dating. So that's a post that's coming up over the next few weeks and il give all the advice I have relating to that.

As well as comments Ive been receiving a few emails at babybow@live.co.uk , They are all so flattering and its so nice to know people read my blog. I welcome any e-mails, when I first started becoming interested in the Sugar world I had a fellow sugar baby who would give me advice and I think it was really helpful so I don't mind at all if anyone emails, I'm not an expert - far from it but sometimes it nice to pass on little bits of advice :-)

Also coming up is a full details post on my date yesterday with a new Pot, I'm going to tell absolutely everything and I plan on doing so with anything relating to this pot. This is mainly because I feel a little guilty I'm not dishing the dirt on Mr Perfect but I will do in good time, in fact I'm meeting him tomorrow and visiting his home town, I'm very excited!

So anyway that was just a little random post, and now IL write about yesterdays date.

Hope everyone is ready for a fun weekend!

Baby Bow xx

Update on the Daddys in my life :-)

2010-01-31T09:54:00.000-08:00

I don't like to post personal details on here, and I like to keep my blog upbeat and fun... because most of the time I am :-)

Although the last few weeks or so have been a little hard, and I've have quite a lot going on with regards to my personal life. This isn't something I wish to speak about on here, and I know it will all be OK. But, of course this has had a little impact on my sugar life and hence I haven't updated with stories of Pots and dates for a little while.

So to catch you all up - This is where Bow is on the sugar time line at this moment!

Mr Date came back on the scene, he was quite clear in what he wanted and I made it quite clear (in an almost rude way I was so clear but I'm a little past nicety's with this one!!) what I expected. What I expected by the way was a hell of a lot more than what was last 'put on the table'. An allowance of 5k+, An apartment, and a few extra things.

This he agreed to, but I am yet to see anything. This is partly due to my own flakiness baring in mind the last month Ive had stuff on my mind, and also due to him as we all know Mr Date cant keep a Date. All in all, I let him stay in the background but I have no real interest and I do not really mind either way so we will see if he makes any effort or not. The sparkle from Mr Date faded a long time ago...

New Pot: I do have a pot who I am arranging to meet. He seems very eager, and very sweet as Ive had to let him down numerous amounts of times. He is laid back, down to earth and I think he would take care of me very well. He seems interested in the whole Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby scenario so much so that he has read Sugar Baby 101 and the Seeking books. That's cute, I haven't heard of many Sugar Daddy's taking such an interest. Il meet him soon, and il let you know where/when and what he offers. Again, I'm very breezy on all of this, if it happens, it happens. I promise il give full details on this one.

Thirdly, Last and CERTAINLY not least - Mr Perfect.

I'm not going to say much. I apologise. I just want to keep him to myself at the moment ;-) But its all good... :-) :-) :-)

The only reasons I have the two other pots is I believe its good to hedge your bets, I haven't in the past and if things don't go to plan it can leave you dateless. I mean, its not a biggie anyway you can just jump back on seeking arrangement - but if you find a few you like, that can be rare, so I suggest keeping a few of them sweet. There is nothing wrong with dating a few people until you know each other and decide to make things more official, plus you never know, Daddy might be doing that too...

I wish you all a lovely week of sugar ahead, I'm off to the USA in the morning, just for the night although id much rather spend it at home relaxing, Oh well!

In other news I'm looking forward to Chicago Sugar coming over, we are going to go to Nobu or somewhere equally as delicious and fun! yay :-)

Keep it sweet sugars :-)

Baby Bow xx

Bronzed Sugar

2010-01-30T11:18:00.000-08:00

Ive just returned from a little holiday to Dubai, and whilst I was there it made me reevaluate what I want out of my life... I like to do this every now and again. Sometimes my goals are deep and thoughtful, other times they are selfish and fickle, but what ever you dream... that's your dream... so it can be what ever you want :-)

I thought id give a little account of my few days there, as its like a sugar porno just arriving into that place...

Most of the time whilst I was in Dubai, I shopped. If you follow my blog you have probably noticed I shop anywhere, which is enjoyable of course but I do need to kick the habit down a few notches, at least until I have a steady allowance! I bought a beautiful pair of cream shoes from Dune - here they are if you are interested http://www.dune.co.uk/catalogue/category.asp?r=43&g=48&s=55

Perfect Sugar Daddy date footwear in my eyes :-)

Dubai is a very glitzy place. I was lucky enough to spend an evening in the lounge at Heathrow, eating seafood, cheese, salmon, caviar, and drinking champagne in immense quantities. I then was able to fly first class, in my own bed being served champagne and pampered. Once arriving in Dubai, the opulence of that place smacks you in the face. Its the city of 24 Carat hotel walls, helicopters picking you up to take you to the hotel, maids and nanny's. Everyone drives a Bentley, everyone owns an island.

In the evenings we would dine out at the most fabulous resturants, ordering what we liked and getting the bill often picked up by neighbouring diners. We spent the evenings dancing in the exclusive Roberto Cavalli owned club, with free champagne all night (in Dubai, girls drink for free everywhere you get into, thats what crazy money this place has - you are never charged) The place is total debauchery!

In one club we went to, every few minutes you will hear the music being cut out as they play a theme tune, and you will see 4-5 waiters bring out a huge 'Nebuchadnezzar' sized bottle of Champagne. Fireworks will light up the area, and the table receiving the bottle will bask in the glory. A few minutes later it all happens again, and you look to see the next table has bought yet another. Over and over again the men at these tables try to out do each other with displays of wealth. How much would this set you back you may wonder?

£20,000. And the most expensive coctail? $7,400. Crazy.

On my little shopping trip I popped into a designer store, and I found the most amazing dresses. They were affordable, maybe a couple of hundred pounds each, but I would feel bad paying that each time I wanted a new dress. I fantasised about how I love the Sugar life, I really do. We are cute women, using are best features including our brains, to get what we want.

On the flight over there was a couple in first class, The man was noticeably older than his younger girlfriend, and I heard a fellow traveller ask 'you know why she is with you?' The girlfriend cut in saying 'Of course, but then I know why he is with me too, and not a woman in her late 50's like yours' Bitchy, I know, but it sums it up perfectly.

We got what they want, they got what we want. Whats a girl to do? Its simple :-)

Baby Bow xx

Flying First Class... Up In The Sky

2010-01-23T09:13:00.000-08:00

Happy Weekend everybody!

You may have noticed my last few posts have been a little 'generic' - well that is for a reason, as Ive got things to tell but I have been holding off posting for all kinds of reasons, all will be reveled soon, but until then I am jumping on the safety and traveling bandwagon and giving you a little of my own advice.

Firstly, this post is not to offend anyone, and I am certainly not posting this as a direct response to any ones travels. Just, like many other Sugar Baby's I have noticed the travel debate has arisen and id like to share my own experiences.

When speaking to a potential Sugar Daddy for the first time, we all know how exciting it can be. We all 'spend' our allowance mentally, we all plan on where we would live, how often we would see them, the things we would do together. This is good, and I think its important to positively think.

Now, when that SD lives out of the Country, or state, we can get caught up imagining the exotic location, the shopping sprees, the dinners out. Lets be honest, traveling somewhere is exciting, so this excitement can sometimes override our natural impulses and our COMMON SENSE.

A little while ago I 'met' a SD who was in New York. I met him actually in NY when I was on a work trip, and we kept in touch over SD.com. We got on OK, and I had him send me an email from his work address, so that I then could verify his position. He was a CEO at a major bank, the head quarters being based in NYC.

After speaking for a while, he asked me when I would be back. I explained that I had a long period of holiday leave from work, so I wasn't planning on being back anytime soon. To this, he suggested I fly out to NY to meet him, and stay with him for 3 nights. He promised an allowance, that we would go to his nightclub he owned a share in, and generally have a good time. I immediately told him I expected a hotel, confirmed and in my name, and a first class plane ticket. To this, he responded in an outrageously bad manor, demanding I respect his 'good name' in the business world, and that I 'knew who he was'.

Whether or not I would have been treated well in NY wasn't good enough for me. The fact he was a multi millionaire with a good rep and well respected within society wasn't good enough for me. The fact he even asked shows he is a dick. I said NO. And I said NO for two reasons. One was safety. And the Second - being a good Sugar Baby...

*Being a good Sugar Baby.

I really feel strongly that you should NEVER visit a SD who is a substantial distance from you, at least for the first couple of times that you meet. This is because, purely and simply they are asking too much of you. They are 'trying it on' to see if you say yes. Its the old "ask 100 girls and one will say yes" rule. But that doesn't mean its right, or that you should be the 'yes girl'.

A sugar daddy is a sugar daddy because he plans on providing for you, and he is also a gentleman. Why would he expect you to fly all the way to see him, and put your safely at risk? If a potential asks you to do this, in my eyes it is out of order.

Its a known fact that men like a chase, granted they also like a one night stand, but you need to be the one they chase in this instance.

Look at this from a SD's point of view, you met online, you spoke, you got along. Next thing, YOU have booked YOURSELF a plane ticket, YOU are taking time out of your life, YOU are paying the expenses. When you arrive, its a given that they are going to expect you to sleep with them, you have just flown your pretty ass half way across the country - in their eyes they believe you flew all that way because you wanted them so bad. I know this sounds strange, but its true. In a mans mind he will not understand why you would make that effort just to ask to sleep in the spare room.

It also gives the impression that you are a little bit of a pushover. No matter how strong you are, and how well you stand your ground, the Sugar Daddy knows that you made all that effort and he knows you will find it awkward to ask for reimbursement, because of course you would be awkward, who wouldn't?

I think the main reason, after safety, not to travel is just by him asking you to, it proves he isn't a Sugar Daddy worth seeing. The only exception to this rule is if he is busy, and cannot take the time to go see you. In this case, he may book you a ticket, and a hotel which you could confirm before you arrive. I would still advise against this, as I think its ungentlemanly and that is the exact kind of person I wouldn't waste my time own time on, and neither should you.

Remember back to when you first aspired to be a SB, I'm sure you didn't imagine flying your self out to some random place and loosing your own money. Being a 'good sugar baby' is all about expecting THE BEST. I expect no less that first class travel, and I wont travel (in a sugar situation - I'm not a complete snob :-) any less. The good Sugar Daddy's want you to have a standard, they want to see that you wouldn't fly out cattle class on your own dollar to see just any tom dick or harry for the promise of $...

Safety:

I didn't want to base this post around safety, as I think its pretty much common sense and other sugar baby's have covered it extremely well - like Chicago Sugar's blog. I wont go over things that have already been said, and I wanted to show more reasons why in unwise to visit a SD on the first date, from a different perspective. I hope I've managed to do that?

The only safety related advice I would like to give is this - never go anywhere without your own money, and that's not even in relation to sugar. I see flights get canceled everyday, and people have to put themselves in hotels for 2,3,4 nights before they can fly home/out.

Ive seen people get stranded in places, with full hotels apart from the 6* ones because every ones in the same boat, and its not a great situation to be in. You always need to have your own cash, and if you don't have emergency money, then just sit tight.

Being stranded without money isn't the only risk. You carry the risk of rape, of abuse, of being held without your will. Watch the film 'Taken' if you haven't already seen it, although fictional, the sex slave/trade industry is very real and a multi billion black market. The men who run it and who are involved may be respectful, well dressed, well spoken and will be seen as a 'SD' to on the outside. Think about it, your beautiful, young, impressionable. No body knows where you are, they know that. You know that. Its the ideal trap.

It all really doesn't bare thinking about so please girls be careful, your all very beautiful and you need to remember what your worth and how easily someone could take you...

Take care and keep yourselves safe,

Baby Bow x

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly

2010-01-13T13:12:00.000-08:00

Just as there is a 'career ladder' in life, I like to think there is a mirror image ladder in Sugar Town.

All of the sugar daddy's are climbing it. Its pink, it sparkles, its polished. Look closely and you will see potentials struggling to the top with all their power heavy on their backs, a few slip off after the first step - falling into the black hole of forgotten daddy's after countless e-mails. Some don't even get noticed and wait down below. Half way up lingers the odd picture collector, intent on not moving - just sitting still. Then, your hair blows and you hear the loud chopping sound, and that diamond daddy whizzes past you, in the race to the top in their own helicopter!

I have come to realise, via my own experience and that of fellow sugar babys, that there are certain jobs that make the best Sugar Daddy's. This is not exclusive, of course, there can be all kinds I'm sure, but usually these careers pop out the best beneficiers. They give birth to diamond daddy's!

Here they are: My 'Power Three'!

The Good

Owning an empire - Business men *Pros - Good advice and guidance, would make a good mentor. May invest in your own ideas *Cons* May be busy with limited time (maybe that's a pro and a con depending on you)

Stock brokers/ Bankers/ Traders *Pros - Ridiculous amounts of income, its not unusual to earn millions of pounds just in a bonus. Good advice on trading, may help you invest yourself. Possibility to be a younger SD Cons* The old saying bankers wankers - although in most cases these comments are directed from people who have lost money, not the sugar baby of a banker :-) I'm sure she is mostly a happy lady.

CEO - MD - Being the CEO or Managing Director *Pros Its a 'job' so no risk of there own business going down the pooper, highly powered, travel. Cons*Busy, limited time in one place can make SD/SB hard to maintain.

Other good but more unusual ones to look out for are company directors, poker players, sports men, artists, writers, High up Doctors/Surgeons, Investors, lawyers with own firm.

The Bad

These are the Jobs I consider to be more 'splenda' than sugar. They should be approached with an air of caution, and a pinch of salt. These jobs, although classed as 'good jobs' are not high enough for a real SD/SB relationship in my eyes, if your looking for a high allowance. When I think of a SD I think of MILLIONAIRE OR BILLIONAIRE, so this is the system I use. This is the reason I have put them into 'The Bad' category, as we see these jobs on sugar daddy dating websites all of the time, and personally its not what I'm looking for. Although, if you would like a gift daddy, a travel daddy, or even a boyfriend or husband - these are all good candidates.

Pilots, Managers, some doctors, builders, small business owners, recruitment, sales, flight engineers, economists, Old Money.

I mention 'Old Money' because I think this, although they may own all they want are not a generous breed of people. If someone is born into Money, especailly not a huge deal of it, then they seem to be very protective of it. You might find them to be old fashioned, resusing things time and time again, and very cost concious. If you married into it, im sure you would have a better time.

The Ugly

I'm not going to list these, but we all know who they are. They post on SD.com and lure you in, and then you realise they drive a lorry/truck all day. Or worse still, they do nothing all day!

I suppose what matters is what your looking for as we all look for different things. If your looking to go from college girl to driving a Bentley, with 8k in the bank each month, a personal shopper, use of a private jet - or any of these luxuries id keep your sights high on the power 3.

If you wouldn't mind dating someone who will pay your bills and keep you dressed well, then 'The Bad' could still pay off, besides all the 'Power 3' will have once been in the lower divisions. So why not try to catch one while he is starting, and be there when he reaches the top!

Love Baby Bow from a freeeeeeeezing UK x

Younger VS Older

2010-01-13T05:59:00.000-08:00

Ive been catching up on the blogs, whilst generally staying in my PJ's and roaming around the house as Ive been a little ill, although I'm starting to feel better and the platinum lining is my tummy is flat as a pancake - good times!

From today I'm going to try to update each day, as I have lots to update!

One thing Ive noticed that I find interesting is other SB's pondering over a younger SD/older SD and what might be better, so I thought id give my two sugar cents. Everyones different, and everyone looks for different things, but I only like to find the Diamond Daddy's.... Maybe Ive mentioned that before?! :0)

With that in mind, I vote OLDER and here are the reasons why:

A Sugar daddy is someone accomplished. This doesn't mean 'has a good job' - anyone can have one of those. He has already earnt his majority of wealth, he may now be retired or winding down. He may be in the peak of his main job, the role he has been working towards for the last 30 years.

Lets take a regular 'CEO', for an example in this story. OK, so when 'CEO' was 21, he may have been hot, lets just say he was, so he was really freakin hot. He worked hard, went to UNI/COLLEGE whatever you like, graduated and started to work in his chosen field. He is now in his 30's, he may now meet a wife, he may not. He may start a family, he may not. What he certainly will be is busy.

A lot of his money will be tied up in a family, new/first homes, investments. His income - no matter how high - will more than likely not be disposable at this point. 'CEO' is working towards being a real CEO - Cheif Executive Officer of a company, and will reap the benefits in later years.

Lets look at CEO now, in his late 40's. This is when he is more likely to actually be a CEO. This is what he has waited to achieve, and this is when he will start to build a nice little pot of sugar.

In the 40-50-60's period, most people have done all of their working. They have the investments, the homes, the planes, the cars. Everything that a Sugar Baby looks for. They are now, and only now, in the position to financially care for a Sugar Baby and enjoy each others company.

So with this in mind, I do not see a man in his 30's as a Sugar Daddy. Sure, one day he will be. Sure, he will take you to a good restaurant and pick up the bill. Sure, he might buy you a pair of Louboutins. BUT - he wont hand you 5k the last day of the month, he wont buy you a car, or an apartment. He may mess you around, and you will be smarter than him.

I actually like dating older men. I can put my hand on my heart and say I find myself completely attracted to guys in the age ranges of 40-50. If I wasnt, maybe id still be out there looking for the younger ones? I dont know.

Besides, You can always have the sugar daddy and enjoy 'dating' the younger guys. In fact, if you quite fancy being a trophy wife then that may be the route you choose, exclusively.

Just remember, when it comes to real Sugar Daddys they know how lucky they are to have you, and they show it in the ways us Sugar Babys like... a younger guy may not feel quite as 'lucky' because he will have women dropping at his feet on a daily basis. Come on, he is hot rich single 30 year old. He can have whatever he likes. He isnt yet a daddy - in every meaning of the word.

Love, Baby Bow x

♥ Continued

2010-01-07T08:10:00.000-08:00

Firstly, its taken me a while to finally tell you all part to of how baby bow was born, I have been away and had an exciting and somewhat strange week, Ive also been catching up on all of the blogs that I follow~!

So here we go....

After the crazy night spent at Bigs apartment, I thought about the lifestyle he led. It intrigued me, and shocked me, I loved it but was scared by it, I felt a real mix of emotions but I knew I wanted to experience more.

It must have been a few months later, and some girlfriends and I went back to that London club. None of them knew about Big, or that night I spent partying in his apartment.

Across the dance floor I spotted him, seated at his table - just as before. I caught his eye, and to my surprise he remembered me, waving me over and pulling back the red rope that separated his table from the dance floor.

I sat next to Big, and to be honest I don't remember what we spoke about. All I know is we drank and drank and danced and danced. Drank some more, Danced again...again, and again. The club started to close, and as it wound down we jumped into a car and went to his apartment. This time it was a different apartment, much smaller and less showy and flash, but in an amazing location and still very luxurious.

A few people came back with us, and we started to crack open bottles of champagne. I remember him saying how 'cheap' he thought Crystal tasted, and that what we were drinking was vintage and just one bottle was the price of a case of crystal.

As the evening went on I started to feel attracted to Big. It helped that he kept saying how he wished he had spoken to me more the first time we met, and that he wanted to but felt awkward as my friend was sat next to him. I felt like it was luck that I had met him again, and the alcohol made usual social boundaries disappear.
I ended up sleeping with Big that evening. I had a very confident, maybe overly confident aura about me and I really felt I could do what ever I wanted and not think of the consequences. Now, I don't think there is anything wrong with a one night stand but I am far more sensible and I prefer to sleep with people once I know them a little more, I also think this is paramount in sugar dating~! But, back then, I had not a care in the world and I saw no harm in 'spreading myself around'. I was known in my family as the 'wild child' and I suppose I somewhat still am!

The next morning we enjoyed breakfast together, Nutella on toast, not particularly glamorous, with breakfast tea. Big made it clear he has enjoyed the night before, and started to explain what he wanted. He was looking for a girl, like me, who he could spend time with, but who would not care about his wild ways. His past had been full of girlfriends putting pressure on him to marry, lecturing him over his party antics and drug use, besides the fact that his religious family had certain views on the kind of woman he should ultimately marry.

It was an idea I grasped instantly, a part time lover with all the benefits of being his girlfriend, with out all the hassle. I had my own thing going on, at the time a struggling modeling career that would never really take off, but my time was my own and I liked it that way. Big told me he would take care of me, and I wouldn't have to worry financially. I liked the sound of this, and my 'prostitution' worries were taken away, never to return - I understood a SD/SB relationship naturally.

As I left, I worried out loud the price of my taxi, Big assured me id be fine, and he had put some taxi money in my bag. Later when I checked, there was more than a few £50 notes, enough for a taxi around the UK a few times over. I remember the taxi driver asking for something like £23.20 when I got to my destination, and realising all I had was these 50's. He has no changed, so I smiled as I gave him a £50 and told him to 'keep the change'. He looked at me like I was crazy, and I found the whole thing hilarious. It didn't feel like my money, because really it wasn't.

So that was it, after just one night a friendship had been made, and I had 'agreed' to put up with long periods of not seeing him, erratic communication and occasional infidelity. This came at a price, of £4-5 k per month. This was no different to a 'pre nup', its just money to ensure I was happy, and he gets an easier life - no strings!

From then on I would spend 2-3 times per week with Big, and we loved each others company. It wasn't like having a SD because we were such good friends and we were hardly ever alone. I got to meet all of his friends and id invite mine to his party's. We were crazy, and nights turned into days. We would shop, travel, and sleep, and everything was at 100miles an hour.

Later, Big moved on as he met an actress who is now in a crime investigation drama on TV. She was the same ethnicity and his family wanted them to marry and be serious together. I decided that if I didn't stop partying I might be ill, and I had gotten sidetracked from my own goals in the whole whirlwind.

Myself and big parted on very good terms. I had his number, but I since lost the phone it was saved in. Over the years we lost touch, and when ever I stay in one of his hotels it makes me smile. I suppose, if I really wanted to, I could find him.

I wonder if he did marry, and if he is happy. I wonder if he still lives in London, and I wonder... will I ever bump into my sugar daddy again...

Baby Bow x

How Baby Bow was Born ♥...Sugar days gone by...♥

2009-12-31T03:10:00.000-08:00

Ive mentioned in previous posts that I have an 'ex' Sugar Daddy. Someone who introduced me to this whole scene, and made me realise I can get what I want, just like back then - again...

Though Ive mentioned him, I have never gone into detail. I'm not sure if this post will help other aspiring Sugar Baby's or Daddy's, its really just really a post that a few of you might be interested in, as it shows how naturally things can happen sometimes, without the help of websites such as SeekingArrangement and SugarDaddie.com.

So Il call him Big. Now, Big was in his 40-50's, a Middle Eastern mixed British man, quite tall and heavy set, but not fat. His looks reminded me a lot of 'BIG' in Sex and the city, hence the name.

Now Big had been the aire to a hotel chain, I like to call him the Paris Hilton of his company. His parents had owned it, passed it on, and he now ran it as well as owning other unrelated side line. A fully fledged billionaire, who whilst being appreciative of the life he was born into, worked hard to make his own stamp on the business world.

This hotel chain is as well known, if not more so, than Hilton. Its one of the main hotel chains in the world, luxurious and plush. Everyone will have heard of it, if not stayed at one at some stage.

I met Big in a co-incidental way. His family are actually family friends of my own, although I had never mixed with Big before, I knew of his relations. One evening I had been modeling on a really trashy lingerie show in a London club, they had us parading around in our smalls, all in the name of 'fashion' but we all knew it was really so the D list celebrity's could 'admire' (Read: Perv) on us!

After the show, a model who had been working with me and my friend T and I decided to head to a club. We danced the night away next to the VIP tables, when Big caught our eye. He invited myself and T to sit with him, and the drinks started flowing. My other friend from the fashion show stayed for a little while, but got bored quite quickly and left.

I immediately noticed how powerful big was, in every way. He made you feel like you were the only girl in the room when he locked his eyes onto yours, he could manipulate you with his words, making you want to spend more time around him. He was dangerous and naughty, the kind of man your mother would certainly not want you to go home with.

As we sat around the table, Big pulled out a tiny paper wrap, the size of a postage stamp. He unfolded the intricately cut paper, to reveal a white Powder which he shook out onto the back of his hand. In full view of the club and the surrounding party people he took a straw from the tall vase on the table, and snorted it up in one sweeping motion. I asked if he minded people seeing, he told me he owned 50% of the club and they knew better.

This was to be the first of many times Big used cocaine around me, but I remember this first time, its crystal clear, as I had never even seen the stuff before, let alone tried it as a recreation. I think I was 18.

After the club, we headed back to Big's house. It was a huge bachelor pad in London's Mayfair, I mean this place was out of this world. It had a helicopter pad, pool, round revolving beds, a cinema, 3 floors, just craziness. I remember running around giggling as I explored every room.

Now this particular night, Big had been sat next to my friend in the club. We hadn't had much of a chance to speak and it seemed my friend was into him so I sat and watched movies with his friend, while silver trays of cocaine and silver shot glasses were passed around, just like party food. A few hours later, my friend ran into the cinema room and shouted that we needed to get out of there!!! I grabbed my stuff, and much to the Big's bemusement we jumped into the lift to the ground floor. Big followed us, looking calm and relaxed, and asked us where we wanted to go. There were no taxis around, so in the end he persuaded us to get in his car, and he drove us home himself.

When we got home, I asked my friend what the problem was, really worried at this point that Big had tried to rape her. She laughed it off, saying of course not, but he had asked her to see him a few times per month for £5000. He said if she spent the night with him then she could take this, and he had handed her a huge wad of £50 notes, bigger than her clutch bag. It was too awkward, T is quite conservative and it shocked her... so she wanted to leave. She said she was outraged, and we believed he had asked her to be a prostitute, which we both found hilarious.

In the back of my mind I kept thinking, I wonder why she didn't do it. He was a good looking man, with a magnetism you couldn't deny, and to be honest with all the drink and the atmosphere I could have seen it happening with or without the 'gifts'.... I kept thinking what would she spend 5k on?! How would she tell her parents she had it? Would she regret it? Would that be being a prostitute??

I put Big to the back of my mind, but remained curious about the idea. Until fate bought us together again.....

To be continued

(Because I want to include all the stories and details but I cant write i all in one post!)

Baby Bow xx

Ive been in Miami B*tch!

2009-12-30T09:23:00.000-08:00

I just arrived back from Miami where I spent some of the weekend, it was a little cooler than I expected so I spend most of my time there shopping!

I decided to take myself on a 'sugar spree' with my own spondolies, id rather it be someone Else's, but hey sometimes a girl needs to shop! I updated my make up bag in Sephora, I bought some Nars Sheer Glow and I have to say it is the best foundation I have ever used, along with a few new brushes and a Laura Mercier eye pallate.

Almost $200 later and I decided I had dropped enough on just make up. I love Sephora, I like the way you can browse and try everything and anything on that you like without hassle. In the UK, we dont really speak to each other in stores much and this is one of the main differences I notice spending time in the US and the UK.

In the UK you can basically do your whole shopping, without speaking to a single person. You can walk in, fill your basket, browse, serve yourself at a self serve checkout, leave and have not even said hello. In the US you get greeted at the door, asked if your 'ok' one million times, followed around, asked if your ready to checkout, and it goes on and on! I don't know which I prefer, I think it depends on your mood!

My sugar world is picking back up after Christmas, I am so excited to move into my own sugar pad!

Things are really great and I have lots planned, which il do posts on soon. I'm also thinking of doing a post describing my ex SD and the life style I led with him, as I realise I have only ever referred to it, but not gone into detail, and that's where I learnt a lot.

Happy New Year!

BB xx

I dont exercise... If God had wanted me to bend over, he would have put Diamonds on the floor ♦

2009-12-26T10:06:00.000-08:00

I hope everyone had a fabulous Christmas.

Mine was so enjoyable, being at home with my friends and my family, watching everybody open their gifts and opening gifts of my own.

Now, its all over. I look forward to the new year, and all the plans I have to make :-)

January is going to be a busy time for me, I have many new years resolutions and so much that I want to do. Il be fairly busy with work, but want to fit a move into this, plus the goose has gotten fat and I need to exercise. Eugh.

I'm going to take Hoodia which is a natural appetite suppressant, I like it and I think once its into you system its very effective. I like to eat healthily, so il be enjoying plenty of fruit, veg, seeds and cutting out most carbs and fats. I also like making yummy protein shakes or veg juices and drinking a few of these per day.

Il be training on a power plate - a device that vibrates and shakes the fat, making it easier to break down. It also equals the equivalent of hours of exercise in a short 15 minute session. Il also try to run every few days, which is hard for me because I hate it! But its effective, so Il try.

I'm hoping when I move to central London il enjoy exercise more. I have heard lots of celebrity's and rich men run around Green Park, and as il be not too far away I may incorporate a bit of running with my sugar hunts!

If you have a little time off over the festive season and feel like you haven't watched quite enough movies, check out this film. The Girl Friend Experience. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4A2xCwQsMo Its essentially the story of an escort, and follows her life during the economic downturn.

A sugar baby is, of course, not an escort - but I found it interesting none the less. The lead actress is actually a porn star, and her acting leaves a lot to be desired (although some say its not the acting, but her portrayal of a rather flat character)

You can find it online if you fancy watching the whole thing.

So, im off to eat some cheese and busicuts. Bad Baby Bow, but the new year isnt in yet! Im pretty excited about 2010... I think it has a rather nice ring to it, dont you think?

A De Beers ring, lets hope.

New Year Love,

Baby Bow xxx

Finding the Diamonds, in the Dirt ♦

2009-12-22T12:17:00.001-08:00

Recently I received a few e-mails, all asking a particular question. Where do I find these Sugar Daddies? A higher calibre potential? A diamond daddy?

It made me think through the ways I search, and the types I respond to and have dates with. I thought it might make an interesting post, and certainly might give a few hints to others.

Firstly, I have a few golden rules. These rules need to be stretched, moulded and shaped - to fit your ideal situation.

For example, my situation is this. I want a long term daddy, I want him to be willing and able to provide me with an allowance. This allowance should be monthly, and high. He should have experience in life, and be able to mentor me. I want to learn from him. He should be supportive. That's just the points that I am personally looking for. So, going from that, this is what I look for.

Daddy should have a high net worth

Daddy should be willing, and able to have this relationship, and understand what it entails

Daddy should know what he wants

Daddy should have his own business, be a CEO, or be retired!

Now, this might seem a little strange, but I have reasons behind them.

High net worth: Obvious reasons, the higher the worth, the richer the man, the more suitable a contender to be a sugar daddy. That said, if he is worth 100Mil but has homes here there and everywhere, an ex wife, 10 children at private school, a jet to fuel... where is my Birkin going to come from? I don't want him to have to re mortgage a house to keep my feet wrapped in Choo and my neck wrapped in Diamonds. The income needs to be disposable, or, at least, he will want to share his 'lifestyle' with you.

Willing and Able: Sometimes we come across potential sugar daddies, who haven't played the game before, or don't know what it entails. They seem shocked at the basics, and these people I write off asap, if not sooner.! There are far too many sugar big fishes in the sea, to play e-mail ping pong with someone who wont cut to the chase, or who you feel uncomfortable bringing the important stuff up with. We may come across men who are willing, but don't have the means to go ahead - be in financially, mentally, physically, tied up time, etc. We may come across men who are able in these ways - but are not willing. Discard these daddy's, but don't cut ties in a hasty manor.

Know what you want: Just as you should be clear on what you want - you want daddy to be the same. I think its best to dive straight in, negotiate if needed, and respectfully make your intentions clear. Its not unusual for 'the talk' to not come up, date after date, and before you know it things have gotten confused and you don't know how to say it. I believe this is the mans role, and they should lay an offer on the table. If they are not, give them a nudge. If they don't respond, send them a text/e-mail being honest and truthful about how you feel (if its awkward to ask, say so) and ask them how they would like to go forward. Never worry about 'loosing' a potential for being honest. You are both there for a reason. If he is a business man, he will understand negoation and appreciate you being 'up front'. Your on his grounds now, and he should take the lead.

Business/CEO/Retired: Id like to find a man to learn from. I am intelligent, I don't just want to gain for the here and now. I want to gain future skills, set up my own business, more than one, I want a baby bow empire. He will teach me everything he knows, maybe even help to set this up. To do this, he needs the experience from his own business, to running a business, or if he is retired, he can be interested in helping me to set up my own. Mentoring and sponsoring.

So this is my formula. All of these = a good potential in my eyes, and get a date ;-)

These are my own guidelines, but every one has their own. If your looking for different things, my rules wont apply, but its good to make your own.

But remember, rules are there to be broken ;-) And I break the rules...

Merry Christmas!

Baby Bow xx

☆Sugar Sweet Christmas To You All☆

2009-12-15T06:23:00.000-08:00

I had a play around with the layout of my blog and was so happy to find a really cute layout... I only just worked out how to do it! But anyway, I have had to remove it because as pretty as it looked my comments were not working, and I love reading comments, there my favorite!

So what are all of you hoping to receive this Christmas? What are you getting for your Sugar Daddy's? Any new years resolutions?

Here is Baby Bows Sugar Wish List:

Yves Saint Laurent * Tribtoo Patent Leather Pumps * Grey
Judith Leiber *Cupcake Crystal-Embellished Clutch (Pictured, Uber expensive, dont know if id really want one! Id feel excessive!)
Christain Louboutin Barbie Doll
Smythson Diary
A week on the Pink Sand resort in the Bahamas

This list is purely a 'wish' list, I wont be getting any of these things, hopefully one day I will, but for now its nice to dream :-) Id love to see any one else's wish lists - purely self indulgent sugar wish lists - we all want world peace but this is just for the things money can buy! A little escapism if you will :-)

In other news, I am planning a move. I have found two lovely places in Westminster and South Kensington, in my own price range so that's all the better. I think Il move in Jan, and then il really be able to enjoy myself! Mr Perfect has been giving me lots of advice, and it will be nice to so central.

I have many personal goals for the new year, and many sugar goals. I feel like the sugar world over the last year has been like a little game to me. I am always picky with who actually gets a date, which may be a bad thing as it can limit who I meet, but in other ways it usually results in all of my sugar dates being successfully - and most offering me an arrangement of some sort.

I then have tended to turn the arrangement down, for what ever reason. I set my sights quite high allowance wise, because I know it is possible - I have had this in the past -and I like my 'dating' sugar daddy's. I have not been desperate to start an arrangement, as I personally don't *need* to start one immediately, I just want to live somewhere grand and own more shoes. But I have enjoyed the year by meeting new people and I have gained a lot more than £ and gifts. I have gained knowledge, and friends.

Now, with this important knowledge I feel I can secure my sugar daddy in 2010. I don't think Ive been ready to do this in 09, I've been gathering and harvesting the sugar ready for the new year. I am armed with more sugar than I thought was possible, options all lined up and ready for the new seasons. Waiting for stage two. I have got rid of the pointless potentials, erased them from my blackberry, and kept the 'diamond daddy's' on the back burner.

2010 is going to be my year, and I am going to pounce ladies and gents!

Christmas Wishes And Seasons Greatings,

Love... Baby Bow x

Who hid the Louboutins? More Mr Perfect dates

2009-12-14T07:38:00.001-08:00

Met Mr Perfect for lunch yesterday, he had text me asking if I would like to join him so we arranged to meet in a pretty famous London eatery. He got held up, but I didn't mind and sat at our table ordering wine and olive bread and watching all the 'Sloan rangers' from Sloan square, the ladies who lunch, and a fair few sugar daddy's and their girls :-)

Mr Perfect arrived, looking much better than I have ever seen him look before. He usually dresses quite casual when I see him but this day he had on a gorgeous suit and the most beautiful watch, and his hair looked cute.

We laughed all through lunch, and spent as long as we could there until we got kicked out. He hailed me a taxi, and off I went to a party with some friends. Ive spoke to him since, I like to see where things are going with him but I don't want to push anything, he is looking for something real, and real things take time. He treats me exactly how I like to be treated and I can talk to him for hours, he is not pushy and has not even tried to kiss me, only ever on the cheek, and all sexual talk has so far been on lock down :-)

At the party someone stole my Loubutins***FML*** You may be wondering why I was wandering round a party barefoot, but it was at a house and i thought a bit of barefoot carpet dancing was called for... so off they came, and a few minutes later were no where to be seen. I found one, in a bush, hmmmmm. Jealous girls much???

So I'm mourning my louboutin boots, but apart from that I'm a happy baby. This weekend, if all goes well I am going on a fabulous sugar date with a new potential - il introduce him after, and give you the juicy date details! We have been arranging something for a while, really get along via e-mail as we have a lot in common, his allowance is a little lower than I expect but he knows this, and I'm happy to negotiate, as he wont be my one and only.

BB xxxxxxx

♥O to the M to the G ♥

2009-12-06T10:45:00.000-08:00

Mr Perfect and I have been speaking on the phone, and he asked if I would like to meet him in London. It was unfortunate that I was busy this week, and on the few free days that I had were prior arranged - a spa day with a friend. After our chat, I mentioned the spa I was going to, and as its quite well known Mr P had heard of it (even though it is miles out of London, in the countryside)

I spent some time in the spa, had a mani and a sugar salt scrub, massage and used the steam room. I decided I was a little restless after doing not a lot all day so I got dressed out of my flurry white robe and walked to a near by park with my friend, taking her dog for a walk.
All at once I got a few messages through, they were from Mr Perfect asking if I minded calling him back. I stepped out of the park and called him, and he asked what I was doing. I said I felt hungry and my girlfriend was going home now as she had to work, so I planned on going back home.

Mr perfect then asked if id join him for dinner, that evening in London. I explained that it was far and he said don't worry il fly you down just for dinner, then you can go back to the country to stay with your friend, or go back home, either way il get you there. This offer was too good to refuse, I knew he was planning on going to the Ivy and I love their bang bang chicken in peanut sauce and the dressed crab... yum..... Bow hearts the Ivy.

So off I went to this little local airport, I'm thinking - I'm sure they don't actually have airlines fly out of here?! But I went along anyway, because I know I travel a lot but I don't know too much about small airports. So I get there, in my Pink Victoria Secret sweats, juicy couture welly boots, and a big hoodie (I had been in the park so glamour was not on the cards - and yes, I like to dress like a 5 year old when I'm cosy!) and low and behold it is not an airport, just a private air field of some sort.

Then my blackberry rings and its Mr Perfect, I speak and as I speak I hear him behind me. I turn around, and OMG he is there in his own plane picking me up! We hopped in, and off we flew down to London. Not only was this Mr Perfects own plane, but he was flying it himself, so fun. We landed, and he arranged for a driver to pick us up, and take us to the Ivy. Luckily I had a little black dress in my bag that id taken from my girlfriends house before I left in preparation, Bow is always thinking! I had a few pins in my bag and I scrapped my hair up into a messy chiagon, I smelt of sugar from the sugar rub and scrub, and Mr perfect didn't seem to care!

Baby Bow xxx

Colouring outside of the lines....

2009-12-01T08:37:00.000-08:00

So today I decided to change my blogs name from 'Sugar Memoirs' to 'Memoirs Of A Sugarbaby' this is just because I wanted to originally call it that, but I have only just got around to changing the name.... Plus I wanted to add a cute heart.

So this week has been rather strange, in my personal life I have had a fabulous week. In my sugar life, I have had an unexpected week... As I received a text from Mr Date and ended up meeting him for Lunch. I'm not going to go into too much detail purely because I don't know what is going on right now, but there you go. I dont trust him as far as I could throw him, but I like him. Strange indeed. Promising.maybe? Watch this space...

In other news, I am loving Mr Perfect and I think he is someone I am going to spend a lot of time with. I can see this being a long drawn out process, with regards to allowance and liaisons, this is mainly due to the fact that Mr Perfect spends a lot of time traveling, as do I, and time to meet up on home ground may be limited. The other 'issue' with Mr Perfect is he is looking for a girlfriend, rather than an arrangement.

I, personally, do not find this a problem. Some sugar baby's may run a mile, but these are my reasons not to.

Firstly, I don't have a boyfriend/partner/current SD. So its not like my 'girlfriend' role is all taken, and I am a very, very good girlfriend (if I do say so myself :-)

I find the two things...being a GF or a SB...similar, with only a few blurred differences. Before you run a mile at the word Girlfriend, take this into consideration.

As a Sugar baby we arrange the whole thing, sometimes from the exact start and sometimes even to the exact date of finish. We see our time as limited, and we only go as far as the rules or 'terms' allow us. We ask: Where do we meet? How long for? How many times per month? How is allowance paid? How often? Weekly? Monthly? Will I travel? Will I come to you? Will you come to me? Will we stay over night? Sex? How often? Gifts? When?

As a Girlfriend, these same issued are covered, but with less of boundary's, we gain our SD's full trust, his admiration and affection, we know exactly where one another stands and we genuinely respect each other. Once we have this, we can build on a truly rewarding relationship, where we gain far more and feel more secure, more content. We can ask, and have the right to what ever we like, what we want will be ours, as our SD knows a happy SB is a rewarding SB :-) As a girlfriend sugar baby, we can colour outside of the lines.

Mr Perfect is currently in Asia, at a four seasons resort, and keeps sending me cute picture messages of his time there and frequent updates. I really appreciate this and I cant wait to see him again. Although I like him very much, and I think he is a diamond of a daddy, I am continuing to see other potentials. I really want to have a base of 2-3 daddy's, ones to fall back on when the others haven't come through, all the while il be nurturing my relationship with Mr Perfect, and eventually id be happy to just have him :-)

Lots Of Love,

Baby Bow xx

♥ I left my heart in ♥ Tokyo ♥

2009-11-24T10:46:00.000-08:00

I'm back, and jet lagged! Eugh I feel horrendous and I have the busiest week with really important work stuff going on, ahhh too much in too little time!!!

I had so much fun while I was away, I went out for the most delicious dinner in a restaurant recommended by Mr Perfect. He really is so thoughtful, after I told him I was going to Tokyo for a few days he told me that he used to spend a lot of time there and that he would recommend some places. The day before I left he sent me a huge e-mail with enough drinks/cocktail/wine/dinner/lunch/afternoon tea suggestions, enough for a month there :-)

The place we chose was amazing, and myself and my friends had a great time.

I also may have picked up a little sugar while I was there. I was by the pool in the shade under cabana, reading a book and drinking diet coke and eating calamari salads...ummm yum...with friends. Opposite me were two business men, who were later joined by a third. All were very smartly dressed, nice suits, and had a bottle of wine. They were obviously admiring the view of myself and my friends, although I was really not prepared for the hour of flirty looks and winks, tongue pokes, and smiles coming my way from business man number 1. I had on a multi coloured maxi dress over bikini bottoms, my hair scraped up and no make up on, not my best moment I'm sure.

So I notice the waiter circling our table, over and over. I used this opportunity to ask for the bill, saying 'I only have an hour until I leave so id like to pay'. The waiter was carrying on with his walking around us looking busy, and I was starting to wonder why, I just wanted to pay my bill!

Later, the waiter walks over to business man number 1, talks in hushed voices, and comes straight to me with my bill. I open it to find a note, and a paid bill. The quickly scrawled note said ' Only an hour left? But We haven't even met...' so I stood up and walked over the table. He met me half way, we spoke and I asked how he knew I had only an hour until I flew home... his answer, he had tipped the waiter to listen in on anything I said so that he could find out about me.... strange but I liked the honesty and the balls, so we branched off from our respective tables, sitting in the hotel lobby and talking for half an hour or so.

He kept asking if he could send me a bottle of wine to my room for me to get ready with, but I explained I was working that evening and so wouldn't be drinking beforehand. I thought this was sweet.

Business man one told me he is separated, 2 kids, a stock broker, South African and his offices are v v close to where I stay in South Africa. He is white, dark hair, well built, tall, and has a scar which I love, I like a rough around the edges James Bond look, I love character. He was charming and we got along well, So I gave him my number and he is taking me out on my next trip over :-)

In other news, Mr Perfect has gone on vacay for a week, which is great because I need to concentrate as I have a big week this week. We will meet when he arrives home. Mr Shot Myself In The Foot is ill, which also bodes well for me as I don't want him to think I'm putting him off, I'm just too busy this week.

There are other pots on the back-burner, so many to choose from I love the sugar seas right now!

Loving reading everyones posts, a lot of blogs retuning after a break which I love!

Kisses, Baby Bow xx

These are a few of bows favorite things....

2009-11-20T09:34:00.000-08:00

Since joining Facebook I have had a few messages and e-mails asking me about certain outfits and beauty products Ive mentioned in past blogs. I am going to be quite a busy little baby over the next week so I have decided to make a post, just about fashion and beauty.

If you enjoy this post and would like to share your tips leave a comment, or better a post if your a blogger too, shared advice is sweeter advice!

Before I ever had any kind of sugar daddy, before this sugar world was but a twinkle in my eye, I used to wish I could have designer purses, bags and shoes. I think that if your shoes and purse look expensive, it pulls together the rest of your outfit, so it doesn't matter if that is from topshop. Although your potential Sugar Daddy will understand you don't quite have the funds for your lifestyle yet, that's what your there for after all, they will appreciate seeing a glimpse of how well you dress and how stylish you are - immediately in their mind they will imagine traveling first class with you, bringing you to a business event or a work function.

If you haven't met your sugar daddy yet, there are a few great websites that you can buy replica bags on and now even shoes such as Christian Louboutins and YSL and Jimmy Choo. Now, i have to be honest I don't like fakes, they don't wear as well and will not last - but I admit they are great for a few dates, just don't expect them to last forever! I am lucky enough to have a few pieces bought either by myself or from my past SD, so I usually always wear a pair of Christian Louboutins on a date - they are timeless and sexy, and i find my dates always comment on them which is lovely. I think it is much better to buy something like this than spend a huge amount of money that you don't have, after all, if the desired effect works you will be on 5th ave before you know it!

Its never a good idea to buy a bag/shoe that is plastered in the label, inside and out. I went through a phase of wearing juicy couture head to toe with my last sugar daddy, he thought it was cute, which was lucky, because when i look back now I looked like a brightly coloured baby. I also used to own a Louis Vuitton print jacket and matching knee high boots, all in denim monogram. Double denim is never a good look - even if it is Louis Vuitton. Eeeeuhk!

So with that in mind, try to pick something classic that will go with all of your outfits, and be noticed for the right reasons, not the wrong.

Here are some good websites for harder to find designer shoes:

http://www.jimmychoos.net/ - great for Alexander Mcqueen, YSL and Jimmy Choos. Also sell Birkins.

http://www.manolo-blahnik.com/ - Manolos, Balmain, Giuseppe Zanotti boots.

They all sell pretty much sell the same stuff, just don't be disappointed as the quality is not the same as the ones you look at in the stores, and on close inspection you can tell. Good for a few wears without spending too much or for a pair that might go out of fashion quickly. There is also a good website Jess Bunny mentioned in one of her blogs so check that out too for bags.

The only thing I wouldn't suggest you copy is a designer watch, there are so many giveaways on a fake and its better to have a nice understated watch than a flashy fake designer one that looks tacky. My watch is fairly loud and flashy and for that reason I hardly wear it, sometimes I will but it makes quite a statement so I would love a simply stylish and 'timeless' Cartier or a Patek Phillippe :-)

If you have the Daddy and you are lucky enough to already have you allowance and gifts, a great place to shop is:

http://www.net-a-porter.com/ - You name it they sell it, I almost wet myself I get so excited looking on here. Your new shoes/dress/ comes packaged in a black box with a ribbon and and if you live in the city you can get the same day delivery in just a few hours!

When spending a lot of your allowance still be careful on your choices, I bought a pair of Louboutins and because they are cream and suede all i do is look at them, i wore them out to dinner once and as it was raining wouldn't leave the restaurant until it stopped, just because of the shoes. Don't spend £600 for something you are too scared to wear!! A good tip is if you do invest in Louboutins, take them to Harrods or your nearest Louboutin and get the red sole grips added because the soles are smooth and it will stop the red sole from scratching.

Make up: I love Bobbi Brown and Mac, pop into a department store before a date and ask to have your make up retouched or a make up lesson. I do this all the time because they try things you may not think of and it stops you getting into a 'make up rut' which is easy to do.

Eyelashes: Love flash eyelashes and now you can have them as natural or as false as you like. For a night out with the girls I use Mac or Shu Uemura who is the expert on eyelashes! Go to the Shu Eyelash bar in London or New York and get them applied, they make your eyes pop and are so glamorous and you can try layering more than one pair at once. For a natural look, I always apply Eylure eyelash extensions myself, they are so easy, look pretty and are cheap. You can get a cat eye effect and just add a few long ones on the edges of your eyes!

Body: I swear by Roc Rentinol Anti Cellulite cream, it makes your skin clear with no dimples and leaves them feeling silky. After you use it for two weeks you drop inches and can maintain it.

I once spoke to a make up artist who worked on sex and the city, she said to mix an anti cellulite cream with a bronzing liquid to get amazing legs.

If you cant be bothered to mix it yourself try Nars body glow from Sephora - Victoria Beckham apparently uses this and i always think her body looks glowing and tanned.

Teeth: If you live in the States you will have this in your local shops, in fact you probably have amazing teeth already! You can order some online too. Its called crest whitening toothpaste with baking soda and peroxide and it starts working right away to get stains off teeth and leave them sparkling. I bring it back for friends and family by the suitcase full! Its only a few dollars too. If used with a good electric toothbrush with a whitening head, the results are even better...
Also try Arm and Hammer whitening booster which is just peroxide you brush on, i use both and think my teeth are so many shades lighter than they were. If you have your teeth whitened professionally its a great way to keep the colour up.

Hair: I like TIGI products and Aussie, but I think my hair looks best when I use a purple shampoo. Purple shampoo is for white or grey hair, and it takes out golden or brassy/yellow tones. But used on blonde hair it gives a platinum shine and keeps your highlights looking fresh. Just try not to use too much as I did once and my hair took on a blue tint! If you have dark or red hair John Frida do a really nice colour booster that works the same. I also love bumble and bumble styling products, their thickening spray is tres chic!

Fragrance: Jo Malone is my favorite, there are so many to choose from in the most beautiful packaging. I personally like Orange Blossom and I would love to own the matching Orange candles. For the day time, I like to buy from either Victoria's Secret or Bath and Body Works as they both do a great range of body sprays that are lush. My current favorite is the new festive range in Gilded Ginger Creme, it smells of Christmas and ginger bread cookies and they do a matching shimmer cream! Yum!

That is about it, thankfully as I've written so much! Tomorrow I'm off to Tokyo and when I get home I have a lot to do so I may have a little gap in my blogs. I'm hoping when I blog again il be seeing Mr Perfect and other suitors and will have plenty good stuff to post :-)

Until Then.... Love Baby Bow x x

The Sugar Seas.....

2009-11-19T10:38:00.001-08:00

So the sugar day dates are over, phew! That was a long few days!

On the first evening I had the pleasure of meeting beautiful honey baby our fellow sugar baby blogger, If I could link to her blog I would, but I'm useless at these things - I didn't get blonde hair for nothing ;-) We drank champagne and got admired by a room full of sugar daddy's, but we were more interested in telling each other our sugar quests than hunt down fresh sugar.

There was a few problems with the underground in London, so I had to do a 'Mr Date' on a few of my potentials which sucked, I really don't like to let people down. Of course I apologised, and they asked to re-arrange.

So out of the guys I met, I am very interested in Mr Perfect and Mr Shot Myself In The Foot! Mr perfect and I had the loveliest date Ive ever had, a lunch date that lasted 4 hours. Yes, that's right, FOUR whole hours......

We met at a Harrods department store, he has a apartment around the corner and called this his 'corner shop'..... That's it, right there. That is what I want. I want to call Knightsbridge 'my road' , Harrods my 'corner shop', Nobu my 'cafe'!

When I arrived he was already there, as I had to walk so freaking far (due to the underground) in the most inappropriate shoe situation you have ever seen. I had on an all black outfit consisting of black leggings, a black long frilled shirt, a little caramel fur jacket and my caramel long over the knee boots - perfect!

But, as you can imagine, not so perfect for walking over cobbles trying to find your way to Harrods. I giggled, when I passed a 6 star hotel and the door man called me over. I walked over, teetering on the cobbled street, and he asked me for my autograph, pen and notepad in hand. Hilarious. WTF is that all about!! I cocked my head like some kind of confused poodle, looking like an airhead unintentionally while ignoring the question, asking him the way to Harrods. He asked me if id like a lift in the Rolls Royce, to which I declined and followed his directions. Crazy start to the morning already :-)

After hopping into the express lift and whizzing myself up to the top floor restaurant I saw a figure stand up as I approached the table, it was Mr perfect. We sat down and I said "I don't usually look so red and sweaty" as id walked so far, he laughed and ordered me some sparkling water. We drank wine, ate the most lovely 3 course lunch, talked and talked and talked some more. I found out so much about him, and I am so glad I spotted him from his incognito profile. He is like a diamond in the sh*t, covered by a crappy one liner profile :-)

It started to get dark, and I realised we had been sat there for hours. People had come, ate and gone, come ate and gone, including some of the royal family, who were apparently sat on the next table but I didn't even notice... He thanked me, payed on a black American Express, and asked me to see him again some time. A few hours later, I text him and we have spoken and will meet again for lunch next week. Yay :-)

Mr Shot Myself On The Foot is at the front of my mind too, and we are also meeting next week. I am still interested in Mr K, as unfortunately I didn't get to meet him. He seems promising and down to earth, so I will re arrange.

I have to say, i am loving the sugar dating at the moment. It seems like there are so many more quality, diamond sugar daddy men around, maybe its the calm of the storm after the economic downturn? Maybe its the ripple, of the great sea of sugar that is coming our way. All I know is I'm going to be at the top, riding that wave on a pink diamond encrusted surf board!

Till later Sugars, Love Baby Bow xx

The Sugar days are coming... plus more contenders!!

2009-11-15T15:59:00.000-08:00

After my blanket coverage of e-mails described in my last post, my little inbox is still reaping the rewards with reply, after reply after reply. All makes for a very excited Sugar Baby. Although I am slightly concerned that I may have squeezed too many contenders into just two days....

Ive had to buy myself a cute pink Moleskine notebook to keep up - So organised, So unlike me!

So to add to the list of Potentials I am meeting over the coming sugar week, commencing tomorrow are, in no particular order...

Mr P.S - Mr PS, fairly blah/vanilla/ordinary, so much so that I just used initials as a name, but hopeful on the allowance front. Agreed to a 4-5K allowance, that's about a 7-8k allowance for you American baby's with the green bills :-) He wants to see me once or twice in London, and then take me on a business trip once or twice a month too for a night at a time. If first class travel is provided - I'm there. The only bad side to Mr P.S is the fact I'm not keen on his picture.... thats put me off.
Late 40's, don't get me wrong he isn't butt ugly, but he is not what I would usually go for. He looks like my doctor, and that's a bit weird. But, for allowance prospects alone he is worth a slot in sugar day one.

Meeting planned for Mr P.S - Sugar day one - Afternoon Coffee

Mr Gum Tree - Mr Gum Tree, named so as found on Gum Tree. Gum Tree is a website, a lot like Craig's List, where you can post pretty much anything. While looking around, I decided to check out the 'guys seeking girls' section - hit up a quick search for 'Sugar, Daddy, Beneficial, Arrangement' and out came Mr Gum Tree. A bit of correspondence later, a meeting planned. Is happy with monthly allowance, but didn't talk figures.... not a lot more info to give - watch this space.

Mr Gum Tree - Sugar day not yet confirmed.

Mr K: Mr K, after a few messages sent back and forth on Seeking Arrangement.com, we have decided to have dinner. I like his photo, and he seems quite kind and genuine. No talk of allowance yet, I will bring that up at dinner.

So tomorrow is the start of the sugar week. Sugar Day one: This is my itinerary!

1pm - Lunch in at a Steak House with Mr Suspenders.

Mr Suspenders has agreed to up allowance to 2,500 British Pounds per month. This secured the lunch date, and I like steak.

3pm - Drinks with Mr P.S

Evening - Drinks with fellow sugar baby blogger, Honey Baby... whilst keeping an eye out for those near by Sugar Daddy's :-)

Il then be taking off my sugar overdosed tiara, and having a sleep before I wake up, and Sugar Day two - the busiest of all commences!

Sugar Day two: Itinerary.

1pm - Lunch Date with Mr Perfect at a Knightsbridge Champagne and Oyster Bar

3.30PM - Drinks, hopefully not another lunch! With Mr Shot Myself In The Foot.

6.30pm - Dinner, with Mr K. Oyster bar.

8pm - full of too many oysters and probably more than a little bit tipsy, home!

So I shall of course update you on how these dates play out, there are some I am looking forward to more than others, but I'm a fair baby and if they have all got this far they deserve a chance. Ive never met more than one person in one day, so send me some sugar energy girlie's!

I don't think any of the dates will bring me any gifts. I never usually get gifts on the first date, like I know some sugar baby's do. I quite like this, as I know they don't expect anything from me, so neither do I from them. But of course a little gift is appreciative of your time.

I think, out of them all, Mr suspenders may bring me something (hopefully not a pair of suspenders)

From speaking to Mr Shot Myself In The Foot he is quite kinky. I say kinky but some of the things these sugar daddy's are into can be quite shocking, so its not actually that bad, fairly tame, but definitely a fetish. Because he has given me details of what he likes, I have thought of a little gift to bring him myself. It didn't cost me anything, but I know it will leave a lasting impression! :-)

So, if you see a little blonde baby running around London town over the next few days, stop and give me an expresso!

Wish me luck!

Love, From Baby Bow x x

A whole new week in Sugar Land, A whole new lot of Daddys!

2009-11-12T07:35:00.000-08:00

This week I went back on the sites, well just Seeking Arrangement.com so far and I have had a very good turn out so far!

I find the best way to this is absolute blanket coverage! I write out one e-mail, just a template that covers what I want, expect, and provide and then as I read each profile I pick out extras to add the personal touch and become exactly what they are looking for... I think this is a great tip.

So for example, if one potential sugar daddy's profile page reads ' I want to find a classy, genuine and intelligent sugar babe' and another reads ' I want to find a fun, adventurous, sexual sugar babe' my replies to each will just echo exactly what they have written. It might sound simple, and like they would notice... but these are men we are talking about, and they really, really, don't :-) So the first I would write ' You come across as so sophisticated, intelligent and genuine, which are all very important traits to me' and the second daddy's reply might be all about fun, spontaneity and sexual undertones!

So after my blanket coverage of about 100 messages, I got some very decent replies. Next week I am having a sugar week - so let the sugar overdose commence!

I wont introduce you to all of my potentials, as there are only a select few who got through to round two - a passionate/classy/fun/simple/genuine.... date with baby bow! Here are the contenders:

Contender one : Mr Shot myself in the foot.

Mr Shot myself in the foot is named so because he wanted to talk about allowances before our first meeting. I agreed and mentioned the amount I would be happy with - around 4k of shiny English pounds. He agreed, somewhat excitedly - which made me examine his profile again. Turns out his 'budget' was 10,000 - 20,000 k so I just shot my little Gina covered foot off.

Its not so bad, I redeemed myself by saying 'its not all about the £ to me, a connection and mutual respect and chemistry is paramount, and Id rather start like that and see how things progress......' which is actually true, 4k is more than I used to imagine and id be more than happy with that. My eyes are bigger than my bank account! :-)

Meeting with Mr shot myself in the foot planned for next week, sugar day one/two morning coffee.

Contender two : Mr perfect.

Mr perfect, named so because he really is sugar daddy gold if everything he says/I have read/ is true. Mr perfect had one of those typical, one liner, boring profiles that hardly explains anything at all, but his location, net worth etc looked promising - so into his sugar box went one of my blanket coverage messages.

What came next took me by surprise, an absolutely delightful message to which i replied and a few hours later we had a phone conversation. This man is amazing to talk to, we spoke for over an hour and he is so charming, funny and polite. By far the best sugar phone conversation I've so far had.

Mr perfect, in true perfect style owns many property's, London apartments, countryside manors, yachts moored, Asian and American homes, the list went on, and on..... and on. He drives and owns cars, boats and planes. He isn't married. He is good looking. He is funny, seems sane. He is younger than I expected, in his 40's.??? too perfect???? We will have to see.

Meeting planned, Sugar day two, Lunch.

Contender three: Mr Suspenders

Mr Suspenders, named so as he seems to be obsessed by suspenders. Or stockings for the American baby's across the pond.

I have actually had correspondence with him before, which I think he has forgotten funnily enough, and he offered me an arrangement in the past. An arrangement of only 1k. Or 2k for the American baby's again. :-)

I'm not sure this is enough, unless he was a part time daddy and id see him only once or twice a month, but at lunch I'm going to make it clear id like double. In fact, il go in higher, so we can negotiate 'down' to double. Aim high, shoot low, that's my motto.

The thing that puts me off Mr Suspenders is he is really into showing off a girl. He likes a girl in his eyes, to dress provocatively, in my eyes - like a slut.

Now this baby is very into her fashion, and I wouldn't be seen ever, ever, ever walking around in just my suspenders a lady has to have some mystique, some allure. Not walking around with tomorrows washing for half of the Ivy to see!

Meeting planned : Sugar day one : Lunch.

That's as far as I have got, but it seems like a feast. In fact, I'm pretty sure il need to go to double Pilate's following this. I'm even considering two lunches in a row on one day, Mr suspenders will be so lucky if i come in elasticated jeans.

On the back burner are Mr showbiz, who has got a profile on SA at the moment, so I want to get back in there, and a few NY daddy's that I might meet on my next trips, but I'm holding out for the UK daddy's, they have my priority.

My french manicured nails cannot possibly type any longer, so il update with preparations for the sugar week soon!

Adios! Baby Bow x x x

Bow the real life barbie... Mr Date D.O.A

2009-11-09T01:08:00.000-08:00

Fellow Sugars,

I have been dealt quite a blow this morning, by Mr date, naturally. But first, I will give you a little background information. Just so you can appreciate quite how shocking this is.

Since my last post, things went from bad, to perfect with Mr Date. We were in constant contact, initiated by him, from the first goodmorning to the last goodnight. We had spoken every day on the phone for the last week, planned a trip away together, laughed and enjoyed the thought of seeing each other again. Apologies had been made, and an ultimatum given.

I had explained to Mr Date that whilst I was waiting for him to get his act together, this had wasted about 2 months of my sugar search. I wanted to know when/where/how an allowance was to start - he called me once I had sent this message - I was shopping in New York at the time.

'Lets see each other Monday darling, and we can start from there, I promise'

I gave Mr Date a chance to back out if he had cold feet. I explained that i wouldn't be mad, but there must have been a reason for all these excuses and let downs. If he wasn't sure about what he wanted, he could just say. He replied ' I want you, and only you. 100%' something along those lines, he had his chance to exit the dignified way and he stuck.

So I spent the rest of my week excited at the thought, it was really happening! We were to see each other on Monday and the arrangement was to start

We planned on meeting for this lunch time - today..... as in a few hours time. I was to meet him on the corner of Sloan Square, and we would go to an exclusive restaurant I had told him I liked. After, we would enjoy each other and spend the afternoon at a hotel he was booked into and later I planned on meeting fellow sugar baby blogger Honey Baby (Honey Baby introduced myself and Mr date, so we planned to meet as he told me he would like to take us both out in the future to thank her for our meeting - in Paris he suggested!!)

I have to be honest, I had a feeling something wasn't quite right. Not only for the obvious fact he had let me down one too many times, but the way in which he acted and spoke. He would go from hot to cold, constantly, one moment nothing at all, and the next sending me message after message ' I miss you' - 'I could fall in love with you' 'I like you so so much' 'I want this to be a long and lasting relationship'...

A little while ago Mr Date had mentioned a skin care product that is only sold now in the USA, as it was discontinued in the UK. He asked me if I ever saw it on my trips to pick some up for him. Whilst in NYC I came across this product, by Keilhs, and decided to buy him some as a gift. I think sometimes its nice to show you can give a little gift too, and in most cases I still think that this is a great idea. Turn the tables a little bit. Show how you can care/listen/surprise too!

Yesterday, I spent the day with my father. Mr Date text me to ask me what I was doing, and I told him ' I'm spending the day with my father at his golf club' He told me id have a great time and continued to text me all day and all night, hot not cold, promising the next day would happen.

Then I woke up this morning. I cant say I was full of excitement, because lets be honest after the 7th let down even the most positive sugar baby in the world would have had apprehension's. My phone bleeped, and I saw the message on my screen. This was it.

(by the way i wouldn't usually post an exact message but seeing as Mr date has acted with no consideration for my feelings or shown any respect I cannot see one reason why I shouldn't)

'Baby Bow, after mentioning your day with your father yesterday who I suspect is younger than me I cant go ahead with this I'm sorry. You are a very beautiful young lady with a delightful personality but too young. I know you are going to hate me for this and suspect I have been messing you around. I haven't. Its taking considerable resolve to come to this decision. I must be mad but that's how it is. I will delete your details and not bother you again, please don't reply. Take care and I wish you every success for the future. Goodbye x x x x x '

OMG FML. - Oh yes Mr date, I wont reply to that. You have just wasted two months of my life I wont get back, but Il honor you with the silence of your phone not alerting you of any further correspondence from me. You may speak about you wife/children all you like, but I may never mention my own family... AS IF.

So I replied.

'For future reference, if your going to 'like' a young woman and ask her to send you pictures of herself, call her mobile while she is over seas numerous times, ask her to call you, arrange then re arrange then cancel dates at least once a week, expect her to be exclusive to you during this time, initiate sexual messages, take into consideration the work she has missed whilst trying to be available for you, the preparation of looking good for you each time, and the respect and patience she has shown you... the least, and I mean very least, you could do was to take her for planned lunch and chat about this face to face. A text does not suffice.

I know this at 22, I wonder how at 55 you missed it? I think i have been naive, and you are most likely not what you seemed.'

So there you have it, myself and Mr date. Over before it started. Dead on arrival.

I'm also going to take a picture of the gift I bought him, which he knows about, and e-mail it to him. I'm not sure why, I just think that would make me feel better! If he was a good man he would compensate me for all this time spent and gifts etc.... but I know that would not happen.

So ladies, who did Mr Date think I was? Did he think I was from the sugar baby garden, grown from a seed, ageless and frozen in time for him to pick and use at his will? Did he think a stork flew over London, dropped me off, and left me to fend for myself? Did he believe I was a real life barbie, born of no parents, just packaged up for him by mattel?

What ever Mr date thought, he thought wrong. Men like him are ten a penny, and I can have another him in a minute :-) Except I don't want another him, I want a real man.

So there you have it, goodbye Mr Date. It was a bother having you. But I learnt some lessons and I have picked myself back up, re adjusted my tutu, shook up my hair, and dusted off the louboutins.

Watch out boys!!!!!!!!!!

Love always, Baby Bow x x x

Baby isnt sure....

2009-11-03T10:02:00.000-08:00

Hello Gorgeous Girls and Boys,

Since my last post I am really not sure what has gone on, it has been like a rollercoaster and I'm trying to catch up.... some good, some bad. And I don't know how to take it.

Mr Date and I had lots of communication after the first date, we would speak everyday, id get text message after text message, he would say the *sweetest* things ever that I love, we all love a bit of sweetness and to feel wanted. Well that's how he made me feel.

Now I'm left wondering if Mr Date just has the gift of the gab?

After the sweet week, came the no response week. Mr date took him self from king of my sugar kingdom, to urban legend as I wondered why he wasn't his 'usual' self. Id get texts, far between, and usually in response to mine not off his own back, that disappointed me.

Now, after about 2-3 planned dates, we still haven't met again. I suppose that's how he got his name, Mr Date, Mr Date is just too hard to date?

I of course have remained patient, I really do/did/i don't know see the potential not only in him, but in us. Us, as I genuinely liked him and would have made him very happy, i know that, I am a very good sugar princess and he would have been my sugar king.

Im not sure what to do next, I want to believe that we will meet soon. I am patent and I admire honesty. I wonder if Mr Date has a reason, maybe he would like more time or maybe he really is very very busy, If this was the case id like to know. Id be there in the back ground for him, until he was ready.

Im confused, because I have made an agreement with him. We made a deal. We have agreed on everything from the time we will spend with each other, to the finacial part, to the fact we like each other. I have trusted that it was genuine. I have trusted that he is genuine. We took our hands out and we shook on it. I took my profiles down and I beived in it.

And now im stuck in the middle and im not sure where I am going to go from here...

I might be feeling a little sorry for myself as I was due to meet him today. He said we were starting again, and putting all the ups and downs behind us (I cant quite believe there are any ups and downs, after the first date only!) but now only time will tell.
I just send him a message to explain how I feel. All through this I have never once gotten mad or said a bad word to him, Il always remain calm but deep down im ultra disappointed and let down. Lets see what he replies.... and wether Mr Date will become Mr Second Date........

Love, Baby B xxx

UPDATE : I just got the reply, saying he understands why I would feel confused. And that he wants me very much............. As nice as this is, it doesnt explain too much, albeit short, time I think will tell us...........

After the date...

2009-10-22T09:18:00.000-07:00

I'm kind of still on a very happy high from my date with Mr Date, we get on really well and speak all the time, he is always sending me really thoughtful texts and updates and I really like that.

I wouldn't like a SD where we would only be in touch when he wanted to see me, I know some people would prefer that, especially if they had a BF or wanted to keep their life completely separate. Where as I like to be in full contact with my SD, receiving calls and messages in between our times together. I feel happy when I wake up in the morning and there is a text there waiting for me :-)

My next date with Mr date is next week, I'm not too sure where or what we will be doing but its all very exciting. I'm meeting him when I get home from a little trip I'm taking this weekend, which is good because I am looking forward to seeing him, but unfortunate because after being in the air for 12 hours you feel like a hot air balloon. So il make a date with my friend Mr Peppermint tea, and that should help prepare a little! I also wonder if he will give me my allowance on this meeting..... we shall have to see.

On the one hand I hope so, not only because I have mentally spent it, hehe, but also because I can then truly relax and enjoy the relationship as that will show its all above board and serious. On the other hand I would understand if I didn't get it, or all of it, on our second date. Obviously you have to be careful, and he may worry id take it and then never see him again - which of course us respectable baby's would never do but i bet its happened to daddy's in the past.

Now that Ive found Mr Date, I have removed myself from any websites I had a profile on, which was actually just Sugar Daddie.com at the time. I feel he deserves my full attention, so that I can mould and nurture our arrangement into exactly what we both want, and I know that if I give it my all I will be treated very very well.

Some people may think its unwise to 'put all of your eggs in one basket' but I don't see it this way. I know he likes me, and I like him - so everything now is just getting to know one another and putting the time and effort in.

Even if you want to find multiple Sugar Daddy's, you should always put your search on hold while your in this stage of the relationship. You don't want to blow your chances by being pre occupied with thoughts, e-mails, nerves, meetings etc with other men, and in most cases Sugar Daddy will want to be your only one, so you don't want to mix it up for yourself if he senses he is not.

I'm very serious about Mr Date, I genuinely like him and I've decided he is the one I am concentrating on. We had a little handshake and spoke about what we both wanted from our relationship, and now we are at the beginning. I cant wait to see where we go from here....

Love, Baby Bow x

There he was... Part Two!

2009-10-18T03:57:00.001-07:00

There it was.........

A message from Mr Date 'Cant wait to meet you today Beautiful, Il be there at the bar'.

Thank goodness for that, I had finally nailed a date and now I wouldn't let anything stop me. Excitedly I got out of bed, and got myself ready for the date.

I wore skinny dark jeans with a long white vest top, Loubutins and Prada bag. My hair was freshly done from the salon the day before, so I was good to go. I felt a little nervous so I had a baileys coffee :-) Hehehe.

On the way to the date I prepped myself. I do this everyday even if its for no particular reason, I think of all the reasons I am so happy, and all of the things I want for the day. So in this case, it was a seamless journey into London, and a perfect, positive meeting with Mr Date. (If you haven't read 'The Secret' you should...but I could talk about positive thinking for hours so Il maybe post another time about this!)

The driver dropped me off outside of the restaurant, and I hopped out of the car. Little white linen covered tables were dotted outside, paparazzi were hanging around (I'm still not sure who for although I was discreetly looking all through Dinner!) and I could laterally smell the sugar in the air.

I walked into the resturant, taking in scenery and people watching as I went -

And there he was.......

I saw him sat at a table - took a wild guess and popped my bag onto the seat next to him while introducing myself. Luckily, it was him and he looked very friendly and I felt at ease right away.

We ordered some wine, and chatted for a few hours. In between talking we ate some delicious Seafood and Oysters, Steak and Champagne. I liked how easy he was to talk to, although believe me I never stop talking so maybe that was just me! But we laughed, while I offended him a few times in a jokey way, luckily he found this endearing and he warmed to me :-) He complimented me on how I looked, and when I declined another bite of Chocolate dessert as id 'have to spend an extra hour in Pilate's' he lightly patted me on the bum and told me I was perfect. ;-) I wouldn't say that was true, but very sweet indeed!

Half way through dinner we had the 'allowance' chat. Now, I had prepared myself for this and knew exactly what I wanted. I had a feeling as it was quite high he might negotiate down a little, which I was happy for as id over compensated so that we could do! My mind was running over time, thinking stay calm, natural, direct..... when he offers out his hand for a hand shake and comes right out with an amount - which is more than my highest starting point :-) Perfect.

So all in all, we had the perfect date. We agreed to start something, so I am officially his Sugar Baby. Our next meeting is next week, where I am going to a dinner event with him. We are then going shopping the following morning, so I am looking forward to that!

I am very happy that I persevered, I knew that it would work out. Mr Date is kind, attentive, genuine, real, and generous. He will take very good care of me, as I will him. Its time for chapter two.... !

Excited Hugs and Kisses,

Baby Bow x x x

There he was... Part One!

2009-10-16T11:12:00.000-07:00

On the morning of date with the one and only Mr Date, as planned in my last blog entry:

The sound of my alarm fills the room, and I wonder for a few moments what day it is and what I am doing...

Feeling excited and full of butterfly's, I opened my eyes, remembered what day it was, and mentally prepared myself for the day ahead. As I looked over onto the table beside my bed, my blackberry was flashing red, to get my attention...

And there it was -

I sleepily opened the message, and felt my stomach knot as I read the words 'So sorry, I have to cancel tonight.....' It went on, but that was the real part that mattered, and I felt let down and silly that I had planned, prepared for, got excited over, 4 dates which were over before they had even started.

I'm not one to feel sorry for myself, so I went down to the salon where my extensions had arrived. During the 3 hours of bum achingly application, Mr Date had gotten in touch with me. We had a little chat over the phone, where I told him I wasn't a push over, and that I had plenty going on so it really wasn't such an issue if he had no intention of ever meeting, id just have rather known. He gave me the reasons, which I decided were credible and I gave him the benefit of the doubt and believed him - by the end I left the salon with a head full of European prisoners hair fused to my own, and a 5th date, with Mr Date planned.

Now, you may be thinking 4 let downs! 4 excuses! Would you have believed him? Would you have given up? Or would you have given him one last shot, a benefit of the doubt?

I decided to, because I wasn't sure why but I wanted to meet him. From our conversations, I had a feeling we would get along, and I believed he was worth the investment in. The investment of Patience. Now, I'm not saying its always the case - because there are some absolute time wasters around who are not worth your Patience, or even your time. But sometimes you get that feeling, that makes you think it could all be worth it, when you know, you know.... and you have to go with that.

(Also, I felt by now like I had personally invested in meeting Mr date, and I at least wanted that - if only a meeting. I had invested my time, my money on making myself look my best for our dates, work as id moved stuff around to fit, countless text message and phone conversations - many abroad which I get charged a ridiculous amount for, So I felt worth my while to pursue him)

I also belive, like I said in a previous post, that feeling anger and bad feeling towards someone is just like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to get sick. You can always forgive, but just dont forget.

So we had a new plan! The 5th new plan : Drinks at a bar, followed by Dinner at a famous restaurant in London. Following day.

There wasn't much to prepare left seeing as id already prepped every inch of myself. My teeth were whitened already, my skin exfoliated, moisturised, toned, my eyebrows shaped and tinted, my hair highlighted, my nails manicured, my skin hosed down with a spray of St Tropez and every last bit of remaining body hair stripped away. So all there was to do, was have a nice relaxing bath - I used a little face mask for that spa feeling, the face mask was one of those £1 ones you buy in the packaging just for one use! I think there just as good as any others and you can try them all! After I decided to get an early night, for a full and restful sleep.......

The sound of my alarm fills the room, and I wonder for a few moments what day it is and what I am doing....

And there it was............

(Part two tomorrow)

Love and hugs, Baby Bow x x x

First Date Mr Date soon!...

2009-10-14T13:17:00.000-07:00

So the date with Mr date is near approaching, tomorrow night and I'm all, almost, ready.

The tan has been a sprayed, the nails have been frenched, the hair has been highlighted, the eyebrows tinted, waxed, and the extensions are being redone soon. Then il be going to get ready, hopping on that train (first class i think treating myself so I can look at the other SD types and indulge in a glass of wine!!) and il be there.

We are meeting in an upscale hotel, I said il meet him at the bar. I plan on being there earlier than I have said I will be (unfashionably, but I have a theory) The theory is, I don't like that feeling of walking into a bar, worse a busy bar, and just not having a clue who i'm looking for. My eye sight isn't always great at the best of times, so I don't want to be saying hello to every Tom, Dick and Harry!!!

So my idea is get there before, text to say 'oooops got here a bit early' and get myself a drink at the bar so I can relax and when he arrives he will be the one to spot and introduce himself to me. Perfection!

I'm not sure what we are doing after, I think going for dinner and drinks. I'm actually very nervous and I don't know why, I never get nervous ever not for anything else but when it comes to meeting someone like this who I haven't met before I get a butterfly tummy and a little scared to be honest..... eeeeek. But I will be confident, strong and charming!

So, Il take a quick picture before I head out so you fellow Facebook baby's can see my chosen date outfit and my hair!

Oh and i'm loving Chicago Sugar baby's new post - fabulous news and an exciting read. I will soon have a post just as exciting of my own (That's positive thinking right there, I'm into the positive thinking!)

Kisses, Baby Bow xxx

Monday Monday

2009-10-12T08:56:00.000-07:00

Happy Monday everyone, I hope you all have had a sugar filled weekend!

Today, I updated my face-book with pictures of gifts and items I mention in this blog. I don't want it to look like I'm bragging, so I was a bit unsure of whether to do it or not, but seeing as most of you have and people have asked me too its only fun and I thought I would, I just don't want it to come across the wrong way! :-) Il add things to it, and I'm hoping il have plenty to add soon!

I'm hoping that my date comes off this week with Mr Date, I'm meeting him on Thursday evening and I'm looking forward to it. He has been very apologetic and says nothing will stop him meeting me, so I'm taking his word for it. Woke up to a cute good morning message too :-)

I'm feeling pretty confident about it, I think we have been planning to meet now for so long that nerves have been and gone, the only thing I'm worried about it having the allowance conversation face to face, as I'm used to talking about things like that online. I'm going to remain calm, and state exactly what figure I have in my head, and hopefully il get him to say first what he was thinking of, then we can lay our cards out on the table.

So its mission date now. This means that tomorrow I'm getting my nails done, maybe french or a nude shade followed by eyebrows waxed and tinted. Wednesday I'm getting my high lights done, and a sweeping side fringe cut in followed by a spray tan. Thursday I'm getting a new set of extensions put in, before the date. Phew! Thank goodness I am off work for the whole week.

I'm just going to go and eat now, Ive been good all day and I'm going for a run soon so I need to eat before I work out!

Lots of Kisses, Baby Bow xx

Mr Date!.....

2009-10-11T10:02:00.000-07:00

Mr Date, is still dateless. I didn't give a formal introduction to him, so here is a little bit of background for you all. Another fellow sugar baby on here with her own blog sent me his details (I wont mention who because I am not sure if they wanted me to say or not!?) He sounded promising and genuine, and had shown great signs when she met him herself. He appeared very generous and I liked his picture, so I was quite excited at the prospect.

Since then, after a few great phone calls and lots of really, really sweet text messages, we arranged a date. The morning of the date, I got a text canceling. Bummer. Now this is a bummer for a variety of reasons - Reason A: Being stood up is always crap. Reason B: A girl spends a lot of time and £ before a date preparing - this time and £ then feels wasted Reason C: The trust we had in said gentleman and respect then slides a little, with out us really realising or even wanting it to. And personally I had a Reason D: I had just landed from a flight, and was planning on getting ready and going straight there - so I had in fact carried my date outfit and the like half way around the frigging world...

After the first let down I decided that 'these things happen' and to be honest I am a very laid back and easy going baby so reason A, B, C and D didn't put me off too much. After a little more correspondence we decided on another date - the lunch date. Up until the night before it was all planned, restaurant booked, travel arranged, I had done a lot of preening and grooming and I was excited. Next morning - No message or reply to my text, and I'm never one to hound somebody, I have too much dignity for that. So i had to let the lunch date slide.... as I hadn't even been informed of a time, place etc....

Again, I got over reason A, B and C, and after profuse apologies from Mr Date (His phone was in a meeting on silent - I don't know what that has to do with missing a whole date but maybe I'm missing something?!) I set aside some of my time the following week to meet him. Third time lucky?....

This time, I had actually been planning on going away to see a friend who has just had a baby. But, when Mr date suggested this particular day, I didn't want to put yet another barrier in the way of our date. So I didn't make plans, and I left my day fully open for him. I got a phone call each day, and always a text - saying how he was looking forward to seeing me so much, and so on. So, the very day before the date, I text to ask when and where he would like to meet - ZERO response, ZERO apology, ZERO anything.

In a normal sugar dating situation, I would write this off as one of those absolute waste timers, wasting their own time as well as mine. But, I do not understand how this guy could be so full of prospects for one baby, and then be the complete opposite for me... So this keeps me intrigued.

Why would he bother, with the calls, the emails, the text messages, the booked restaurants, the plan making, the effort - If he isn't serious about meeting a sugar baby.

The most annoying was the fact that two days later and I still hadn't received anything. That shows a lack of respect for other peoples time which I deem as very, very rude. As a sugar baby I expect to be kept informed, I even expect to be let down a little, but I never ever expect to be kept in the dark about my own plans. If you make an appointment anywhere in life, you keep it or you cancel it. Simples.

So, I decided to send him a message. I was very kind and sweet, I try to never argue or get mad, its such a waste of energy, feeling mad is like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to get sick from it. In my message I wrote along the lines of 'Mr Date, I sincerely hope you are OK after not hearing from you. I would not have minded if you hadn't wanted to meet me for what ever reason, but not taking the time to cancel, let alone the lack of any apology since, I have found very rude. Its a shame, because I had a good feeling about you and you seemed like a genuine guy.' something like that anyway....

So I got a message back saying that he had a massive phone issue, hadn't been able to get in touch, is very lucky that I text him so he can now get in touch..... This to me smells a little bit like sugar coated bull shit, but I have had a similar issue before so I will give the benefit of the doubt.

So, Bow will get ready for yet another date with Mr date.

Shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice... or three, times ;-) Lets hope it ends there!

Keep you Updated!

Love, Baby Bow x

My Sugar Saturday

2009-10-11T03:56:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, I wake up thinking 'what to do with my Saturday'? I usually find I'm working or away on a weekend, so its always nice to be at home and see what my friends plans are.

I was just laid in bed thinking about the day ahead, when my blackberry buzzed. Open message - Mr Showbiz 'Hey bow, I'm in town just back from America. Would you like lunch today?' So, up I got, jumped into the shower, washed my hair and set it in some big rollers while I got ready. I obviously didn't have time to tan so I have this new St Tropez instant tan that washes off (its so good for UK readers get it in Superdrug for like £15 and use a mitt to apply) so i covered myself in that, gave my self a quick mani, and got dressed.... I wore black leggings, some grey suade platforms from Topshop, a long dark grey vest top with silver studs, a light grey blazer, and my Prada bag - sounds very grey but looks pretty hot :-)

I jumped on the train to where I meet Mr Showbiz, who greeted me with a smile, a hug, and an envelope....this is what he did last time and i never open it while I'm with him.

Next we went to Nobu on Park Lane for lunch, we both had some amazing sashimi and sushi, washed down with Dom Perignon. After lunch I went back to his apartment (I haven't yet been to his house, but I have seen the pictures on facebook and its out of this universe amazing!) But we drove in his Bentley which was gorgeous they are my favorite cars, so classy. I stayed for a few hours, most of the afternoon, then he asked me where I wanted to go next. I said home, because I had some plans with friends to go shopping to the mall that evening.

When I got home, I opened the envelope and there was some allowance - happy shopping evening was ahead! Mr Showbiz always hands me at least a couple of K's when I see him. I know he would be the perfect sugar daddy if he is happy to hand me a few grand as a gift when I do see him, I can imagine the kind of allowance he would provide.

The problem is - Mr Showbiz travels all over for his 'showbusiness', that paired with my traveling all over means I often get these 'Hey Bow, would you like to go for lunch today' texts, but my usual response is ' So sorry I'm in Hong Kong!' and he will be in Florida or somewhere ridiculously far. So when we get together its very, very good, but its few and far between.

I need a sugar daddy who stays put! One who spends his majority of time in one place, and then I can travel and it wont impact on our meetings....

So with my spongdolies, I put in the bank as I am trying to save some £ into an investment. The rest, I decided I want a hair change next month - going to get really long extensions, wavy ones, with a really big fringe - bangs for US baby's - and really blonder than I usually have. So Il use some money towards that too.

Although, saying this I did go shopping and I bought loads of things. An amazing silver chunky Gucci Horsebit Bamboo bracelet I had seen Lauren Conrad in, a few new dresses with awesome sequined shoulder pad details, a few new blazers and jackets as its getting chilly over here in the UK now! And an amazing juicy couture fluffy hat.

So Saturday turned out to be a very sugary day for me, I have more updates but this seems like the longest post in the world so il post that a bit later on!

Have a great Sunday,

Love Always, Baby Bow xx

Blogs I like to read...

2009-10-10T15:07:00.000-07:00

Thank you so much to Chicago Sugar Baby @ http://chicagosugarbaby.blogspot.com for your link and saying my blog is a favorite - so sweet and I love to hear that people read and enjoy my blog, thanks! :-)

So I thought id compile my own little list, to be honest I love all of the blogs I follow and i get so excited to read new posts - for the days I have doing sugarless things, i can read these blogs and get my daily take of sugar! Oh and I cant do those link things....hmmm.

I heart :

Jess Baby @ living the sugar daddy life style http://sugardaddylifestyle.blogspot.com/

This was the first blog I ever came across when I started sugar dating. Id had a sugar daddy for a while, with a great allowance (although I didn't realise I was a 'sugar baby' at the time....note:I just realised of all the posts Ive never actually gone into my past sugar daddy in any detail at all! Il make sure I post that pretty soon!!) and when I read Jess's blog I realised - that's what the term was! And I loved reading her lifestyle and what she would buy and her tips were fabulous. Still love it but a little less posts than before, and we are so all crossing our fingers for her to find Daddy #2!

Chicago Sugar Baby @ http://chicagosugarbaby.blogspot.com/

I love how detailed and real her posts always are, I love Chicago and I like hearing of the places she gets to go to with her potentials, and how detailed her dates are (love hearing how dates went and what people wore etc!) I like how she always has some major contenders on the go and she doesn't settle for any less than she is worth - very important and very cool.

I also love her cute posts about fashion and things she likes to buy, there are always new posts to read and little cliff hangers so I'm intrigued ;-)

Sandie @ Aiming High

I love Sandie's posts about her sugar daddy dates and her potentials, it always makes me smile and she has a cute perspective on things. I like the messages she puts on from dates and e-mails and the detail of her potentail sugar daddy's. I also think she seems interesting aside from the sugar daddy stuff and you can always rely on an update! I HEART UPDATES!

I also enjoy reading Honey Baby's blog - I want more updates, tell us all what happened next and more about your new SD dean :-)

To be honest with you there are not any I hate, or why would I follow them, so by me following them - I heart them too! And I always, always read them for my sugar fix!

I also read a few fashion blogs, Belle De Jours (dairy of a call girl, made into a book now) and a few other random ones that I have come across.

I'm going to post again soon, as i've had an absolute sugar filled to the brim sugary sugar rush of a day!

Sugar Love, Baby Bow x x

How could I improve?

2009-10-08T13:58:00.000-07:00

I'm just at home laid in bed, after a busy week of hard work, eating coco pops and updating myself on all the girls blogs, which I love. I'm so glad to see a few of us are getting closer to what we want, and I just love reading the exciting lead up to it all....

I always like to improve, so i was wondering ... what would make my blog more enjoyable/informative/funny/etc what would you like to see less, or more of? Would you like to see more stuff on facebook, like pictures of gifts, more details?

I was thinking, even if no one ever read my blog id still write it. For me its kind of like a little diary, sometimes my posts are a little random, and by reading it back I kind of learn more... do you feel like that about your blogs also?

I'm feeling a little unsure about my sugar search. I really feel like I have found two major contenders in Mr Showbiz and Mr.... hmmm just realised I haven't named him yet, il call him Mr date for now as I'm still eager to get one!

They are both very real, generous, the sugar grail as Chicago Sugar Baby says :-)and I know they are looking for what I am looking for. With them id get more of an allowance than I ever really thought id possibly get, and that's what I'm aiming for now. Its just getting the ball rolling, seems so hard?

So I may remove my profiles from the sites I'm currently on, for a few reasons. One, as I can concentrate on these two, and be more available for them. I want to get fitter, hotter and harder so I feel my absolute best, which of course will bode very well for them too. If nothing comes I can then go back to the sugar sites, with a new profile, new pictures and a new outlook. You always find when you put up a new profile you get like a million and one thousand messages don't you, and I like starting a new.

So my friends, that is the plan. I'm going to post pictures of my personal 'hotness goal' haha on facebook to spur myself on ;-)

Love from Bow xx

Can the stars be wrong? Is retail therapy always right?

2009-10-02T08:44:00.000-07:00

After a good nights sleep in my own bed, which is always a luxurious feeling, I woke up to feel a little anxious about my lunch date ahead. I had a feeling, right from it being set the night before, that it wasn't going to happen - and that feeling was right.

I hadn't heard much from the gentleman in question - so I decided to call it off myself. I am not living in London at the moment, and traveling down to London just for lunch is one thing... Traveling down to London when your not sure your even meeting anyone just for lunch is entirely another.

So - what can a girl do when she feels a little disappointed? Shop. And Spray Tan.

Remember those Loubutins that Mr NY bought for me, the ones that didn't fit? Well I managed to send them back to netaporter and get a store online receipt which I hadn't yet used - so I bought myself a beautiful new pair of suede 'deva 120' fringed boots by Louboutin. You can see them in the picture, in sand colour. Just gorgeous. They are $1,095, (i love buying in $, it looks loads and then you work it out in £'s and 'feel' like its a bargain!) a little less than the ones Mr NY bought for me. Perfect result.

Talking of Mr NY, I wonder how he is? I really liked him it was such a shame he is so far away, and there wouldn't be enough opportunities to see him for an ongoing arrangement. He was hot, in my eyes anyway, I would have been major attracted to him with or without the sugar, which is always nice!

Then, after the boots (which honestly took me about 2 hours to choose because I couldn't decide) I went and had my eyebrows tinted, and a St Tropez spray tan. How can a girl feel sad with bronzed skin, dark neat eyebrows, and new shoes :-D

To end the afternoon on a better note, I have also made new plans that I hope will stick with the lunch date for a weeks time.

I'm out now with some girlfriends, have a great weekend all...

Love, Baby Bow xx

Its in the stars...

2009-10-01T08:48:00.000-07:00

I have had a busy week so I'm sorry for the lack of updates, but il get right to that now!

This week I have been in South Africa, where I spent a few nights. While I was there, I bumped into the England and Australian cricket teams, who were staying in the same hotel as I was. We managed to hustle a few tickets for the match, and party with the players after in the bar! Lots of fun of course, and it took me a few days to recover. A few of them are pretty hot, but all mostly married and not good SD material!

While I was over there, i got my teeth whitened professionally by my dentist there. Its loads cheaper than the UK/USA and just amazing. My teeth are now really white and clean looking, when the dentist showed me the chart I was actually already number 2 on the whiteness scale already, but now I'm off the chart! I also had a little veneer fitted over a small chip on my front tooth, it hadn't actually bothered me as id had it for years, but when the dentist pointed it out I thought why not! It cost around 1800 rand for it all which is about $235 0r £146 - bargain!

I didn't have my date last night, as my potential pulled out at the last minute. I'm meeting him tomorrow for a lunch date, so hopefully that will go well...

To be honest I was going to cancel it as I feel pretty rushed as I've only just got home, and il be going away again soon... but then I read my horoscope!!

' Give some serious thought to your finances. Solutions to problems link to meetings you plan for Friday'

How strange is that! Loves it, so the lunch date is back on....

I have never had a lunch date before, I always feel better in the evening as I look my best dressed up, and of course its more acceptable to have a few more glasses of wine the later it is!

So I'm planning on having my hair big and wavy, my make up natural, I'm going to get up early and have a st Tropez spray tan before I go to meet him.

I'm going to wear black leggings or black trousers with a cream tunic top I have, its really pretty and it has a lace and black sequin bow design to the front. Il wear it with a long nude coloured cardigan, my Louboutins, and a grey prada bag.

What do you all think? I'm going for a classy look, maybe il take a picture and pop it onto my baby bow facebook profile so that those who are my friends can see. On the subject of facebook, I have had loads of requests from people with pictures but no mention of what blog they have? I am only accepting people who have a SB blog that I read, as I want to remain pretty anonymous :-)

Well I'm off to boxing class now, to try and tone up! Il update again later as there was more I wanted to write...

Loving everyones posts by the way.

Love, Baby Bow xx

Morality...

2009-09-26T14:09:00.000-07:00

I have been thinking tonight, about Morals.

We all set standards for ourselves, in life, in all areas of life... that define what we are afraid, or not afraid to do. We all have a moral that we choose to preach, but this moral is seldom the one that we practise. The moral we practise is usually the one we choose not to be preached.

Should we go on the date with the sugar daddy who is married? Should we let him into our beds, into our thoughts and into our lives. Or should we shun him because he is married, on that basis alone?

Should we enjoy out sugar encounters, if we ourselves have other engagements, other lovers, other boyfriends of our own?

Should we tell a small lie, about our name, where we live, who we are with, where that gift came from?

These are just a few moral issues that creep up on our conscious during sugar dating. Whether you let that put you off, or go ahead, what ever decision is made - that is personal and I think neither is wrong or right.... But everybody has there own morals, and own guides. What is right for one person, is wrong for another. I believe that to pass judgement on someone else, is worse than anything else.

I am not saying we should be immoral, and do bad, unjust, unlawful things. I am not saying you should do something that would place someones life at risk, or your own.

But what I am saying is that I 'put a pin' on certain things, and place them on that sweet notice board in my mind. There they are, a reminder I will never forget, and a guide for me to follow, but not a dictator of my life.

Each circumstance you might find yourself in is entirely different to anyone elses. And therefore how can one rule - for everybody - be right?

What moment might you miss out on when you let it get in the way?

"Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. Aim above morality.Be not simply good; be good for something."
Henry David Thoreau

Dreams...

2009-09-26T12:48:00.000-07:00

I have been in L.A for a few days, I just got back to the UK last night and I'm jet lagged!

In L.A I spent a lot of time relaxing, I went to get my nails done (clear natural gel which I have since painted with a nude glitter, and one corner of my thumb nail fell off already, crappy L.A nail salon :-)

I went shopping a little, bought a few nice things from forever 21 and the little boutiques I love to visit when I'm over there. I enjoyed the sunshine, and then in was time to fly home again.

Ive been thinking about the next year a lot, and I have many plans. I am so full of dreams and aspirations, my ambitions never stop growing. I always want to improve my self, my knowledge. I plan on making as many of my dreams come true over the next year, and I know that i can do it. I also know I cant do all of this in one year, I'm not superwoman, but il give it my best shot!

My to do list 1010:

Learn to fly a light aircraft

Start a degree

Learn Chinese

Have a steady sugar relationship

Live back in London

Many of them are personal goals, not at all sugar related... but I know the sugar dating will help me to get there faster and with ease. And I love it. Plus, I'm kind of bored of being single, I really just want one guy to focus all this attention on right now....

Speaking of Sugar, I have a little date soon. Don't want to update too much but I will update after with good news..............

I have only had one day at home and tomorrow I'm going again to South Africa, I'm going to get my teeth whitened there which I'm looking forward to. Ive been working out lots to look good for my date, and I'm hoping that will add an extra sparkle!

Baby Bow xx

Looking for Apartments... A candy house!

2009-09-18T16:20:00.000-07:00

Hello my sweeties,
I hope everyone is well!
This week I have decided I should move back to London, Ive wanted to do it for a little while now and I'm ready for it I think. I suppose it will be 100000 times easier to date, and see a SD regularly, plus I'm meeting all my potentials there anyway so its the place to be, the sugar capital!

So I've been looking on gum tree and Craig's list and I have two girl friends who want to move too, il keep you updated on that front! While I have been looking Ive been taking a cheeky glance at the 'above my price range' property's, oh how I long to live on the kings road! One day Kings road... one day my friend :-)

Ive also been chatting a little more to Mr Big, who I mentioned in a previous update to my blog. He is living out in NY and spends some time each month in London, well I googled him a little more and he is a major CEO. Good news.
Bad news is he is a little upfront. He wants to fly me out to NY and have me spend some time with him 'seeing how he lives' (It was that or the choice of a week at a beach spa resort) he owns shares in a well known nightclub and wants to take me there for a night out, shopping, etc. Mentions sex pretty often - as all SD's seem to do at the moment...

I mentioned id prefer, if he flew me out, to have my own hotel room booked for piece of mind and in case we don't get on, he seemed pretty shocked at this and told me he was quite offended that I don't respect how honorable he is.

I came to the conclusion - I will fly to NY with work if i can, have one night there in OCT where we can meet for dinner, meaning il have my flights and hotel booked so its better for me and he can remain as stubborn as he likes. Then, if we get along, he can fly me out the following week and I will stay with him once I feel I know him better.
I don't want to blow him out of the water just yet as I think he is major SD material. Big prospective Sugar Daddy.

I have been enjoying reading everyone's blogs, and

http://sugarcookiebaby.blogspot.com/'Sugar is Sweet' I wanted to comment on your last post but somehow it wont let me... so I am here...

I think you should give car guy a try - but tell him exactly what you said to us in your blog. Straight up. If you don't want to say it to his face, email it or text whatever, just say that to him. He will appreciate your honesty - and lets be honest your right on the money there (or not as it may be!) why would you want to spoil him by spending time with him if he A: doesn't spoil you B: wouldn't date you as your 'too young' C: wants to see how 'good the sex is!' first. So what do you gain out of that tediousness - nothing???

Tell him and the worst that can happen is he doesn't take it well, you will have lost nothing but gained time you may have other wise wasted. And then you can tell him bye!

Have a great weekend

Love from Baby bow x

Shopping Courtesy of Mr Showbiz...Allowance

2009-09-16T05:25:00.000-07:00

Hey Everyone!
Ive had such a great weekend, and last few days. Firstly I had to go to China with work which was just amazing, had the best time! After a lot of dim sum and two major long flights I was feeling pretty Jet lagged... and there is one thing that takes that jet lag feeling and replaces it with excitement and butterfly's and sparkles! Shopping!

And it just so happened, that as I landed back I had a cheeky little message from my Mr Showbiz, inviting me to go see him. I told him my plans where to go shopping and invited him along. He would have loved to have come shopping with me, I'm like me too then you can pay! The time wasn't right to take my shopping, so we spent an hour or so together which was nice, he is so lovely. Then at the end, he tells me he is excited to see me again... and hands me a little envelope with some allowance in so I can shop myself which is peerrrrrrrrrrfect!

So for the past few days I have been shop shop shopping. I never thought id say this but I'm shopped out. First I got some new ugg boots, I love being all cosy in them in autumn and winter, so I picked up a gorgeous short grey pair which are just so cute! I picked up a pair for my sister and mother too.
I got myself some new Louboutins, there really cute. High black with the red sole, peep toe, and a red panel at the front which matches the sole...so hot!

Now for the most amazing thing ever, I swear I have that object affection thing where people fall in love with their car and fairground rides, you know that weird object fetish! Well I am absolutely in LOVE with this, its beautiful. Its a Thomas Wylde clutch bag, in cracked black leather, the leather is divine its smells amazing, its so soft! I keep taking it out of its little sleeping bag and looking at it, I'm scared to use it! Its really slouchy and has these Swarovski Chystal skulls ....ahhhhhhhhhh. Its Love.

So I probably should have saved some money, but i like shopping too much. And you know what, the jet lag is so so so over! :-)

kisses, Baby Bow x